Black Women’s Empowerment (c. 2007- ), or BWE for short, is a movement of black female writers and bloggers in North America and Britain that seeks to wake up black women from their narrow, unhappy and dead-end lives of service and loyalty to family, church and the black community and put themselves first for once. They are best known for pushing the idea that marrying white is a more promising road to happiness than marrying black.
The argument goes like this:
Black men often marry outside the race, so why in the world should black women limit themselves to just black men? Especially when in America there are only 70 single black men for every 100 single black women?
Black women are taught to have loyalty to the black community and work to uplift it. But without the help of black men that is a waste of time. Besides, why should black women make sacrifices that black men are not making?
More: White men make better husbands than black men. The numbers show that they are way less likely to divorce you or beat you. They are more likely to be good fathers since more of them had good fathers on which to model themselves. And so on.
Many if not most black men are Damaged Beyond Repair (DBR). No black woman can save them no matter how much of a chance they give them – they will forever be screwed up. Marrying them can only end in tears. Think Ike and Tina Turner or Bobby Brown and Whitney Houston. If nothing else, the huge oversupply of black women allows black men to get away with unacceptable behaviour.
Most successful black men pursue and marry women with white or light skin. Think Thurgood Marshall, Frantz Fanon, Montel Williams, Lionel Richie, James Earl Jones, Quincy Jones, Marvin Gaye, Frederick Douglass, Sidney Poitier, Prince, Russell Simmons, Billy Dee Williams, Dave Chappelle and on and on.
And it gets worse:
The biggest enemy of black women and their happiness is not white racism, as many suppose, but black men. It is black men who beat them, leave them, fail to protect them and defend them, who tear them down in public and in private with a strain of racist misogyny unseen in any other race of man. Think the Swedish racist cake.
- Very few white men marry black women – only one in 400 of those who are married. A quarter of 1%. Not all that promising.
- BWE is driven by internalized racism. Opening up to dating men outside your race is one thing, but if you have to put down men of your own race to do it, something is seriously wrong. I doubt many black women, for example, would feel comfortable dating any man who puts down the women of his own race. He would rightly be seen as someone with Issues who is best avoided. Likewise BWE women. It is Sergeant Willie Pete all over again.
- Some BWE blogs:
- blackfemaleinterracialmarriage.com – Evia Moore
- sojournerspassport.com – Khadija Nassif
- muslimbushido.blogspot.com – Khadija Nassif
- dateawhiteguy.blogspot.com – Halima Sal-Anderson
- whataboutourdaughters.com – Gina McCauley – the least extreme and easiest to take
- tellingblackwomenthetruth.com – good overview
- black love
- internalized racism
- Swedish racist cake
- black women, white men
- black men, white women
- Why so few black men marry black women
- Is the White Goddess blog a satire?