Internalized racism is where you are racist against your own race, even against yourself! It is also called internalized oppression, internal colonization and the colonized mind. If you grow up in America as a person of colour it is hard to avoid: you are told in a thousand and one ways that “white is right” and that you are not – not just from white people, from school and television, but even by people of your own race, maybe even by your own family. You are brainwashed to see yourself like white people do, seeing yourself through the white lens.
Most people of colour know they are just as good as white people, but that has to be believed in the teeth of not just the racist messages that they get all the time but, even worse, those that were laid in their hearts when they were too young to understand. As Kenneth Clark’s doll experiments showed, internalized racism affects even six-year-olds. Most people will believe anything at some level if they hear it enough times. That is how ads on television work.
It can lead to shame, anger, confusion, self-hatred and self-doubt. Studies have shown that black Americans with high degrees of internalized racism are more likely to be violent, get fat, get diabetes, get high blood pressure and have unhappy marriages. That is not to say that it causes those things all by itself, but to point out that it has measurable effects (well, correlations). Internalized racism itself is measured by the degree to which you believe the white stereotypes about your race.
Some stuff that come from internalized racism:
- colourism
- “good hair”
- “acting white”
- skin lightening
- “not being black enough”
- wearing coloured contact lenses
- Black women are ugly and disagreeable
- Black men are no good and undependable
- Life will be better if I act or look more like white people
- That to be black you must act like the black people on television
- That to be black you must have certain interests, tastes and beliefs
Most black people on television are acting out stereotypes. Even – or especially – on BET.
God does not make mistakes. God made you to look a certain way and gave you certain gifts to use in the course of your life. There is absolutely nothing wrong with any of it. Nothing. It is only narrow-minded, brainwashed people who want you to believe otherwise. Who want to make you think your eyes or nose or hair or lips or skin colour are no good, that there is something wrong with them. Who laugh at your interests and things you want to do because they do not “fit” your race and sex. Who think there is something wrong with you for just being you.
Internalized racism is partly why these statements are wrong:
- “I have a black friend who says….”
- racism = prejudice + power
And why this one is necessary:
- “Black is beautiful”
See also:
- growing up Nezua
- The Wigger Fallacy
- the white lens
- blacks are racist – mainly against themselves
- affected statements:
- internalized racism in action:
- acceptable blackness
- Writers:
Abagond 
I saw this coming, and you chose the perfect images for it! Pro-Whiteness permeates everything in America and its the elephant in the room nobody wants to talk about today, just be happy with tokenism and “aspire” to be mainstream (white) and all will be well. Most times its subtle but still overwhelming and cancerous. I know colorism is pretty much everywhere to some degree but there are places where being Black isn’t like an albatross around your neck. For this reason, come baby time, we’re relocating.
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Beautiful Abagond!
Could you please do a series on the state of black marriage in this country…what are your thoughts about it.
Im a 22 yo black woman who is starting to look outside my race.
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co-sign Abagond. I just wish Sammy would’ve loved his skin complexion more. It was beautiful and he was quite handsome with in his own skin.
Gen said:
I saw this coming, and you chose the perfect images for it! Pro-Whiteness permeates everything in America and its the elephant in the room nobody wants to talk about today, just be happy with tokenism and “aspire” to be mainstream (white) and all will be well. Most times its subtle but still overwhelming and cancerous. I know colorism is pretty much everywhere to some degree but there are places where being Black isn’t like an albatross around your neck. For this reason, come baby time, we’re relocating.
Gen, the colorism conversation gets shut down faster than a racism conversation. I wish people of color can discuss colorism in a more progressive angle and not “the color-blind it should’nt matter” bs. I mean it’s quite apparent that it should not matter. However, many people of color have not been honest and are in denial of the issue. I have never suffered under colorism, however, I have witnessed others who have and its not cool at all.
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Dani,
I agree. Colorism amongst non-blacks needs to be explored more. It seems more prevelant in non-black cultures, yet it’s existence is rarely acknowledged.
You thought Sosa was handsome? Wow, beauty truly is subjective! LOL.
Wait, let me stop, I’ll get an computer-lashing for not praising a celebrity! I already saw what happened when I revealed some unflattering truths about a certain saintly goddess of cinema! LOL.
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As a woman of Black,Puerto Rican, Jamaican, and Dominican descent it breaks my heart to see that there are so many Black Latinos like Sammy Sosa who still lighten their skin, relax their hair, and deny their blackness. I consider myself a Black Latina, my mom is Black American and my dad is Caribbean. My skin is milk chocolate, my hair is kinky, I have high cheekbones,almond eyes, and a delicate nose. When I would visit some of my racist ligther Dominican/Puerto Rican relatives(including my dad) would make me put a clothes pin on my nose,they would try to wash me with lye soap to make me lighter,and told me that I have “malo pelo” which is bad hair. They would make me feel like I was worthless and I remember my dad told me that I’m too dark for a man to ever love me(he is shades darker than me). I believed these things for a while, I begged my mom to relax my hair but she didn’t let me and I had went to one of my cousins. The relaxer damaged my hair I had cut it off when I was 16 and I’m 19 and I never looked back. I’m natural. I’m glad that my Black American mother gave me the confidence and keep me away from my self-hating relatives. I would never change my skin/hair for anyone. I think I’m beautiful.
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@ mynameismyname
LMAO! I DID think he was handsome at one point. Sammy is not fine but he is handsome. Some people think it is the same but I don’t. I think Barack Obama is handsome but not fine lol. I liked Sammmy in his earlier career days when he would struggle with speaking English because of his thick accent. I thought it was cute and I liked how he would try to be optimisitc. After awhile, he started to deny his blackness by word of mouth way before he started bleaching. This bleaching crap was a way for him to seal the deal on his internalized oppression.
@ Miss Carribean
I’m very sorry to hear the issues you suffered for your color and your hair. I noticed that hair texture is sometimes synonymous to colorism. I’m very proud of your transpiring your problems with colorism.
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To Dani:
I think most people have just gotten used to the white is right idea, and I think it’s even harder to heal those wounds now with an all powerful and ever present media machine shoving these messages down the throat of the entire world. Letting others do your thinking for you isn’t in your best interest. People get really combative when you bring up natural hair or skin tone preferences so for the most part I leave it alone and do me. I will be honest though, since moving to the U.S, the idea that dark skin makes someone unattractive (especially women) and even invisible is something that I wasn’t used to and will never get used to, it’s just ridiculous. And yes I agree, Sammy was good looking, now he just looks like a Bizarro Al Jolson.
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@Miss Caribbean
My heart goes out to you. I’m also an afro latino/carribean. This type of ignorance amongst Black Dominicans, Puerto Ricans and Cubans (well not so much) needs to stop, It’s destroying us.
Btw I am of Jamaican, Dominican and Haitian (Haitians are latinos, look it up!) descent!
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Miss Caribbean:
I am glad your mother had some sense!!
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It’s horrble to see internalized racism in celebrities
What I noticed is all the silly excuses that Sammy gave for his change of appearence and the excuses that some people made for him. He said tha he wanted “soften his skin” and I swear skin bleaching cream dosen’t soften it, if he wanted soft skin he should have used coco butter like everyone else.
Not only that people were trying to defend him a lot saying he might be sick becasue of some drugs and how he probably has vitilgo
Which is false he clearly had surgery and bleached his skin just like Lil Kim.
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Sammy Sosa looks sickly now. I remember reading an article about a friend of Sammy’s defending him. And I quote:
“He’s not trying to be Michael Jackson,” He is going through a rejuvenation process for his skin. Women have it all of the time. He was surprised he came out looking so white. I thought it was a body double. Part of [the photo appearance] is just the lighting.”
“He is in the middle of doing a cleansing process to his skin. The picture is deceiving. He said, ‘If you saw me in person, you would be surprised. When you see me in person, it is not going to seem like the picture,’” she said. “People who saw him in person did not react the same way. He can’t believe it is such a big deal.”
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Please, are the three guys in the picture above one and the same person?just curious and wanted to know.
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All three are the same person – Sammy Sosa, who has lightened his skin.
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the white man has succeded in destroying mankind , especially people of african descent.before slavery african people had their internal struggles just like other people out there in the world.white peoples contact with african people has been largely problematic and fraught with strife.african people world wide must recognize this problem and try to curb the effect of racism by forming tight knit communities were every child is loved unconditionaly regardless of their skin tone
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i believe african(loose term)should and must define beauty by their own standard.in my lifetime i,ve seen people with dark skin and point features who were very attractive e.g nona gaye, naomi campbell and very beautiful women with very african features like anika noni rose,amber efe etc.im appealing to all africans to resist racism and with all of its accompanying burdens and baggage.trust only GOD even if you cannot see him. only YAH can give you peace of mind in this troubled world.
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the broad nosed dark skinned michael jackson was way better looking than the latter,and this brother above looked better with his dark skin.GOD never makes mistakes we are created and born how we should be. man has erred every race is unique and everyone has something to offer only if we can look beyond our petty prejudices. djimon housou is handsome so is brad pitt,derek luke,chris brown, leonardo dicaprio and so many others every race has something no race is special.
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I just wanted to say that I absolutely love this:
God does not make mistakes. God made you to look a certain way and gave you certain gifts to use in the course of your life. There is absolutely nothing wrong with any of it. Nothing. It is only white people and narrow-minded, brainwashed people of colour who want you to believe otherwise. Who want to make you think your eyes or nose or hair or lips or skin colour are no good, that there is something wrong with them. Who laugh at your interests and things you want to do because they do not “fit” your race and sex. Who think there is something wrong with you for just being you.
This completely touched me because it is something that I had to deal with growing up. I was never black enough because I was smart and spoke proper English and I wasn’t white enough, because, well, hey, I’m black. My interest in swimming is crazy because black people don’t like water…even though I’m from Florida. Even the way I cheered was criticized. Why did I have to be on a white cheerleading squad? Shouldn’t I be on the step team?? In fact, the school guidance counselor in high school tried to put me on the step team although I had been a cheerleader for 6 or 7 years at that point. I was also called Bubba in middle school for having big lips. Anyway, I’ll stop rambling. I just wanted you to know how touching that part was to me. I absolutely love your blog.
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abagond.
Most of us grow up in an institutionally racist society, most of it is passively absorbed as ‘the norm’
Internalised racism explains not just sammy sosa, but also black police officers joining in on racially motivated beatings and police crimes.
There’ve been numerous cases where a bunch of police officers have assaulted regular citizens and amongst them has been a black officer.
Some of it is ‘group think’ and some of it is internalised racism. I believe there is an intersectionality that we don’t examine.
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@ Soul
that is so true about the police in the Uk the metropolitan police is a very hostile and racist institution to work in.
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I really like this post… I have experienced the same thing my entire life. From my own family; especially about my hair and my skin color. I’ve also been told that I’m not black because of my ideas and interests. I’m not black for not knowing the color purple line for line, or being able to reenact scenes from good times. I like to read books, and I am interested in science. Last year I decided to stop relaxing my hair because it just wouldn’t take a relaxer any more then they said I was trying to be African! So some days I’m not black enough and other days I am too black..why can’t I just be me? I really love the way I am even if no one understands me I love my hair and my books I am used to being laughed at anyhoo so it hardly hurts anymore. Sometimes when it gets a little bad I always remember Genesis 1:31 And God saw every thing that he had made, and, behold, it was very good.
God made me and I am very good!
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I’m South African, as close to pure African as you can get.As much as I’m around white people i don’t understand this internalized racism you all are talking about.
I’ve never known anyone in my entire life who bleached their skin, its a foreign concept to me.Maybe those are predominantly West African/West Indian/African American traits. But then again i come from a stock of people that resisted the British and Dutch influence. Again I’ve never heard anyone I know of having insecurities about their dark skin. How different my own experiences have been.
I live in the UK too, London to be precise, in lily white SW London, not once do i look at my white friends and take on the envy to be like them.Yes I flat iron my natural Tswana hair,it’s certainly not stemmed in any form of self hatred.
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@soul:
You are absolutely right in regards to this intersectionality between internalized racism and black police officers and law enforcement in general. I can assure you that there is a group think and woe betide to any black law enforcement person who goes against it!
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I live in the DC and I’m seeing a lot of young Black women around my age with these ridiculous-looking colored contacts. I’ve seen a chick on the metro who was the same complexion as Alek Wek with icey blue contacts. SMDH! I will never understand the hype about blue, green, hazel, or any other light colored eyes. I love my brown eyes.
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@herneith…
that’s the thing. I don’t even think many even have the gumption to go against it. I tis soo ingrained, so insidious, so ‘the norm’.
It’s similar to when a fmous person does something racist and before they even have time to form a defense a black friend of theirs, will defend them even to the death stating ‘that person is not racist I have lunch with them’. No it must be those blacks who ‘did’ something…
Growing up in this society one has to actually sometimes, work hard to break down inbuilt stereotypes about ourselves which we also trade on.
It’s soo damn infectuous
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@Soul
“It must be those blacks who did something”
Yesh! The whole “they made me say something racist” crap.
Addicted to race had a podcast episode about a woman who claimed that she is turning into a racist becasue of the black and brown people
http://loveisntenough.com/2007/07/10/addicted-to-race-74-help-im-turning-into-a-racist/
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1. he looks creepy…its just weird how products can do that.
2. he actually looks younger from the products…
3. i have no opinion on people who either tan their skin (white people) or lighten their skin brighter (minorities). i don’t know their situation in life in which one has to do that so i am not going to judge them. all i feel is that its pointless to rag on people who do do those things, instead it seems better to combat the real problem which is the fact that we live in a society where people feel they have to do those kinds of things because of how they are treated. how to fix that problem is the million dollar question cause every race would have to make some changes…
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I’m tired of bp blaming everything on white america. As a bw the reason why I dont like black people sometimes is because of the way a large # of bp act. My feelings towards my race has nothing to do with what White America says and everything to do with too high a number of bp acting foolishly in every aspect of life. Call it self hate if you want.
There are bp individually that I like, but as a race…not so much. We have work to do.
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He claims he used stuff to soften his skin and not to look white, yeah right. I guess everyone who wants their skin softer gets light eye contacts put in too.
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alicia keys was LIGHTER when she first came out, and few years later she had tan.
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I didn’t know Sosa had bleached his skin until coming across this article. He now looks like he’s wearing lipstick! Something definitely looks more feminine about him now.
My gut reaction is think it’s quite pathetic. But then I think is his skin bleaching any worst than the fact that most black women straighten their hair? They are both trying to get the same result, which is to look a bit less black. It’s interesting how chemically changing the skin to look white is now unacceptable, but chemically changing the hair(both in color and texture) to look like a white person’s is.
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Thanks for writing this blog. I try my hardest not to give in to the white racial frame that has programmed me since day one. It wasn’t until a couple of years ago that I started to research heavily in the process of deprogramming myself. Although I will always struggle to “break free” from this “program”, I will not succumb to the darkness white supremacy has created.
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Here’s a case for internalized racism. She’s Dawn Yang. A Singaporean blogger known for her extensive plastic surgeries. She has maintained she did NOT have her face done. What do you think?
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@leigh204,
It’s amazing that even people living in non-white countries feel the need to do that sort of thing.
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@FG:
Yes, the internalized racism can be seen pretty much everywhere around the world.
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Dawn Yang has undergone quite the plastic surgery progression throughout the years. She looks so different.
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leigh204,
Oh my God! What the hell is wrong with this poor woman?
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@Ankhesen Mié:
I’ve been wondering the same thing. It’s scary, isn’t it? She’s gone from Asian to a straight up “white” girl.
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Pretty soon, her belly button will be where her nose was, LOL
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Hahahahaha! Oh, Herneith. You crack me up! 😀
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leigh204,
And what is with her “Michael Jackson” routine? She actually denies she’s had ish done?
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@Ankhesen Mié:
Yes, she mentioned she didn’t have any plastic surgery at all. The people who knew her in her younger days outed her and called her a liar. They even posted pics of her when she was younger.
http://www.shun2u.com/2008/05/dawn-yang-before-after.html
http://czariflores.blogspot.com/2007/12/dawn-yang-famous-blogger-because-of-her.html
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She has a perpetual bemused look on her face. Internalized racism at its best!
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She did a lot of facial surgeries. She looks so plastic it’s not even funny.
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Here’s another young woman who wanted plastic surgery to look like Jessica Alba! Her reason? Her ex-bf was obsessed over Jessica, and she wanted to get him back.
http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/people/jessica-albas-doppelganger-distress-20100208-nlk3.html?comments=62
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@ Leigh204:
interesting that you mention Dawn Yang. Have you seen her fellow Singaporean blogger XiaXue?
and her photo pre-plastic surgery:
Granted, she wasn’t necessarily the greatest looking person before, but now she looks like an alien disguised as a white person.
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Have these Asian girls admitted that they want to look more white? They still look Asian to me, but it is very sad about the one wanting to look like Jessica Alba because of her boyfriend. What kind of man would pressure his woman into getting plastic surgery?! Very sad indeed.
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@Eurasian Sensation:
Yeah, I thought of Xiaxue aka Wedny Cheng, too. She had a nosejob. It’s scary how much they’ve changed facially particularly Dawn Yang.
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@Ó Dochartaigh:
These young women haven’t come outright and say they wanted to look more white. However, can you honestly look at these pics and say otherwise?
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Leigh
Well I don’t know, they definitely look more Japanese/Korean. I honestly don’t know what the fashion industry is like in Asia, but a few of them look like they are trying to look Japanese. You know more about this than I do so I will take your word for it.
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I was actually really pissed about the Jessica Alba story, when I heard it for the first time. She must not have much self respect, and I can’t even begin to describe how big of a loser her boyfriend must be.
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Her former boyfriend is a moron and so is she. If I had a man tell me I should have plastic surgery to look like so-and-so, I’d tell him to take a flying leap, but with not-so-nice words.
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@Ó Dochartaigh:
“Have these Asian girls admitted that they want to look more white?”
I think one of the things about internalized racism is that most people who suffer from it are unlikely to admit that they are trying to look like some other race, or that they are ashamed of what they are.
This might be because they do not admit it to themselves – perhaps they are completely brainwashed by societal beauty myths – or they are embarassed about copping to it.
Personally, I struggled with internalized racism as a teenager – I really despised my nose, which is broad with big nostrils (courtesy of my Indonesian side). I wanted a thin nose like all the (white) guys I saw who were considered good looking at the time.
It was actually not until I got into hip-hop culture in my late teens that I noticed that there were plenty of guys with broad noses and fat lips like mine who were considered both cool and good-looking.
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@Eurasian Sensation:
I can relate with you. In my younger years, I was made fun of due to my eyes and it made me feel badly about myself so much so I even wanted to have eyelid surgery. I told my mother what I wanted to do and she expressed her disapproval. She said my eyes were fine and I didn’t need it (surgery). She went on to say the ones with the problem were those people making fun of my eyes and not me. I’m so glad my mother set me straight.
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Leigh,
I’m glad you didn’t get eyelid surgery! I saw some reality show with girls getting the creases, and I was traumatized. It looked like they’d been punched in the eye afterward, and even the final result was just puffy–not attractive.
Unfortunately, minority kids in environments made up predominantly of people of their own race still take out that internalized racism on each other. When I was young, kids usually got made fun of for being dark-skinned (and “ashy”, as if other people can’t be ashy too) and having big lips. Those attitudes are learned (and reinforced) at such a young age.
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Eurasian Sensation
“I think one of the things about internalized racism is that most people who suffer from it are unlikely to admit that they are trying to look like some other race, or that they are ashamed of what they are.”
So white girls who constantly go to the tanning salon, get lip injections, and butt injections, are they suffering from internalized racism? Or what about Asian men that dress like thugs and talk like their from the ghetto, even though they have probably never even been in one? Are they suffering from internalized racism as well?
Your screen name is awesome btw!
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@ Leigh:
If I had a man tell me I should have plastic surgery to look like so-and-so, I’d tell him to take a flying leap, but with not-so-nice words.
Tell them to take a flying leap off the nearest cliff! Hahahaha! If they don’t understand that then perhaps stronger words should be called for!
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@Jasmin:
I kid you not when I’m saying the Asian girls who get eyelid surgery, it’s practically a rite of passage
I agree. Why my own sister was teased relentlessly as a child by relatives for having a very flat nose and deeply tanned skin. She grew into her features. And look at her now. She’s absolutely gorgeous!
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@Herneith:
@ Leigh:
If I had a man tell me I should have plastic surgery to look like so-and-so, I’d tell him to take a flying leap, but with not-so-nice words.
That’s why I mentioned I would say it with not-so-nice words. 😉
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I forgot to add she was beautiful to begin with and became more beautiful (if that was even possible) when she grew up.
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@ Ó Dochartaigh:
“So white girls who constantly go to the tanning salon, get lip injections, and butt injections, are they suffering from internalized racism? Or what about Asian men that dress like thugs and talk like their from the ghetto, even though they have probably never even been in one? Are they suffering from internalized racism as well?”
Hard me to comment on what white girls do because I’m not one. Maybe they are. Regarding Asian men acting “ghetto”, that’s funny for me, because I’ll cop to that – like many places in the world, hip-hop culture is big where I live, particularly with ethnic minorities. And I’ve certainly absorbed some of those ways of speech, dress and acting, although I’m the last person anyone would call a thug. I mentioned in my earlier comment about how my contact with Af-Am culture (with brown people remaining proud and cool amidst a white mainstream) actually allowed me to embrace the non-white side of my self.
I guess one of the things to consider is how being a minority, particularly a disempowered one, can impact on whether it is internalized racism or not.
Non-white people living in a society dominated by white people, are often subject to relentless conditioning about how white people are more beautiful/intelligent/whatever. Thus many come to despise parts of who they are. (Granted, this has changed a lot in the last couple of decades.)
I’m not sure if this situation is the same with white girls wanting to have thicker lips and bigger butts.
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To Eurasian
“Non-white people living in a society dominated by white people, are often subject to relentless conditioning about how white people are more beautiful/intelligent/whatever. Thus many come to despise parts of who they are.”
I can understand this, and it is obvious that there is a lot of pressure from the majority to act like the majority even if your not.
I have a hypothesis as to why white people act like a minority, I think it has a lot to do with guilt, feeling guilty for what their race has done to minorities. Also self hate, and trying to get attention from other white people. It is hard to say, I’m sure it has a lot to do with their environment.
I will be honest though it really throws me for a loop when I see a Asian person acting ghetto, urban, or whatever you want to call it. I know your not American, but do Asians have a cutler in white countries that is not white or black? Do Asian-Americans have a culture or lifestyle that is their own?
Maybe Leigh can comment on this as well.
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OD,
I’m not going to lie, that was a dumb-a** question right there. I hope no one dignifies it with an answer.
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No question is a dumb question, especially because I don’t personally know any Asian people, and it is not something you see on T.V. or in music, Asian people don’t seem to have that.
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I agree, I do not anyone to think that a question is too dumb to ask – so long as they are serious about it and not just being some kind of troll.
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Jasmin, I have to put my two cents worth. The old saying “Ignorance is bliss” is not applicable here. I have to set him straight.
I’m not exactly sure what you meant by culture or lifestyle, but here’s what I’m familiar with. Here, in certain parts of Canada and in different places of the US, there is a huge subculture among Asian-Americans known as the Import Scene. There are other names for it as well. The Import Scene is pretty much about modifying imported Japanese cars so it can go much faster when street racing. There are also sexy models called import models and they help sell products, brands, services, etc. Here’s a link so you can get an idea of what I’m talking about.
http://www.importtuner.com/index.html
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I don’t think Ó Dochartaigh’s question is dumb at all. I went to a high school where over half of the students were of Asian descent. I noticed the East Asians generally assimilate into middle class white culture (a few into “hip-hop” culture). They shopped at Abercrombie and American Eagle, listened to trendy pop music, and generally ignored or shunned anything that might be seen as too ethnically Asian.
However, the Southeast Asians like the Vietnamese and Cambodians, had a separate culture. They would speak their languages to each other in classes or on the train (which East Asians tended to avoid, unless they were talking about someone and they didn’t want them to know), listened to artists from their countries, had a different style of make-up and hair dressing. Some were into the hip-hop culture; usually the males. But they seemed to enjoy having a unique identity and would gladly share things about their culture.
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@ Ó Dochartaigh:
At first read I thought it was a dumb question too, but on reflection, I take that back. We all come from different backgrounds and experiences here, so I’m glad you were willing to ask rather than assume, as many would do.
Asian-Americans, Asian-Australians, and Asian-whatever elses do have a distinct cultural experience. But it’s tricky to define, for a few reasons:
1. Asia is a big place and very diverse. The Cambodian-American experience could be entirely different from the Korean-American experience.
2. Asians born in a Western country tend to be quite different from those who are sometimes labelled FOBs (fresh off the boat). There is a whole spectrum of exposure to the cultures of their ancestral country and the country of their residence.
3. Some Asians end up in the West as refugees (typically
Cambodians, Vietnamese, Burmese). Others come as students or economic migrants (Japanese, Chinese, Malaysians, etc). Their experience can be very different; the latter group tends to perform better in many social indicators, for reasons I’m sure you’d understand.
Asians who grow up in the West can be very Asian in some aspects, but very un-Asian in others. Hopefully we take the best from both worlds!
Natasha W’s comment above is a good example of how these dynamics can play out, but I should point out that she describes HER high school; go to another school somewhere else, and those dynamics might be very different.
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@Eurasian Sensation:
I agree. For example, I attended a high school where it was mostly white. There was not a lot of Asians there or POC for that matter. And the few Asians of different ethnicities I came in contact with, we stuck together. We shopped at the same stores, listened to the same music, frequented popular hangouts, etc. Only after I left high school, did the high school dynamics change and there were way more POC than had been in the past.
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Here’s what I read: “Do Asian Americans do anything other than imitate White or Black people?”, a question that makes the following assumptions.
1) “White” culture and “Black” culture are monolithic …
2) … and the only ones that exist …
3) … and an Asian person who acts in any ways that fit with this culture can’t just be being himself–he must be imitating the locals! Perpetual foreigner much?
OD, given that you managed to find, comment, and use HTML on a blog, I would bet a) you know how to use Google and b) you realize there’s more to life than what you see on TV.
But generally, I don’t like to play the “teach White people about minorities game”–I have a problem with the ignorant White learner/wise minority teacher dichotomy. My response: go read a d*mn book, then we’ll talk.
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EurasianSensation,
Natasha W’s comment above is a good example of how these dynamics can play out, but I should point out that she describes HER high school; go to another school somewhere else, and those dynamics might be very different.
Yes, that’s true. I should also add these were mainly second-generation immigrants. It’s probably different for those who were born in Asian countries or those whose families have been in the US longer.
leigh,
And the few Asians of different ethnicities I came in contact with, we stuck together. We shopped at the same stores, listened to the same music, frequented popular hangouts, etc.
Yes, that’s how the Southeast Asians that I knew were. They were very close knit.
Jasmin,
Here’s what I read: “Do Asian Americans do anything other than imitate White or Black people?”
I do see how it could have been read that way and how the question might have come off offensively.
But generally, I don’t like to play the “teach White people about minorities game”–I have a problem with the ignorant White learner/wise minority teacher dichotomy
That is always an interesting dynamic, isn’t it? But I generally try not to take things offensively if the person seems genuinely interested and isn’t pigeonholing too much. Some people like to learn from others’ experiences and opinions rather than what’s written in books.
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Thanks you guy/gals! Leigh I guess I have seen the import scene before and just didn’t know what it was, I realize now why some people call them rice burners, another racist term I didn’t know about. I didn’t mean to offend anybody, but it so much nicer hearing someones opinion than using Google, as Jasmin said. Also I think Asian people should have a subculture, I just had never really seen it before. If we were all the same and everybody tried to act middle class white, it would be a very boring world.
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Hip hop being picked up around the world is something that has repeated itself since the Cake Walk, into the Charlston, into the Lindy Hop, with the jazz music that went with it, blues into rock and roll of Chuck Berry and Little Richard, into rhtytm and blues and funk , into disco , into hip hop….
Black American culture has been an extremly powerful world affecting force for the last 100 plus years.
It is not surprising that kids from anywhere in the world or in the USA take to it and want to assimulate into it.
I dont think that means they regect their own culture outright , but sometimes maybe.
But black American culture is very powerful.
And , I think everyone goes through phases of not being comfortable with how they look.
It takes a while for someone to be really at ease with who they are and how they look.
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B.R.
I think a lot of times POC and white people both get bored with their culture, and want something new and different and is not necessarily internalized racism. If a black person is proud of their skin color but likes white culture more, I don’t see anything wrong with that. As long as they don’t hate themselves for being black. Any thoughts?
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Natasha,
With people who actually know me (or want to know me, rather than take a magical ride through Black people land) there’s no problem. But many people (unconsciously or not) take a voyeuristic approach to getting to know minorities: asking questions (and seeing how “they” do) is fine, but actually associating with one? Hell no! There’s a fine line between treating minorities like a safari adventure and seeking one out just to get “street cred”. I find many people don’t really know how to straddle it.
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If a black person is proud of their skin color but likes white culture more, I don’t see anything wrong with that.
What exactly is white culture? What does this white culture consist of?
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Leaveumthinking
Have you ever seen a black cowboy? How about a black hillbilly? I have seen black people like this, they will go to bluegrass festivals and basically be the only black person there. But I think it is fine to see black folk embrace mountain culture, I don’t think it is self hating either as long as they are proud of being black and don’t wish to be white.
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Jasmin
“But many people (unconsciously or not) take a voyeuristic approach to getting to know minorities: asking questions (and seeing how “they” do) is fine, but actually associating with one? Hell no! There’s a fine line between treating minorities like a safari adventure and seeking one out just to get “street cred”.
I have an Aunt who is black, two cousins who are black, and two more cousins on the other side of my family who are half black. So I certainly don’t treat black folk like a “Safari Adventure” to get my “street cred,” they are my family for gods sake. I’m from the country so I don’t need “street cred” anyhow.
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@O’ Dochartaigh
Black cowboys do exist. They are primarily in Texas. Just wanted to throw that out there in response to your post.
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colorofluv
As they should, that was my point. What is even more rare is a black man on a tractor with a flannel shirt, john deer hat, and a big ol dip of Copenhagen in his lip. I have a neighbor like that. So I try not to generalize POC.
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understood…
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O Dochartaigh
Yes Ive heard of black cowboys. In Texas I know of quite a few blacks who own their own horses, go on trail rides, cookouts, and festivals if thats the same thing your talking about. And no I dont think its self hate.
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“Hip hop being picked up around the world is something that has repeated itself since the Cake Walk, into the Charlston, into the Lindy Hop, with the jazz music that went with it, blues into rock and roll of Chuck Berry and Little Richard, into rhtytm and blues and funk , into disco , into hip hop….”
“Hip hop” culture is a rather hazardous export, if I must say.
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How about this guy? He’s part of a South Korean R&B duo and he looks quite different now.
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OD,
Who said I was talking about you? And why do you feel the need to defend yourself against a general statement?
I think the road Leaveumthinking is going down (correct me if I’m wrong) is that more White people doing something than Black people doesn’t make that part of “White culture”. Aren’t hillbillies part of “hillbilly culture”? And cowboys part of “Western/Southern/Texan” culture? Being White isn’t a prerequisite to being an “authentic” (whatever that means) part of those groups, so I don’t see them as “White culture” with any non-White person who takes part in them being an imitator. Just like I don’t think “Black culture” is made up of just Blacks (so it’s not really “Black, but I think you get the point).
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Jasmin said:I think the road Leaveumthinking is going down (correct me if I’m wrong) is that more White people doing something than Black people doesn’t make that part of “White culture”. Aren’t hillbillies part of “hillbilly culture”? And cowboys part of “Western/Southern/Texan” culture? Being White isn’t a prerequisite to being an “authentic” (whatever that means) part of those groups, so I don’t see them as “White culture” with any non-White person who takes part in them being an imitator. Just like I don’t think “Black culture” is made up of just Blacks (so it’s not really “Black”….”
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I agree, being a certain color shouldn’t be a prerequisite to participate in mainstream cultures or its subcultures and no one should be thought of as being an imitator for partaking in different cultural influences.
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I’m a black cowgirl who likes country and bluegrass music.
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When I say black American culture, I mean the culture that black Americans innovated .
Sure, up and down , white people latched on to this cultural expresion and produced great expresionists also.
Absolutly nothing wrong with that, but when these white artists, some pretty mediocre, came into the picture, they had the record companies and hollywood studios and media behind them and the financial rewards went mostly to these white artists, of course with some exceptions.
Jazz is a great example. It had been around a while before the record companies recorded the first jazz disc. and it was a white band. And one of their members said blacks had nothing to do with jazz. Jazz is a music that comes from black culture in America, with many influences, including European harmony.
Talk about bold face lies by those white jazz players that got the first recording contract , that just started a trend that goes on into today. The great records back then were made by Loius Armstrong, and every one from Frank Sinatra, Tony Bennet, Billie Holiday and Bing Crosby and the rest, got their swinging singing style from Louis.
And who could deny that people like Fred Astair and Ginger Rogers didnt totaly represent cutting edge white hipness of America in the 30’s?Yet with very little success for the great black tap dancers that influenced him and were in great abundance and talent at that time. Tap , a black American cultural innovation, was a world wide dance craze, and huge in America . Fred sure knew where he got it from , doing tributes to the great black tap dancers.But the media regulated great black talent to a small space on the horizon of American culture
Hip hop not relavent? I was in New York when hip hop was being invented, and it was break dancing at first, and , break dancing is one of the most exiting volitable, visceral dances around. I work with break dancers now and it is one beautiful thing, you would have to trot out the passistas dancing samba for me to shift my attention away from some great break dancing and hitting beats.
To answer your question, O, is it internalised racism for white people to cop black culture in music and dance and then reap the comercial success for it? Im not sure, but, it is some kind of racism. The biggest problem is that white people wont really ackowledge it in a big way. Its like being in denial.Its kind of a microcosm of the problem with white racism in general.
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I think the road Leaveumthinking is going down (correct me if I’m wrong) is that more White people doing something than Black people doesn’t make that part of “White culture”. Aren’t hillbillies part of “hillbilly culture”? And cowboys part of “Western/Southern/Texan” culture? Being White isn’t a prerequisite to being an “authentic” (whatever that means) part of those groups, so I don’t see them as “White culture” with any non-White person who takes part in them being an imitator. Just like I don’t think “Black culture” is made up of just Blacks (so it’s not really “Black, but I think you get the point).
Exactly Jasmin. Nothing else to add here.
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Jasmin
“Who said I was talking about you”?
Because your last two comments were directed to me and how “dumb a**” my questions are.
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Then I guess your real name is “many people”?
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My pet hates of internalized racism:
1. Black Dominicans denying their black heritage.
2. Black Men dissing Black Women.
3. Black Women dissing Black Men.
4. Light Skinned vs Dark Skinned.
5. Good Hair vs Bad Hair.
6. East Asians vs South East Asians.
7. People wanting to change their race (cough Sammy Sosa!)
I’m sure there’s more!
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Vindicator I agree
@ Abagond how about posts covering these topics that you have not covered yet concerning internal racism.
1. Black Dominicans denying their black heritage.
2. Black Men dissing Black Women.
3. Black Women dissing Black Men
6. East Asians vs South East Asians.
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I second that, Leaveumthinking!
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Do darker Dominicans deny their African ancestry (which would be difficult for them to do in many cases) or do they reject race-based (as opposed to culture-based) identity? Those are two very different things.
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I could never do anything like this to myself; I don’t care who, what, why, when, but everyone handles things differently. It’s beyond sad; I mentioned this earlier on another post, and then ran into this one about Sosa because I’m super late and didn’t know a thing about it until today.
I do think that Asian/Indian skin lightening does not get as much attention as someone of African decent in spite of both of them being huge industries people of those regions, but it makes sense to me.
All are disturbing in my eyes, regardless, but a little bit more disturbing to me with people of African decent because of the extremity. By this, I mean black people have a greater capacity to produce melanin so to go from one extreme…to another extreme is pretty damn dramatic, like in the case of Sosa.
Obviously, there are Indians with darker skin than some black folks and that can be dramatic too, but they are not considered black and neither do they consider themselves as black and there are many others in their society who have pale skin, so it’s not as dramatic in that sense. Concerning black people, yes we come in just about all shades/hues but the color of this guy as well as MJ is no color..it’s just paleness. Even black albinos have more color than this and they actually lack the enzyme to make melanin. This guy looks literally washed out—he looks ill.
-smh
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A few years ago, I remember hearing about this cosmetic surgery reality show in the Philippines called Miss Ugly No More. It’s about taking ordinary looking women and transforming them into beautiful ladies. The candidates had to write an essay on why they should be chosen for this show. If I recall, many women wrote they wanted to change what they considered were physical imperfections such as their skin coloring and noses. In the Philippines as well as many parts of Asia, the light skin is ideal and the noses have to be “high”, almost aquiline. If you look closest to white then you’re all right.
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Well, here’s my question: why is it more important to criticize whiteness as beauty than it is to criticize the notion of iconic beauty in and of itself?
I mean, is it REALLY an advance to open the possible “pallettes” of feminine beauty from 5 (or whatever number) to six by including a light-brown “African-American” princess to hold Barbie’s train?
Seems to me that what we do here is further engrave the notion that beauty is a singular object, restricted to a very few. Within that logic, those Phillipino women a re being a hell of a lot more pragmatic than the anti-racist who thinks buying a brown Malibu Barbie for his niece is a step in the right direction.
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This is why I feel that as long as Abagond celebrates iconic images of feminine beauty, it really makes little difference if they are black or white. What 99.99% of the women on the planet know is that they will NEVER look like that. Someone like, say, Precisous isn’t being anymore “empowered” by so-called “people of color” like J-Lo than she is by Britney Spears.
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Yuck, Leigh that link made me sick… To be honest those women no longer look like Filipinas! The look more like NE Asians, so sad.
The woman on the far left was very pretty before her transformation. Grant, she is still pretty after but they basically did ethnic tweaking on these women, so sad.
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@Y:
From what I can see in the pic, the most obvious procedure the surgeons did is skin lightening. And I noticed the nose jobs, too. I read other procedures included: breast augmentation, liposuction, and chin implants.
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There is beauty in every group of people, but “white” beauty is often put on a pedestal-sometimes only in the realm of just having “white” skin and nothing more (like comparing an overweight black woman with an overweight white women, neither obviously have a “barbie” look; it may very well come down to having white skin as it has “iconic” value —
As a result others are compared and contrasted to “white” beauty as if it holds merit over all the plenty of other extremely beautiful nonwhite people in the world who look nothing like them in skin color and/or otherwise.
and…I do think the barbie look is over-rated independent of and relating to the white standard of beauty.
I just recently got here but def. abagond has celebrated more than the barbie-type look, especially concerning black women: myles, buffie etc.
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Image I agree with your statement.
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An interesting question:
“Well, here’s my question: why is it more important to criticize whiteness as beauty than it is to criticize the notion of iconic beauty in and of itself.”
Here’s my view I think we as humans are interested in beauty and as long as we can create our own ideals of beauty as ‘group’. Then there may not be THAT many issues.
I do understand that most Western women do not look like the supermodels. So this is in a matter in and of itself. Off late in the UK at least there has been a ‘minor revolt’ against the ideal of ‘feminine beauty’ as it relates specifically to size (specifically size zero).
As it stands there is only a White standard of beauty will large amount of nationalities, races etc being ommitted, I think this is the bone of contention, as it relates specifically to your question.
Hope this is clear!!
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Yeah, I understand, but why fight for “inclusion” if inclusion means the minscule expansion of a tiny genre and it comes at the cost of the reification and naturalization of said genre?
I mean, we’re actually supposed to be pleased that Disney now has a (light brown) African American princess. With, you’ll notice, an hour-glass figure and what seems to be straightened hair.
Society reifies and naturalizes this sort of beauty as ultimately desireable by retaining the “Disney Princess” category while it makes a small adjustment. A VERY small adjustment, note.
We can have tokenism, in other words, as long as the dominance of the central image is not threatened. Why fight for this?
(Does it show that I’ve been reading post-modernist theory for 10 days now?)
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I think I may have mis-understood your initial queion.
I have to agree with you on the Disney analogy, but is this not how racism works? The ‘out-group’ wants to ‘integrate’ with the ‘in-group’, rather than developing their own ideals, standards etc
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A closer look of Sammy Sosa’s face. Oooh, geez.
Why, Sammy, why?
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I have a question for you Thaddeus or anyone who cares to give input:
If the black princess had been natural and a bit more full figured, do you think some black people would have possibly seen this as streotypical (black women are supposedly more “thick”) or even look down on it? I mean, some of us still haven’t accepted our own natural hair.
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Leigh204, Yeah, it looks really bad.
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Yikes!! Leigh when you bring it that close up, lol, I’m going to barf!! He doesn’t even look light skinned, more like he fell into a barrel of talcum powder!!
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In my language, he would be referred to as looking like a multo…a ghost. Sammy looks sickly…unhealthy.
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Talk about internalized racism…peep this link of a BLACK SINGLE MOTHER! Endoring an author that claims blacks are genetically predisposed to birthing children out of wedlock.
http://www.jamilaakil.com/2010/05/why-race-matters/
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The ‘out-group’ wants to ‘integrate’ with the ‘in-group’, rather than developing their own ideals, standards etc
Except in this case the “out group” is formed of at least 90% of the female half of the species. Maybe more.
If the black princess had been natural and a bit more full figured, do you think some black people would have possibly seen this as streotypical (black women are supposedly more “thick”) or even look down on it? I mean, some of us still haven’t accepted our own natural hair.
Probably. But again, a “bit” more full-figured…? Most women I know, white or black, have NOTHING like that sort of figure, whether or not we put a bit more meat on the bones.
This is why I don’t buy Abagond’s “thick versus thin” comparison. ALL of those women have unreal bodies when compared with the vast majority of human females on this planet.
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I am not sure I understand then…[best keep quiet – thinking to myself]
I had thought you were referring to a particular shade of Black and that Blacks generally were happy to be inclusive in this respect. I guess not
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Well, I think what I’m trying to say is why should any of us see this sort of tokenism as inclusive in any way, shape or form?
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Not to worRy…
Still do not understand but like the pun ha ha ha
‘Well, I think what I’m trying to say is why should any of us see this sort of tokenism as inclusive in any way, SHAPE OR FORM’?
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…or size?
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Thad, I hear you. But Barbies are meant for kids (to mess with their innocent minds). A little girl, white or black, thin or chubby- she doesn’t know what’s she’s going to look like as a woman. She doesn’t know what her figure is going to be; but she knows what her skind, and hair, and eye colour are going to be.
In that sense, while I don’t see Barbie dolls as a good thing in general, I do think it’s a good thing for a girl to have a doll that, in a way, looks like her (in phenotype).
Look, I grew up in a 100% white country, and yet, I could never truly like my blonde Barbies. At the time, only blonde Barbies were available in Yugoslavia, and I guess I could never see her as “myself as a woman” in any way. I am sure I’d love black Barbie more because she’s a dark eyed brunette.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I understand what you’re saying. Promoting “only one form of beauty” is not much worse than “promoting only two forms of beauty”. Still, in this day and age, racism is still going strong, and if it’s obvious black women of all sizes can identify better with a black woman of any size, I do think promoting non-white beauty is a good thing.
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Now I think I understand. Funnily enough this is what I had wanted to say, in fact it is what I had thought I had said….Perhaps not then (the divergence of what you want you want to say and what actually comes out in words)
“Still, in this day and age, racism is still going strong, and if it’s obvious black women of ALL sizes can identify better with a black woman of ANY size, I do think promoting non-white beauty is a good thing”.
I agree with this assessment.
The only other possibility is to to do away with White standard of beauty’. Then all ‘races etc’ will be in the same ‘proverbial boat’. I cannot se this happening somehow, since it is ‘natural’ for races etc to promote some aspect of ‘beauty’, even if it is through art etc.
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Speaking of internalized racism, another poster commented on one of abagond’s post. She mentioned she visited a forum and there was this odd question: “Would you rather look Eurasian or Asian?”. If I remember correctly, the majority of the young women wanted to look half white. What does that tell you? That looking white or part white is desirable.
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@Mira:
I only had blond Barbies when I was a child. My mom looked for an Asian doll but all the stores she went to only carried blond Barbies. At one point, I honestly believed I was going to grow up to be this statuesque, blonde, blue-eyed, woman not the petite, black-haired, dark brown-eyed person today.
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At one point, I honestly believed I was going to grow up to be this statuesque, blonde, blue-eyed, woman not the petite, black-haired, dark brown-eyed person today.
You seem to be happy with who you are today, but what about all those girls who are, so to speak, disappointed?
I don’t know, I always knew I’m not going to look like a blonde Barbie, but I never liked dolls; I played with stuffed animals (what does that say about me :P)
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@Mira:
I hope abagond does a post on this shortly, but this a part of internalized racism. I mentioned earlier in this post that when I was a younger, I was made fun of because of my “Asian” eyes.
I grew up in a predominantly white neighborhood btw. I had children pulling the corners of their eyes making mock Chinese sounds. (Oh, and ching chong is not a word, damn it!) It pained me that children could be so cruel. I just wanted to fit in.
I remember I learned about eyelid surgery through some tv show for people with droopy lids. I thought this procedure would work for me so I asked my mom and she strongly objected.
She reminded me that my eyes were fine and nothing was wrong with them. She also said there was something wrong with the children for making fun of my eyes.
So you see, I’m so fortunate I had a mother who set me straight in the first place. I would’ve been one of many Asian girls who had eyelid surgery. Now I can’t say eyelid surgery is wrong, but…just not for me.
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Oopsie. I meant I hope abagond does a post on this shortly: Asian Eyelid Surgery.
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This sums it all up, and in a way why it is hard to fight the effects of internalised racism whether as a child or as an adult (with it being harder for children because they do not fully understand):
“I just wanted to fit in”
Yes like everyone of us – as human beings
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Thad, I get what you’re saying, but Disney’s black princess doesn’t look that different from the majority of black Americans. I wouldn’t say her skin is light brown either, more like solid brown, like most blacks:
As for her figure, I didn’t notice. I don’t inspect women’s figures that closely. Now that I Google it, it just looks like her dress is too tight. 🙂
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The blonde hair blue eyes cache seems so Hilter-ish to me
Thaddeus- I guess that is my point, no matter what she looked liked (Mrs. Princess Frog), I think people would have found something wrong with her, so catch 22. I, btw, enjoyed the movie thoroughly as did my nieces.
Along the lines of what Mira said, no one group of people hold the patent on being “Barbie” size, heck, you can work out and get that the healthy way, but there are people who hold the patent on being white, lol they’re born with it. To non white women, being Barbie size is only half way.
Yeah, while anorexia is awful, most people who suffer from this from what I know are young white women. I still think bleaching is just..well..depressing and dishonoring to people of color entirely and on an entirely different level psychologically.
leigh204 – Your mother is absolutely right–there is something wrong with them. You have very pretty facial features, including your eyes. Funny people call them that, “Asian” eyes because I’ve seen quite a few black people with “Asian” eyes and many with no known Asian ancestry.
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Yes, we all want to “fit” in but why does my or her or anyone’s fitting in often come down to people wanting to look more white, and white people are not even the majority in this world, not even close. That is what’s so disturbing to me; it doesn’t even logically make sense.
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It just shows you how effective the ‘brainwashing’ has/is been and how universal, since it operates on a global scale, with a populace that is around 8%.
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Image, I don’t think it’s just everyone else wanting to be white. Whites often want to look “different/exotic” and that involves desiring features that are more common amongst other groups of people. Especially since the flavor du jour became a more ambiguous look rather than lily white. Pale people are always trying to tan (my SO’s family always compliments my skin color, as they tend to be very pale) or those with thin lips wear lip gloss that plumps their lips. Yet no one pegs this as self-hate.
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“Yes, we all want to “fit” in but why does my or her or anyone’s fitting in often come down to people wanting to look more white, and white people are not even the majority in this world, not even close. That is what’s so disturbing to me; it doesn’t even logically make sense.”
I wouldn’t say that the dominant beauty standard in the world is “the whiter the better.” It’s a bit more loose than that. Rather, what is widely regarded as attractive in women are caucasoidal facial features (not necessarily including thin lips) and non-dark skin. There are quite a few non-white women who fit this description, such as the current copper-toned Arab Miss USA Rima Fakih as well as former Miss America Vanessa Williams.
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@Image:
Thank you for your kind words. 🙂
You’re absolutely correct. It doesn’t make sense at all. I also recall my mother telling me, “Even if I allowed you to have the surgery done, would your new eyes make you a better person? More special? Why would you want eyes just like the kids who made fun of you?”
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Its been a long while, but is this not a tautology??
I wouldn’t say that the dominant beauty standard in the world is “the WHITEr the better = It’s a bit more loose than that, rather, what is widely regarded as attractive in women are CAUCASIODAL facial features
No but seriously, there is an overlap between White and Caucasoid
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@ Natasha
You said: “Whites often want to look “different/exotic” and that involves desiring features that are more common amongst other groups of people.”
I would agree with you. The saying, “Tall, Dark & Handsome” comes to mind. In addition, I find very few people who think ‘pasty’ white is attractive. Look at the tanning industry. Think about how many women spend their money on artifical UV rays. Are they not happy with their natural skin tone? All the White girls in High School going to the tanning salons before prom, for example…
I would even go so far as to say that in the U.S, if you’re just a plain White guy, then you’re not cool. White is not right. I’ve said this before in other threads, but I have often times heard many people associate “White” with negative connotation; therefore you get the response: I’m not White, I’m Brazilian, I’m not White, I’m Puerto Rican, etc…
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With regard to:
“Yet no one pegs this as self-hate [by Whites]”.
This is because it is not, they have out of their own free-will and choice taken to see aspect of other ‘races’ beauty.
POC do not do this, it is not a conscious act of ‘choice’ but rather they are told by a variety of sources they are ‘ugly’ etc.
Then they act from this ‘premise’, which Whites do not.
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“I wouldn’t say that the dominant beauty standard in the world is “the whiter the better.” It’s a bit more loose than that. Rather, what is widely regarded as attractive in women are caucasoidal facial features (not necessarily including thin lips) and non-dark skin.”
There really is no such thing a caucasiodal facial features. There are many black African people who have these features with no “Caucasian” blood in them.
Do you really think because a black person who has dark skin and what you call ” caucasiodal” features would be deemed equally as attractive or more so as someone white?
“There are quite a few non-white women who fit this description, such as the current copper-toned Arab Miss USA Rima Fakih as well as former Miss America Vanessa Williams.”
..and how many Rima Fakih’s or Vanessa Williams types have we seen as Miss America? …and vanessa is mixed with blue eyes, does that really count?
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J,
“This is because it is not, they have out of their own free-will and choice taken to see aspect of other ‘races’ beauty.
POC do not do this, it is not a conscious act of ‘choice’ but rather they are told by a variety of sources they are ‘ugly’ etc.”
I don’t think it’s a conscious act. When beauty paradigms shift, people’s judgments of themselves shift accordingly.
Also, I would disagree that they are not told they are ugly (directly, I mean; white women see that they aren’t as “beautiful” nowadays as compared to the “exotics”). My SO’s sister is very pale, with golden blonde hair. She was teased by classmates and family members alike who said that she looked “sickly” and “transparent.” Although they would say it in a joking manner, it really got to her. Now she is [usually] a deep-tanned brunette.
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Natasha- Yes, white people tan intentionally, and I guess that could be looked at as some form of self hate, but I don’t see it that way. White people can go outside to play beach ball and get a tan, like it or not, unless they use sun screen a lot. It’s something that would naturally happen anyway depending on the amount of sun exposure they get. However, a dark skinned person like Sosa would never naturally turn pasty white lol.
In terms of the lips injections, adding more plumpness to their behinds etc…I would say that could defiantly be self hate or at least trying to be something they are not.
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FG: a part of my sentence/question is missing 🙂
Do you really think because a black person who has dark skin and what you call ” caucasiodal” features would be deemed equally as attractive or more so as someone white in a white dominanted society or non white, but non black one?
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I really don’t know what is considered dark skin anymore. I’m confused. I thought all brown and dark brown people were considered dark-skinned.
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@ Image…
As for self hate and tanning, I bet it is subconcious and probably something that many people are self-concious about. I know White people who simply cannot tan and often times they are envious of those who can.
In contrast, I was out on the beach with the wife this weekend. She is using 50 spf because she doesn’t want to get any “darker” – which came as a surprise to me. In Brazil, I never heard anybody say this. All my friends in Brazil are equal opportunity beach lovers. All the Black Surfers in Bahia certainly aren’t worried about getting any darker. I’ve never heard this from a Brazilian before. (Thad, B.R.????)
I told my wife she needed to “chill”. I’m going to have to talk to her more about this because I’m wondering if this isn’t something she picked up in the U.S. or down here in Miami.
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@Color O’Luv:
Well, there are many tanned/darker people in my family and they use SPF 50 primarily because they don’t want skin cancer.
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Image, I don’t think it’s just everyone else wanting to be white. Whites often want to look “different/exotic” and that involves desiring features that are more common amongst other groups of people.
This. But it’s a completely different matter. Whites do want to be “exotic” and whites don’t want to be pale.
I bet many whites would want to be a bit more exotic. (Claiming great great grandmother was Native is one of those things). They, also, secretly envy (maybe envy is a strong word, but you know what I mean) black people’s hair, skin tone, full lips, hips etc.
Hey, I know while I was growing up, I hated my pale skin and I wanted to be more “special/exotic” (whatever that meant to me back then).
But still, there’s a difference. There’s a difference in power, I think. It’s not about the looks alone, and maybe it’s not even about the looks. First of all, most of the teenagers and many women are not happy with the way they look. Men want to be taller, women want to be thinner or whatever. But to look whiter, it’s not really to look whither; it’s about being equal and subconsciously or consciously believing that white is neutral and the norm.
White women wanting to have darker skin and thick figures don’t want that; they want to be “different” and “special” or maybe they buy into stereotypes about non-white women as being more passionate, sexier, stronger or whatever.
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@ Leigh,
I completely understand. I was just talking about the comment my wife made. When I heard it, it caught me off guard. Now I’m thinking about it again and trying to understand her thought process. The more I think about it, the more I’m thinking this is something she picked up while here in the U.S.
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Color of Luv… I agree that it’s something that a lot of them are self conscious about but because they can get that naturally, I don’t necessarily see it has self hate as opposed to bleaching.
I do think there is a certain “acceptable” dark color, CoL; your wife wants a tan but she doesn’t want to be “too” tan or dark…which brings me to Tasha’s comment….
Natasha, dark/brown skin can subjective–based on how one person views it; it also depends on where you are in the world too.
I think it many peoples minds…being dark skinned and part of the “black” race is different from being dark skinned and not being classified as part of the “black” race and I think that also shapes how subjective this dark/brown skin color issue can be.
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As for self hate and tanning, I bet it is subconcious and probably something that many people are self-concious about. I know White people who simply cannot tan and often times they are envious of those who can.
I can’t tan. At all. I could when I was a kid, I could get pretty dark, like my dad could, but not after the puberty. I have no idea what changed. I am very light skinned (read: transparent), with some freckles. I can not tan, and I hated that when I was growing up. All the girls around me could get this rich olive colour and I couldn’t. Especially in my culture, where tanning is a MUST (even in winter- hence all those tanning salons). To be cheese white (read: pale) is considered extremely ugly. Some girls even proudly say they went to a tanning salon and now they are dark like black women (which is not healthy- these things, tanning salons are not healthy).
So I just learned to accept myself as pale, because I can’t tan anyway and I don’t want to get into a health risk.
I don’t know if this is self-hate, I honestly don’t know. I have a skin of my Polish side of the family, and it’s generally lighter than usual Serbian skin tone, so maybe I just wanted to fit in, or I went with the belief that pale skin is ugly. Not sure.
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I basically agree with you Mira, on the difference of power.
leigh,
“Well, there are many tanned/darker people in my family and they use SPF 50 primarily because they don’t want skin cancer.”
I am beginning to wear sunblock for this reason alone, because I am now in a region where it is always sunny. Skin cancer is a reality even for darker people.
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@Mira:
Your pale skin is not ugly by any means just as dark skin is not ugly either. Why can’t we just accept our skin the way it is without resorting to some artificial way to alter it? You know….some dark skinned people using skin lighteners or some pale skinned people tanning. We’re never happy with what we’re given.
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@ Mira –
I’m a big proponent of self pride no matter what. I think most people probably go through life ‘wanting’ to change something about themselves – regardless of race. This can be many things.
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@Natasha W:
leigh,
“Well, there are many tanned/darker people in my family and they use SPF 50 primarily because they don’t want skin cancer.”
Definitely! I work in an environment where it’s predominantly white, and you wouldn’t believe the comments I get when I slather on sunscreen to my skin…it’s medium-beige toned. They say, “Why do you bother applying sunscreen? You’re extra melanin helps protect you a bit.” I responded, “What?! And risk getting skin cancer? No thank you!” It boggles my mind.
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Image,
“Natasha, dark/brown skin can subjective–based on how one person views it; it also depends on where you are in the world too.”
I do think it is highly subjective. This woman who was interested in dating my brother (for whatever reason), inquired about his looks and I described him as “dark-skinned.” When she met him, she said “Oh, he’s not dark-skinned. He’s brown.” I was confused because I’ve always used the terms brown-skinned and dark-skinned interchangeably. After all, if brown and dark brown people are not dark, who is? My brother is this color:
“I think it many peoples minds…being dark skinned and part of the “black” race is different from being dark skinned and not being classified as part of the “black” race and I think that also shapes how subjective this dark/brown skin color issue can be.”
I’d agree with that, and I think it extends to other features commonly found on blacks as well.
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Natasha-Yeah, I would say Gabriel is dark skin too, but then someone else may say something different, lol I call it various shades of brown.
I remember going to Ocho Rios, JA a few years back and there were people trying to sell souvenir because they get most of their business from tourist.
Anyway, there was this one woman there that I will never forget. Her skin was so gorgeous and like nothing I had ever seen. It was an extremely deep, dark brown, very smooth and even, no make up, nothing; even her face I don’t remember, I caught myself staring.
When I got back to the states, I saw another lady in Brooklyn who reminded me of her with a similar color. I don’t even think the “anti-dark skin people” could deny her beauty.
I just think people of color from the deepest brown to the lightest are so beautiful by design in ways even I don’t fully understand. I guess Sosa thinks otherwise.
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Color of Luv,
I was guilty of doing what your wife does when I was in high school at dance camp. But the thing is, I’ve always been comfortable in my blackness and didn’t mind getting darker. But I now realize that I did it because the other black girls did. I didn’t even think about it.
Everyone needs protection from the sun, but darker people should only need a spf 15 because it’s been said that we have a built in spf of 15 or higher.
Mira,
Good for you for being proud of your pale complexion and not conforming by tanning. Staying out of the sun is probably why you look so young.
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“I really don’t know what is considered dark skin anymore. I’m confused. I thought all brown and dark brown people were considered dark-skinned.”
Vanessa Williams is not dark-skinned by global standards, or increasingly by American standards. Keep in mind what Thad said about the differences between the US and Brazil. Americans talk as if people like her are dark (“black”) but in actual practice take their lightness into account.
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“Do you really think because a black person who has dark skin and what you call ” caucasiodal” features would be deemed equally as attractive or more so as someone white in a white dominanted society or non white, but non black one?”
Absolutely. Vanessa Williams beat out alot of white contestants to win Miss America, and that was way back in the mid-80s.
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“Vanessa Williams is not dark-skinned by global standards, or increasingly by American standards. Keep in mind what Thad said about the differences between the US and Brazil. Americans talk as if people like her are dark (“black”) but in actual practice take their lightness into account.”
…Ummm, yeah. I wasn’t considering Vanessa as “dark-skinned” when I made that comment; that was more of a general questioning. I don’t think she is seen as dark-skinned by majority of people.
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The problem is, if the “beauty standard” you promote is inacessible to 99.9% of the female population, you’re not promoting “non-white” beauty: you are effectively promoting NON-HUMAN beauty.
A Martian with black skin is still a Martian.
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@islandgirl:
Yes, Mira looks quite youthful. One of my friends is around Mira’s age…late 20’s…and when I first met her, I thought she was a decade older. Imagine my surprise when she revealed her true age. She tanned a lot during her teen years. And she still tans in those tanning beds despite the risks associated with tanning. I can see the effects on her skin – a crepe-y texture. Think leather. Not a good look at all.
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Image says:
“Do you really think because a black person who has dark skin and what you call ” caucasiodal” features would be deemed equally as attractive or more so as someone white in a white dominanted society or non white, but non black one?”
FG says:
“Absolutely. Vanessa Williams beat out alot of white contestants to win Miss America, and that was way back in the mid-80s.”
That’s all well and good, but when did Vanessa Williams become a “black person who has dark skin”? Without bronzer or tan, her complexion isn’t too far away from most whites’.
I also don’t think she has “Caucasoidal” features, at least not in the ’80s she didn’t:
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@Natasha W:
Here’s another pic of Vanessa Williams when she was Miss America.
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@Natasha,
If I didn’t know that was Vanessa Williams, I’d probably assume it was a picture of a white girl.
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^I don’t think she looks white in either picture (and I don’t think you really do either, considering how you parse appearances) because her features are more common amongst black people. Her skin being lighter doesn’t make her white. But you, intentionally I think, missed the point that she would not be considered a “black person who has dark skin” nor would she be seen as having Caucasoidal features (minus blue eyes) back in the ’80s.
Thanks, leigh.
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A Martian with black skin is still a Martian.
“Legend suggests that the Black Martians are inhabitants of one of the moons of Mars, when in fact they live in an underground stronghold near the south pole of the planet, around the subterranean Sea of Omean, below the Lost Sea of Korus, where they keep a large aerial navy. They call themselves the ‘First Born’, believing themselves to be a unique creation among Martian races, and worship Issus, a woman who styles herself as the God of the Martian religion, but is no such thing. They frequently raid the White Martian Therns, who maintain the false Martian religion, carrying off people as slaves. John Carter defeats their navy in The Gods of Mars.[42]”
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Barsoom#Appeal
You may be on to something Thad!
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Thad-
“A Martian with black skin is still a Martian.”
I hear you, and that’s what it should be.
What does that mean in this world?
A black human is still a human too….but still we find some value displaced, rearranged, and thrown away.
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Lol Herneith
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I use a high SPF because I’m terrified of getting skin cancer and have never been sunburned (plus I’m anal :-P), but it’s hard for me to “tan” (as in get darker) anyway, since the sun makes my skin red.
I’m down here in Orange County for the first time visiting my boyfriend’s family, and he’s educating me about the world of tanning. We were in LA visiting my uncle on Wednesday, and we saw this poor girl who must have fried in a tanning bed. She was this unnatural brown color that reminded me of meatloaf.
It’s hard for me personally to find skin color on it’s own attractive. I know some people who have darker skin that looks great when they’re wearing bright colors, and others with lighter skin that glows next to darker hair, etc. but if I saw them naked I don’t think I’d marvel at their skin color. 🙂
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Another good example would be Rihanna, I know a lot of white people who think she is very attractive and she doesn’t have what people keep calling “Caucasoidal” features at all.
Like VW, she’s really light skin with different color eyes: green/hazel.
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^I really think the terms “Caucasoid/Mongloid/etc” are misleading as there are no features that are found within “races” that aren’t found in others, nor are features set for a given population. And those sort of terms make it seem as if race is a biological reality with clear boundaries, instead of the vague, man-made creation it is.
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Exactly Natasha; I hope abagond does a post on this or at least some people take the time and educate themselves about it.
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With regard to:
“So I just learned to accept myself as pale, because I can’t tan anyway and I don’t want to get into a health risk.
I don’t know if this is self-hate, I honestly don’t know”
Personally I think you can dislike a feature as an individual and which pertains to a particular race, but NOT hate your race per se, because there has not been made a connection between the White feature and ‘race’.
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With regard to:
“I really think the terms “Caucasoid/Mongloid/etc” are misleading as there are no features that are found within “races” that aren’t found in others, nor are features set for a given population…”
What you say here is correct. However, people have created ‘stereotypes’ of what is meant to be of a certain race and operate with that on a daily basis
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@Thad
The problem is, if the “beauty standard” you promote is inacessible to 99.9% of the female population, you’re not promoting “non-white” beauty: you are effectively promoting NON-HUMAN beauty.
It’s irrelevant, Thad, as long as some humans identify with it.
We can argue if an overweight black woman should identify with a thin black woman or an overweight white woman- but like I’m sure you know, it’s not a relevant question, because identities are never objective.
@islandgirl
Mira,
Good for you for being proud of your pale complexion and not conforming by tanning. Staying out of the sun is probably why you look so young.
Thanks! But I must say I am not “proud” of my complexion in a way I think it’s good; I am just used to it. It’s me, after all.
Now, while I don’t dislike myself, I must admit that I might be a colourist of some sorts; for example, I never found pale skinned men attractive, or blond men. Or blue eyed men! Unless we’re talking about these blue eyes.
http://tinyurl.com/3734n6q
Um. Anyway, tanning salons are really, really unhealthy. The colour you get is unnatural, just like colour you get with a hair dye is unnatural.
@Natasha W
I really think the terms “Caucasoid/Mongloid/etc” are misleading as there are no features that are found within “races” that aren’t found in others, nor are features set for a given population. And those sort of terms make it seem as if race is a biological reality with clear boundaries, instead of the vague, man-made creation it is.
I agree. It’s really misleading, but what to do? I’d love to see more non-white beauty promoted as wonderful, but the problem is, what IS non-white beauty? Maybe I should say I’d like to see more non-white celebrities who are not picked because of their Caucasoid features… But then we get to biology again, so it’s impossible to determine.
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@J
Personally I think you can dislike a feature as an individual and which pertains to a particular race, but NOT hate your race per se, because there has not been made a connection between the White feature and ‘race’.
Well, there’s a question what self-hate really means in this context: hating yourself or your race? Also, if you “hate” (to use this term) some of your features that are often seen as unique to your race, does that mean you hate your race, yourself, or none of that?
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For those of you thinking of using SPF 15 and up, I’d say do so! Here’s food for thought:
http://www.skinandaging.com/article/2547
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Self-hate I would say is that it drives an individual to want to ‘leave’ their race ie People of Colour trying to scrub their skin White, and other such similar behaviour.
Finally I ought to have qualified my position earlier and say that I do believe that there are some aspect of White people behaviour that can fall under self-hate or any other ter/adjective ‘body dysmorphism’.
However, having the dominant culture this somehow minimises any negative effects, if this makes any sense.
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@Herneith:
Girl, those pictures are straight up nasty! That’s why it’s very important to protect your skin.
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Mira,
“Now, while I don’t dislike myself, I must admit that I might be a colourist of some sorts; for example, I never found pale skinned men attractive, or blond men. Or blue eyed men!”
Lol. I guess you wouldn’t find my SO attractive then.
“Unless we’re talking about these blue eyes.
http://tinyurl.com/3734n6q “
Who is this yummy man?
J,
“What you say here is correct. However, people have created ‘stereotypes’ of what is meant to be of a certain race and operate with that on a daily basis”
Yes. And that’s a big problem. That’s where you get ill-informed comments like “acting white” or “looking African.”
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That is Eddie Vedder, “Pearl Jam” frontman (but the pic in question is interesting. because he’s not in his usual messy self 🙂 )
I agree about protecting your skin: blacks have a much better protection than whites, but it’s obviously not enough anymore. Maybe in the past, but the sun is so strong today, everybody needs a protection.
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I love being who I am, but it saddens and disgusts me that the colonial mentality has brainwashed so many POC.
Here’s a skin whitening ad from the Philippines.
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Don’t want a flat nose. Here’s a nose clamp for you.
What about a nose roller?
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Do those things actually work? If not, it would give credence to that old saying; “There’s a sucker born every minute!
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@Herneith:
I honestly don’t know. I guess some people swear by it. Btw, what is wrong with having the nose the man upstairs gave you? My mom told me that when she was pregnant with me, folks kept telling her to pinch my nose so that it wouldn’t be flat.
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SMDH…So sad..esp if that is a nationally run ad on primetime…wow
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Btw, what is wrong with having the nose the man upstairs gave you?
Nothing. What is wrong is the length people will go to, to alter their appearance in order to conform to a colonialist and racist ideal. Self-loathing at its’ best! Those contraptions look bizarre to say the least as well as tortuous when applied. What will they come up with next? A nose stretcher? Those contraptions would be satirical if not for the fact that they are promoted in all seriousness!! I wonder if any comedian have used these on their acts.
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@Herneith:
The closest thing would be nose inserts.
And here’s a device you wear over your nose. Silly, if you ask me.
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Btw, what is wrong with having the nose the man upstairs gave you?
Because it’s turning green and is beginning to smell funny.
He gave me some ears, too.
I dunno… Do you think I should call the cops?
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@MerriMay:
Yes, it’s very sad. I really loathe the slogan:
“Be Desired. Be White. Be Firm.”
Pppffft. That’s just fcuked up.
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True, I grew up in a mainly all-black private school with very strong afrocentric values. I was told that I was ugly because of my skin color and lips. My skin color is a meduim brownish red and my lips are almost black.They used to pull at my hair and tell that I should dye my hair. People will always find ways to make themselves feel better. Just being around your own “kind” doesn’t solve anything.
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@ Robin:
I am very sorry you were subjected to that sort of treatment. It’s really sad that some people can be so intentionally hurtful (physically/verbally) to others through no fault of their own.
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When I was on the dance line in High School, 4 of the 24 dancers were black. A white dancer suggested that we get lighter tights to blend in with the white legs. Many African-American girls at my school bleached their faces to appear lighter. I thought bleaching yourself made you fake and you must have self hate to do something so simple minded!
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Leigh204: I think it’s people nature to dislike something that’s different. I think all groups of people are guilty of this. This is why I believe Afrocentrics and neo-nazis are equally stupid and have very flaw views. Hatred and unjustice just don’t magically go away by people just sticking with who vaguely come from the same continent.
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the term “internalized racism” is one I’ve picked up recently and that is what led me to click on a link that led me here.
My awareness of this began with reading what Malcolm X said about blacks being taught to hate themselves …. everything about themselves ….. !
I think many do hold a lot of prejudice against the black condition and against other blacks which comes out in different ways in different individuals.
Some become so angry that they could almost be called “self-hating” !
I think this prejudice & jealousy weaken our ability to work together and is a major behind the scenes reason for some of our issues.
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This really hits home. As a person of color growing up in New York, you were considered either dark skinned or light skinned. Dark skinned children were constantly teased. Light skinned blacks were “preferred” over their darker counterparts. Being dark skinned myself, I never really appreciated my complexion until it came “into style” and was the new thing. It took me a while to be proud of my skin.
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I definitely suffered from internalized racism in my younger years. I definitely had the “If I was white, things would be better” and “If I were lighter-skinned and acted ‘less black’ (sheer self-hatred!) I’d have an easier time of things” tapes playing in my mind! Now, I just shake my head when I hear others say the same things – their self-hatred should be their own business, but they seem to want/need validation of their own phucked-up ideals, just like I used to.
Either they’ll grow up, stop drinking the Kool-Aid and embrace their individuality, or they’ll keep on keepin’ on in blissful ignorance…and, there are at least 5 regular commentors on this board that resemble that statement! 😎
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Well, sepultura13….
Instead of shaking your head and pitying these people from you up on high pedestal, why don’t you help them to realize the error of their ways, the way you realized? Not everyone is aware they’re drinking Kool-Aid!
Oy. Instead of help, we offer insults. Now that’s characteristic of a HUMAN BEING….regardless of colour!
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Watchful sez:
“Instead of shaking your head and pitying these people from you up on high pedestal, why don’t you help them to realize the error of their ways, the way you realized? Not everyone is aware they’re drinking Kool-Aid!”
Thank you so much for elevating me to a pedestal! I acknowledge your plebian existence; I’m certain that you are elated to be recognized by regal nobility.
*turns off sarcasm*
@watchful:
I did not speak with pity – you read that in my words. If you don’t like the message, don’t kill the messenger! 😎
I offer help to those who ask. Period. Magnanimity and charity are vastly over-rated, IMHO…
Yeah, look it up – I know you’re lost already.
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I sadly think that internalized racism cant be overcome
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Are asian men who act “ghetto” doing so as a form of self-hate?
Maybe, there is that stereotype about asians not being all that manly whereas black men are basically the exact opposite of that, arguably their stereotype is one of excessive manliness.
So out of self-hate they might be trying to act like the ultimate male figure type black men and rejecting their own asian culture due to not liking themselves.
As to whether its self-hate or not for women to want to change their features, it may not be race based but its still self-hate.
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I get so much shit for acting too white from other black people…I am black and Mexican. My black father was never in my life and I have had a white stepdad since I was seven. Both of my patents are very liberal middle class whole foods patrons types and my mom taught me from a young age to be proud of my Mexican and black heritage and to learn about the history of my race. I understood from an early age that most people are still horribly racist. I was sent to private school where there were few black students so I unfortunately never had too many close black friends but the white friends I kept possessed none of the subtly racist qualities described on this blog( though I have seen more than my fair share of it in most other whites) It has always angered and confused me when I get teased and bullied by other black girls (who straighten their hair, get weaves, lighten their skin, talk about “good hair”, and speak racistly and ignorantly about Asians, whites, other blacks and Mexicans )who tell me that I am “too white”, that I am stuck up because of my light skin and that I “talk white” and that I’m not really a ” true nigga”. So yeah. I don’t have a problem with who I am racially speaking nor do I feel like I am better or worse than anybody because of my skin color. I am such a uniquely strange person both personality wise and physically that I rarely identify with others based on race. Whites aren’t the only ones guilty of racism. I’ve sadly been hurt much more by the racism of blacks in my life than whites. Of course the white forms of racism I’ve experienced are much more subtle and hidden but less affecting nonetheless. I wish people would cut us biracial kids some slack. I think that me being who I am with the experiences that have shaped me, have no choice but to acknowledge all perspectives from all races.
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This world is so hypocritical. Who would most men wants to date, the original Chinese lady, or her post-surgery self. All cultures promote a certain ideal of beauty and women spend most of their lives living up to them. I mean all cultures.
Women are also responsible for how they force certain standard of beauty on other women.
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@ Anomymous:
What Chinese lady are you referring to? Did I miss something? *scratches head*
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Who would most men wants to date, the original Chinese lady, or her post-surgery self.
The ones who can cook the best. A way to a man’s heart is through his stomach after all! He won’t give a hoot as to looks if a woman can throw down in the kitchen!
All cultures promote a certain ideal of beauty and women spend most of their lives living up to them. I mean all cultures.
If most of the women who felt this way would just take cookery classes, they could have any man they wanted!
Women are also responsible for how they force certain standard of beauty on other women.
Maybe so, but who is responsible for your stupidity? That’s the million dollar question, also, why are you here?
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@ Herneith:
You crack me up, my T-dot O-dot canuck! 😀
Btw, I’m certain Anomymous meant this Asian woman. Btw, she’s not Chinese. She’s Korean.
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I really hope my little brother doesn’t turn out this way, since he’ll be spending a lot of his childhood in America. When I have kids I wouldn’t want them to spend all their childhood in America, either. Growing up in multiple countries has it’s challenges, but it’s totally worth it. The idea of living in one area all my life just makes me cringe
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I suspected my whole life that my father’s domestic violence, being overweight, high blood pressure, bitter divorce and early death were related to his internalized racism together with my mother’s white privilege mindset. I think he started to change a bit (partly because of my influence after I got past my teens) but by then it was too late to save his health.
My mother carried her white privilege mindset to her grave. :-\
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How about if we change the wording
“It is only white people and narrow-minded, brainwashed people of colour who . . . ”
“It is only narrow-minded, brainwashed people, whether white or non-white, or even multiracial who . . . ”
then it might make sense.
But basically, the phenomenon, which occurs quite a bit throughout the blog, is just a reverse case of the “Roissy Syndrome”.
Now, I excuse and forgive people who do it sometimes. It may be due to a blindness in vision that is not perceived. But hopefully once the blind spot is pointed out, there will be some self-monitoring of this reverse Roissy Syndrome and acknowledgement when it occurs.
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It refers to this blog post
(https://abagond.wordpress.com/2009/11/11/the-roissy-syndrome/)
The idea is to state that the blogger is wrong while proving he is right by the very comments they are making.
In this case, it is the case of the blogger making a statement, and by trying to defend that statement he is stating another comment that indicates what he states is wrong.
I don’t know what to call that – there should be some name for it. But I do not think it is a character flaw. It is reading through some sort of lens that produces a blind spot. Maybe all that is needed is a trip to the optician.
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@ Bulanik
Where did I say this?
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@ Jefe
I changed that sentence to read:
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Abagond:
(The Truth About Whiteness)
Whites don’t love whiteness per se, they love “White Priviledge.” Because of slavery and colonialism, whites have gained power and wealth on this planet at the expense of africans, american-indians, and asians as well. As black people, we’ve won the (Color War). Black skin is a notch above white skin, even most whites would admit this to be true. Why the continued conflict over skin color? Brainwashing blacks to hate their african ancestry is about power and control, first and foremost. Self-hating blacks are valuable to whites because they need our DNA. Whites need a certain percentage of blacks to mix with them on an ongoing basis for them to survive on this planet. Notice the fact that whites have gotten darker over time because of the rape of blackwomen and biracial unions. Black women and men who love themselves and their race would never allow whites to exploit them like that. Every action has a consequence, Every thought has a reason. White folk have a reason and purpose behind all of their bulls**t, black folk need to understand this. Again, it’s not about skin color, it’s about controlling the thoughts and actions of black people…Bottomline!
Tyrone
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@Bunny
As black people, we need to move away from the PoC(People of Color) mindset that has dominated the convo for a long time, as it relates to how blacks interact with other coloreds so to speak. All blacks don’t get along with other PoC, all brown-skinned people don’t get along with black people. Each race interacts with the white power structure in their own way. Asians are classified as colored, but, white and yellow-complexioned asians hate on brown-skinned asians. White east-indians hate on brown-skinned indians, yet, neither of them gets along with black people. Mexicans are brown people, yet, they allow whites to dictate to them how they should identify themselves. Other groups of indians want blacks or mulattos to identify as Indian instead of black. Black people catch hell on both sides of the fence, this is the fundamental point that we as african people don’t wanna acknowledge. A lot of this is pushed by politicians, who could care less about the truth. Black people have been used by asians and native-americans to advance their own agendas at our expense, and we’re pissed off about it. Everybody wants to lump themselves in with black folk, but it’s only for superficial reasons. Others want the asthetics of blackness, but, lack sincere appreciation of black people and culture at the same time. As it relates to your biracial status, blacks who respect you will identify you as you are…Mixed-Race! Why are black people giving you a hard time? You’re black and mexican, you can’t change that. Society may see you as a blackwoman, but, that doesn’t apply to you. Those that pick on you are insecure black people, you need to tell them that Bunny? Half-Black means what it says, Half-A-Negro…Yes? Black folk want all mulattos to claim black membership, but, that has nothing to do with real black people. How can i force you to be black when you’re not? Whether you or other mulattos choose black is irrelevant to me…You’re Not Black! All the problems that we have to deal with, racial identity of mulattos is not high on my list of priorities…Bottomline!
Tyrone
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@abagond
re:
@ Bulanik
“Yet the writer of this post believes it is a character flaw if a multi-racial brown- or black-skinned person of multi-racial parents says what they are!”
Where did I say this?
Indeed, it was pointed out very directly to you many times. If you still didn’t receive it one would be at a loss at what to do. I don’t think a guest post or anything would help.
Do you understand what was meant by Bulanik’s words
I am trying to figure out at what point the message gets lost. Is it the word “suffer”?
I noticed that you have added disclaimers or changed wording as an attempt to placate your readers. I hope not. I think it might be good to do it when information might be wrong (as I suspected it was regarding the number of speakers of certain languages) but not when you are expressing opinions. If you change your opinions like that it will lessen the impact of blog’s messages – people will not know where you stand, esp. if you don’t explain why you do that.
As I mentioned in the past, I generally like this blog, agree with much of its content, and I think it is close to where I stand politically. But I would be much happier if you actually find and acknowledge where there may be blind spots, or if you have a “eureka” moment of new vision, not change wording or add or subtract content simply to placate. 🙂
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I think this blog has a lot of direction at white racism, and, “wrapping up in whiteness”, and “white privilige”. It deserves to be scrutinised, because so many white people dont want to acknowledge these very real atitudes that have serious ramifation on any society that brought slaves from Africa to the Americas, because you better beleive , its rolling down here in Brazil also, its not just an American thing.
Unfortunetly, some commenters, surly not all, this isnt one monolithic “black opinion”, are insensitive to bi racial people , or , at worst, throw bi racial people under the bus, because , the “white part”, in bi racial, “taints” the biracial person (of course many biracial people dont have black African descendant genes) in these discusions when the commentator implicates all white people…for better or worse..im not judging in this statement, just observing. The complex realities of a bi racial person are never going to be uncoverd in these type of discusions…and usualy get thrown into stereotypes and generealisations
To Abagond’s credit, he has admited to being raised in America and subject to thinking of racism on that leval and he has said that when he sais “white people”, he doesnt mean all white people…I think in general Abagond is fair, and Ive seen some things he said about judging people in bi racial relationships as he meets them but that he does have feelings in general that dont trust it….for sure I dont agree with that
I come in here as a white person, that doesnt mean I have to feel , like some people that all white people are bad, that Western civilsation is more evil than any other, maybe more systematic, that i cant talk about Arab racism, but, I always caveatte that with I think the North Atlantic slave trade was worse…
And, I do think bi racial people get shafted in general from some other commenters, and, a lot of bi racial people come in here and comment….I sympathise with them, of course, my son is bi racial
I can get to things about “wrapped up in whiteness”, I do see that is a flaw in society, I do see that whites invented racism and that slavery does carry over into today in anyplace that brought African slaves into the Americas
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…and of course, related to one statement I made, lots of bi racial people dont have white genes also, i just meant in the context of how a lot of bi racial people are implicated on here is that they have white genes
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@ Bulanik
Thank you very much. I will reply to this later today.
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It might help in discussions like these to think more carefully about the terms people are using. Terms such as: “Bi-racial”, “mono-racial” only make sense if there is indeed an agreed scientific consensus that people are, and can be divided into multiple races. But There isn’t !!!
(Note to B.R: There are NO identifiable white, Black or any other similar descriptive genes!)
Such thinking in terms like these perpetuates the notion of separate races which can be qualitatively measured and evaluated in terms of good, bad, inferior or superior. etc… How many posts in this blog have been written with commentators fervently trying to prove or disprove this?
Its probably more accurate to talk in terms of “ethnicity”. Internalized racism can take hold in anyone wanting to deny or accentuate a particular aspect of their ethnicity. And more often than not that aspect tends to be African derived.
@ Abagond
It would probably help in the first instance if you could try to be more consistent in your usage of this type of “race” terminology in posts. Then perhaps you wouldn’t be forced to make quick revisions later on!
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Kwamla, of course you are right, and that is the dichotomy, isnt it?
Its in the face of the “white” invented “racism” that we have to discuss these issues
I would like nothing more than a world where we really did not have to have these discusions, and, I can say until Im blue in the face “there is no race”, but the nature of these issues, banging against “racism”, it seems hard to escape
All these semantical terms are weak metaphorical abstact discriptions
But, someone can bang their head hard against the wall of racism out here , that seems to force us to think in these terms to comunicate the issues
Actualy “bi racial” doesnt describe my son well, he is 3 “races”, noting that is not a technicaly correct term, and many ethnicities
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Yeah, in
(https://abagond.wordpress.com/2009/07/29/what-to-tell-your-children-about-racism/#comment-148138)
I said
Monoracial does not mean consisting of one single race, but a shorthand word to describe people who identify themselves socially and ethnically as assignable to a single category. In other words, it refers to people who do not define themselves as biracial or multiracial.
There has been considerable pressure both historically and in many different societies for multiracial people to identify as monoracial. For example, in Singapore, everyone has to carry an identity card that most clearly states what “race” you belong to. The general rule was to follow the race label of the father. But it created many situations where people didn’t identify with their race label, eg, a person labelled “Indian” but who was actually 1/2 Chinese and 1/4 Caucasian and less than 1/8 Indian and had no social identity with their race label. To change your official label was next to impossible. You had to prove that the government actually made a mistake, and placing you into a category you don’t identify with is not actually a mistake as long as they followed the rules.
But even Singapore changed this in 2010. It allows people to choose either the mother or father, or choose one “race” as their primary race and one as their secondary race or even choose mixed categories.
In Singapore, there is a racial category called “Eurasian”, applying to those who can trace their ancestry to some male European ancestor before Independence (even back to 19th century). They have their own social institutions and history and culture and form a separate “race”. However, since in the mid-late 20th century, few European people married into this group (since technically, it would have to be a white woman marrying a “Eurasian” man as someone would have had to been labelled as Eurasian before 1957 or earlier), each succeeding generation is actually more “Asian” than the prior one. Children who were born to a Caucasian parent and an Asian one (ie, Chinese, Indian, Malay, “Bugis”, or even Eurasian) would have to follow the racial categorization of the father. Now that it has changed (ie, a child born to a Caucasian parent and Asian parent) is now allowed to categorize themselves as either Caucasian, the relevant Asian category, as one primary race and one secondary race, or even as “Eurasian”. I have read that this has caused some of the members of the traditional Eurasian community to go up in arms. They feel that people who have never had any connection to the Eurasian community will now identify as such and threaten the integrity of their community and social institutions.
But USA is not really that different. You don’t have to carry an ID card to prove what you are, but you do have to carry a label. You are castigated if you do not wear your label as a full fledged citizen. Would an ID system of racial categorization help in the USA? At least it permits an element of self-identification. However, is one allowed to change this in the course of their life?
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(http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Indians_in_French_Guiana)
I just saw an in depth documentary here in Brazil about that aspect in Guiana or Guyana
from another wiki article:
“The largest ethnic group is the Indo-Guyanese (also known as East Indians), the descendants of indentured labourers from India, who make up 43.5% of the population, according to the 2002 census”
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@ Bulanik:
In answer to the character flaw thing:
https://abagond.wordpress.com/2012/10/15/of-mixed-race-identities/
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@ Bulanik
You are presuming too much. I am well aware of Indo-Caribbeans. A friend of mine and godmother to my children is Indo-Guyanese.
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Thanks for putting it succinctly. The issue was how multiracialism is marginalized. This blog is no different.
I suppose however, multiracialism has always been marginalized. Either they fade into monoracialism or a new ethnic group is formed (eg, Eurasians in Singapore, or mestizo populations in other countries.)
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I think the same happened recently in Macau.
Macau was a Portuguese colony for almost 450 years. Early Portuguese settlers mixed with the local Chinese to form a distinctive Macanese population. There are small amounts of other things mixed in (eg, Dutch / Scottish or Asian Indian, etc.). Most have Portuguese surnames and spoke a Portuguese creole at home, and learned standard Portuguese in school. Most also speak Cantonese, and sometimes even Mandarin. Most are Catholic. After 10-15 generations in Macau they developed a distinctive culture that differed from both the Chinese and the European Portuguese.
But, since the 1999 return of sovereignty back to the PRC, that all changed. China granted Chinese nationality automatically to those who were ethnically Chinese. They did not recognize the cases where some held Portuguese nationality. (I supposed that some who were part Portuguese, but who had Chinese surnames could get Chinese nationality). Portuguese that were not part Chinese were refused Chinese nationality, even if they had been born and raised in Macau. Now the Macanese of mixed ancestry were forced to make a choice. They could choose either Portuguese nationality or Chinese nationality, but not both. They had to make a declaration which one they would choose. This is interesting, because ethnic Chinese were granted Chinese nationality automatically, and were not forced to give up their foreign passports if they had one.
Some Macanese stayed. Some migrated to other countries (eg, Portugal, Brazil, even the UK or United States or Australia). But in either case, the group, which formed in the first place due to marginalization will now be forced to fade into non-existence for reasons of marginalization as well. They will be gone in 2-3 more generations.
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So much has been written about the death of Macanese culture.
Macau is a completely different place today than it was even in the 1990s. Macanese was a very poignant aspect of the society and culture. Today, not really. I think only vestiges of Macanese culture will survive for tourists, but as a system of social institutions and lifestyle, it will simply dissolve into the Chinese mainstream.
Of course, the ones overseas see less conflict in their inheritance. That is probably part of the reason why they left Macau in the first place (because they see the conflict if they stayed). They can maintain the sense of what they were by leaving.
I don’t know, maybe overseas enclaves will survive for a couple generations, but I can’t see them lasting long either without their institutions and social community.
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I don’t think DEATH per se, but dying.
I think I read about this more in print than on the net, but I can try to look for it. I remember looking into it after learning how Chinese Nationality laws applied to Macanese.
But, part of it also relates to actual trips to Macau over the past 20 years.
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Looking
A book published in 1999 at the time of change of sovereignty (Macau: A Cultural Janus By Christina Miu Bing Cheng) talked about the historical legacy of the Macanese culture, but is not updated for the current situation
http://books.google.com.hk/books?isbn=9622094864
I have also watched documentaries about them aired in Hong Kong.
I think the fact that most of them emigrated already indicates that they felt more comfortable leaving, rather than staying.
Still looking
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OMG, yes.
I guess we need to rewrite some of the prior observations in this blog:
“Some of my best friends (or relative or spouse) are (fill in the blank)” is a phrase (people who identify with another group) use to prove they are not racist. They also use it when they are about to say something racist: “Some of my best friends (or family) are (fill in the blank), but….” As if that gives them a green light to say any racist thing they want.
https://abagond.wordpress.com/2009/07/31/some-of-my-best-friends-are-black/
Sorry, is this being colour-blind? I don’t think I believe we can be colour-blind, but
I must reiterate that I enjoy reading this blog; there are elements of great insight here and there. But sometimes the shoe falls on the other foot.
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That goes for some of the commenters too. 😛
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Bringing up Guyana and its 40 percent Indian population is not some kind of “look , i know it exists”. Its verifying that there is a huge Indian population in that South American country, and, that there are huge cultural clashes between them and the “Afro descendants ” there, that is what that report on TV i saw reflected.Take the time to find out the point instead of lashing out….or maybe that just isnt posible
40 percent isnt a side note, like African Muslims taken into slaveryinto the Americas
I guess “friends” is selective, since Ive seen on here people use their African freinds as the referance to try to prove that no Africans refer to themselves as black,when that was blown out of the water…for sure , some Africans do refer to themselves as black
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I hate to do this AGAIN after making a post in the “of mixed race-identities” post, but abagond you are being TAG-TEAMED.
Bulanik, reading your post here I like your idea about marginalization of groups within groups etc. Abagond in his posts goes for the “big” issues, mainly black white racism. Of late he has been talking a lot about native americans and before that he did posts on asian stereotypes. However, I feel that you want him to talk more about one specific thing that you feel he is ignoring.
But what I think you are doing is trying to dilute the issue. By making him concentrate on things that are small and have minimal impact (excluding those it affects) he will deviate from the major issues that have an impact on A LOT of people (including those marginalized people you refer to, to one extent or another). In short I feel you want to turn him into some sort of academician – if that’s a word and are criticizing him for not being as rigorous and as thorough as an academic should be. Furthermore you are taking it into the territory that their is some kind of conspiracy on his part by trying to associate him with some kind of pattern of behavior towards this “marginalized” group that you are talking about.
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On multi-culturalism…
Multi cultural by its very definition means the existence or co-existence of people from different cultures within the same sort of space.
However, we know that within this milieu racism still exists and there is a hierarchy where those with “negro” blood are lower down the list. The more “negro” blood you have the lower down the list you are. This is also true in asian societies where in India they classify really dark people as “un-desirable”. The issue is that there is systematic racism in the whole world against the black person. We could all live in a multi-cultural society but that doesn’t mean that racism disappears unless we deal with the issue head on and call it what it is.
Multi-culturalism just masks the issue and making it the primary aspect of our discussions means we don’t talk about the REAL issues. That is how america can appear to be post-racial whilst actually in reality be the opposite. Countries like Brazil are like “Oh look at us, we are so multi-cultural, yay!” but in reality it is totally racist in terms that whiteness is the prevailing ideology which by it’s very definition requires the existence of an inferior underclass.
What about India? Land of enlightenment where they practice such a brutal caste system??
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“making him concentrate on things that are small and have minimal impact”
“making it the primary aspect of our discussions means we don’t talk about the REAL issues. ”
“Conspiracy”
@ Bulanik
Solution: don’t talk about those subjects and they’ll go away.
Maybe you’re right. I wonder if I should throw in the towel. Shut up and be suppressed.
But indeed, if a topic is generating discussion, isn’t it truly of interest then? Discussions about the most gorgeous women or men are much more impactful, I guess.
Years ago, I learned about several Asian American discussion forums which had turned very scathing towards “Hapas” who were invading their space and diluting issues viewed not relevant to monoracial Asians. I think it was more about trying to understand why Asian Americans turn so hostile towards the “Hapas”. I was simply hoping this blog would not try to imitate that behavior.
To be frank, I didn’t see any conspiracy here at all. I don’t even think it is hostile. Just a couple people chiming in and saying “I hear ya”.
And to let everyone know, I have submitted guest posts in the past, and more ideas for others, but none of them received any feedback or comment. I never said I would not submit any more, but that I would have to really think about it and spend time on it (which I don’t have now).
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Hahaha
First of all let me start by saying that all I posted was just my OWN personal opinions. They are not representative of anyone else.
Now that that is out the way, I find it interesting that both of you are trivializing what I said. I can only assume that this is so others don’t take it into serious consideration. This is a well known tactic used effectively by the mainstream media and people in “official” positions to discredit others.
Secondly, you 2 are working as a team. Is this disputable?
Thirdly, I don’t think I am delusional to think for whatever reason, you both are going up against abagond. Most of the recent posts I have read are always referencing him.
“I said this, he didn’t reply, abagond you do this, do that, bla bla bla, abagond this, abagond that, abagond why can’t you just be what we want you to be?”
Heck may be it is constructive criticism but even after he tries to make amends like with the recent post he did to clarify his position, you guys immediately jump on his back…
Am I being delusional? Is my mind making stuff up?
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Anyways, I don’t want to get drawn into some long debate.
Bulanik, I think you have very interesting ideas. You come across as very intelligent.
All I am saying is cut abagond some slack. You’ve made your qualms known, now wait for him to adjust and take all you’ve said into consideration.
Jefe is nothing but a critic, full stop.
He is just indulging you to get you to go along on his crusade.
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“Secondly, you 2 are working as a team. Is this disputable?”
“Am I being delusional? Is my mind making stuff up?”
Yep, I’m afraid so.
We just started this passionate discussion in the past couple days. There is no collaboration or conspiracy. I am sure our friend Abagond can verify that. He can check where our IP addresses are.
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@ Bulanik,
Stop, stop! I am not attacking you. It doesn’t matter whether you have an IQ of 200. Anyone can be manipulated. God!
I don’t understand, abagond is not attacking you either yet you think he is. You’ve made that clear.
“Abagond may have an “aversion” to commenters like “Bulanik” and stuff that “she” says.”
Bulanik, I actually have lost sight of what is going on. Just stop, in one hand you are like abusing me in another you want to have a discussion. It’s weird.
Look everything has been said. Lets leave it at that.
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OK Bulanik, I have just seen your most recent response regarding the “thanks dad” comment. If it’s an apology I accept.
I hope all is well now.
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@ Bulanik,
I have just read the build up to all this here:
https://abagond.wordpress.com/2009/07/29/what-to-tell-your-children-about-racism/
Ok, I see where you are coming from. I think you had valid points but it is still my belief that you took it over-board. Just my opinion btw, maybe it is just how you are or express yourself.
In there you also made references to how abagond treats you that implied you thought he somehow looked down at you or ignored you. I don’t know if this is true or just insecurity.
I am referring to:
“I won’t guess at Jefe’s reasons, yet both of us seem to be saying that we’ve noticed previous comments (and may have composed several ourselves) which shared, suggested and explained these other perspectives, time after time, down the weeks and months… And this was not “critical” commentary, I have to say. I have certainly learned my lesson from making contributions that Abagond hasn’t any interest in “seeing”.”
So to me this indicates that “Yes” there was something personal due to this perceived injustice.
Anyways, I agree with your original premise that maybe there should be greater discussion about multiculturalism or bi-racialism.
I apologize for commenting before going through the earlier stuff. I just saw abagond being “attacked” and reacted. I still do believe it was 90% trying to address a perceived blind spot 10% attack for perceived previous injustices. Just my opinion to justify my actions 🙂
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@ Bulanik,
Yeah I have read it about 3 times now.
Honestly speaking, and I am being as honest as I can, not attacking what anyone is saying, apart from the main point of “Abagond might not treat biracial or multi-racial people in a fair and just manner in his writing” I think the rest is just personal opinion and a bit of personal grievances. (Regarding this whole issue, not Legion’s Post)
For example: Using Legions Post:
“Suggestion: don’t ask Jorbia (BWE thread) to write this or that guest post. Don’t ask Bulanik or Jefe to write this or that guest post. If they call you out on something or have an issue with something, don’t write a mish mash post or any post just address it in the comment section like you did with Thad in that past thread.”
That is a good suggestion but what if someone counters it as such: If you and Jefe made a post which you seemed qualified to make as the issue in question struck very close to your heart, then wouldn’t future readers find it easier to locate that post (using the Index tab or search function or even through google) than an exchange of comments?
Isn’t this whole thing just a matter of opinion?(The majority of criticism that abagond is getting) Abagond works in one way and some people would prefer him to work in a different? Objectively speaking, no way is better or worse off than the other. You could make points for and against for whichever.
You are correct that I might have over-reacted. No one else was speaking up for him (not that he needs others to do so) so I figured I might as well step in.
Bulanik, as I said, you are obviously someone very intelligent – just my personal view since I have read many of your previous comments, so it is possible that every other point you made regarding this specific issue is 100% valid and I am completely mistaken. I am just stating what I think which could be wrong. However I am trying to see things from your point of view.
It is also my view that he should take what you and others have said into consideration.
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@ Bulanik,
Wow ok, I felt in that one post you’ve explained everything quite clearly.
It appears you and Jefe have a different experience with abagond. Well I can’t speak for him but I hope he responds to both your grievances.
As a reader of this blog, I obviously admire abagond for what he says and how he says it for the most part. I also admire the commentators for what they have to say and how they contribute to certain discussions. So I hope you all can settle this in a decent manner since I think most of everyone here wants the same thing.
Condolences for the loss within your family. I hope you are doing well.
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OK, to be quick
– Yeah, have seen things lifted from comments before and changed into new postings (no acknowledgement)
– have actually sent in draft posts before, with ideas for others (no comments, no feedback)
– have actually made comments regarding this related issue for over a year – no comments or feedback
– really busy in the past week or two, with work travel and deadlines on things – it takes time to compose a well thought out posting
“Abagond could have just talked to us. He didn’t. ” Yep.
“Good manners, humility and a little respect (for commenters who return and contribute month after month) go a long way, even on the internet.”
I am starting to wonder if he is doing this to see how much activity he generates on his blog, instead of just writing for the sake of writing about topics on his mind. Maybe he was like that back in 2006-2009, but it seems to be different now.
And activity generated – oh yes he succeeded here this time.
No, I was not looking for people to team up with and attack Abagond. No reason for that. I have enjoyed his blog.
But, over the past year and a half, it has happened that I made a comment that put a little different angle on the topic and another posted something to the tune of “Yeah, that is 100% spot on”. But none of that generated any response from Abagond. It’s OK. I am not expecting any.
I think the interchange with Bulanik started in just that manner. I think it escalated only because of some of the reasons already mentioned. But I don’t believe it ever turned hostile.
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There is nothing trivial about Miles Davis…in 100 years from now theywill be studying his music as one of the most important contribitons to American music in the last century….but, this just highlights another typical opinion fom someone who just frivilises black culture, who never really got it anyway, as amply demonstrated on that “Miles Davis” thread.Miles Davis is not just the “choons”
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Talk about not understanding internlased racism….if a person really understands the value of their culture ,internalised racism evaporates like melting ice…that is exactly the crux of internalised racism, having your culture denied triviolised and sluffed off as frivilous drumming, or music , when music is just the gateway to the power of a life affirming force. A force that can sustain a person or a people against slavery, racism , and a violent racism, as the force of black American music has sustained black Americans in their violent struggle against white American racism. Just look at “Negro” spirituals, at how jazz conquered American culture and the world
Which doesnt diminish the importance of the complex issues of a mixed “race” person in American society, I dont triviolise either.
The attitudes of white Americans against mixed “race” people were formed in slavery. The attitudes of black Americans , as you might see in Abagond, were more from the political black American Civil Rights movement,fanned by people like Fannon (like him over pshycho analysing a light skinned black women regecting black men for white men, as though that could represent any black woman who might date white men).
The political gains of the Black American Civil Rights Movement were enormous, the results were forged in struggle , blood, and violence .Racism against black Americans in America is violent. The dfences needed to fight and overcome that had to be deeply strong.
Some things were stepped on to forge that strength, you can see some of those things stepped on with its aftermath over on the BWE thread
And, mixed race people got stepped on also.
So, Jeffe, you have to ask yourself do you really understand what it is like to be a black American, living under a violent racism? Or anyone else outside of America, do you really understand black American culture, and what it is like living under a violent racism?
It is in that context that you have to analyse what Abagond has said
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@BR
I might not be able to know exactly what it is like to be a black American, but …
I certainly know what it is like to live under violent racism — perhaps even more than the blogger himself.
I am a native of Anacostia in SE Washington, DC and grew up there and in adjoining Prince George’s County, MD. If anyone is familiar with that area, they know that I have ample experience in poverty stricken or working class black neighborhoods. I have seen it first hand — White flight, blockbusting, police abandoning protecting neighborhoods once white flight starts. Even I have been harrassed by the police myself just by being in those neighborhoods.
Violence — yes, indeed. When we moved deeper into PG county, the neighbors attacked us – burned fires in our yard, dumped trash, stole items from the property and car, threw rocks and broke our windows, and I was chased and beat up frequently. Once I had to get treatment for a broken set of gums. Several youths planted Japanese flags in our yard and said Japs go home, get out of here (no one in my family has any Japanese background). My childhood was filled with fear and terror. I was there when MD forced it to desegregate in the 1970s, the largest public school system in the country subject to mandatory bussing, and I lived next to a school which had many violent encounters until the white parents yanked their kids out and put them in Christian academies.
My mother is a native of Anniston, AL. When I was born, the freedom riders there were beaten with pipes and the busses were fire-bombed. My father beat my mother up often (that is another story, but I think race was a part of that too), and when she tried to leave him and seek refuge with her parents, they refused to let her bring *me* to live with them. Given the racial climate then, I think they feared that the KKK could attack them too – they were full of shame and fear that their grandson would be discovered and lectured me throughout my childhood about how the Bible condemned what my parents did and such people will go to *hell*.
https://abagond.wordpress.com/2010/08/23/mothers-day-in-anniston/
When I was a child, my family could not travel around the country, not even rent a hotel room because of the anti-miscegenation laws. The only way my family could find housing was by my mother renting by herself and my father moving in later.
And to go back further, my paternal great-grandfather was lynched by a white mob in Oregon (around 1890) when he was a young man. My grandfather was orphaned as a young child back in China, and never got to know his father. My grandfather did not come to settle in the USA until the 1930s, and other relatives came later.
I have thousands of other stories (some violent, some not), but I think you get the point.
And, as a teenager and young adult, in an effort to understand what was going on, I read and studied voraciously on the topic of race and ethnicity in the USA.
I may not know exactly what it is like to be a black American, but I have lived in black neighborhoods and have experienced plenty of violent racism myself. In fact, it is one of the reasons why I decided to leave the USA. The persistent deep and often violent racism there is one of the reasons I do not like living there.
Sorry, but this does not help. I may understand the cultural background of my parents even better than they do, certainly better than my monoracial cousins. But I have been persecuted for holding on to both my parents’ heritage as far back as I can remember.
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@ Bulanik
You were spot on with that analysis of the video you posted above:
“…Psy, is just treated just like any other “weird” East Asian…”
It was amazing to watch how subtlety disrespectful Elllen was to not even introduce him properly. Psy had the awareness to make up for that by introducing himself. Ellen’s typically “white unaware” approach is no different to how Black people would have been treated prior to the 60’s before they began making up noise.
(One minor observation: Simon Cowell didn’t get up because he would have had to embarrass himself as a typical “no rthymn” , “non-dancing white male”!)
This is precisely the type of marginalisation the comments you and Jefe have been speaking to on this post and else where. The point to emphasis here is that even Black people and POC can be equally guilty of adopting this reverse “white unaware” approach. Its exactly the same thing just that the colour is reversed.
This is what Abagond doesn’t quite get yet. But the real issue is he doesn’t believe he needs to. You and Jefe are by no means the only ones who have attempted to point this out to him. I also have in other contexts.
@ Jefe
I think your comment here wonderful and concisely describes this typically “not getting it” experience and a bit more….
https://abagond.wordpress.com/2009/11/25/internalized-racism/#comment-148875
For a seasoned Black blogger of Abagond’s obvious merit, skill, dedication and passion its difficult to comprehend why he continually refuses to acknowledge these valid and relevant issues. As he has himself, in numerous posts, pointed out to white Americans on the subject of their own racism: simply ignoring it does not make it go away!
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@ Bulanik,
In terms of contributing to Abagond’s varied and at times diverse mixture of posts. I don’t think there is anyone in the last year or two who has probably written more responses than you. And detailed ones at that…!!! Though B.R is chasing you maybe not in the coverage of topics just in the sheer quantity!!
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@ Jefe
1. I am not great at answering comments. I will try to do better in the future. The only time I pointedly do not answer someone is when I think they are being a troll. You and Bulanik have never done that: your comments have always been thoughtful and serious.
2. From what I remember you did offer some wonderful ideas for posts and I said so to you, but I do not remember receiving any draft posts.
3. If you can give an example of the first one that would be helpful. I do not remember doing it.
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After I sent you an initial query, I sent you a couple of draft posts a month or two afterwards and ideas for additional ones. Maybe they just got lost in your email pile. I started drafting a few more, but I wanted to hear back from you first.
I’ll look for it again.
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@Bulanik
“Some things you say is why I never took the opportunity to live in the US with my family. And it is, in part, why I protect myself.”
I have told people that here (where I live now). In the US, they simply cannot get around the huge problem of race there. Well, sometimes they have something come out like “Forrest Gump” to point it out to people (even in a humourous way). But since the 80s, it became something that you simply don’t talk about anymore, at least not in public. I said it before, but it is the big elephant in the room that no one is supposed to talk about.
Even my parents fooled themselves into thinking they got past the racial differences in their marriage. But they did not. I think it was a big part of what tore their family and marriage apart.
Anyhow, I got so sick and tired of it I had to take a break and leave. But, it is funny — racism is part of the overseas societies as well – it takes new forms and looks different, but it is there too. But what I experienced in the USA prepared me for the worst that I could ever encounter anywhere else in the world.
I am not in any hurry to get back to the USA. Besides race, they have some other serious problems that they are not serious about tackling. Actually, I do think the president wants to fix some of those problems but he is stymied at every turn.
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I think the 2nd part of the statement is relevant –
“Or that you are, some how, a race traitor. That is very american take on this issue.”
Race traitor – it is another name for being called a sell-out.
Growing up I lived near a community of one of those “tri-racial isolates” They are mostly Mulatto, but there is some Native American ancestry among them ( I would hazard a guess that they are about 45% white, 40% black, 15% Native American). They kept separate from both the whites and blacks, and often intermarried among themselves. Most looked mulatto-ish, but some looked more black; some could pass as white; a few did indeed look part Native American.
To avoid the racial labels, they kept themselves apart from both the white and black communities. If they moved to large urban areas, I read they tended to mix more with blacks. In the rural areas, they mixed with each other, or perhaps sometimes with working class whites. But in my area, they were forced to put a racial label on themselves and some called themselves “American Indian” (I think, partially, to avoid being labelled white or black). They were ridiculed for it. I think the greater community wanted to split them up into nice even groups, even if it meant to tear their own community apart.
Tearing a community apart is not a problem, but keeping a separate identity is akin to being a race traitor.
I don’t think it is purely an American thing. Some marginalized people form their own new groups. It happens all over the world.
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Goodday all!
I’m mixed race! Yes “MIXED RACE” … Mixed race by standard of recognition for the statistical record keeping of government documents that tell us how many of you, me’s, he, she’s, black, white, yellow blah blah blah.. All in an attempt to inform the nations of which race is over or under populating a certain place at a certain time.. (yep, blacks were once supposed to be taking over Hanckney, London eheh) And in all my ranting, might I add that being mixed race isn’t enough..? We then need to state WHAT we are mixed race with .. And why? For the standard of recognition for the statistical record keeping of government BLAH BLAH BLAH.(you get the Jist!!)
Anyway, enough of the bulls**t .. this is my one and ONLY view.. !
I am black and always will be…!!
So regardless of the 25% white blood, 25% indian and er.. (I never was good at fractions) I do and always will identify myself as being black. I am not in any way denying the white or indian side because I love who I am, I love my relatives and I love all that God created .. so in essence.. I love you all … you whites, blacks, asians, latinos .. .yes I love you allllllllllll You, we, are all fabulous and wonderful creatures of God !!!
BUT !! My point is this.. we should not be afraid to love who we are.. alot of ppl jump onto the bandwagon of exaggeratting their many different heritages to take the focus off the side they are most insecure of (YES, THE BLACK SIDE) which is sad..! That is the side of us we need to stand up for most!!
Black people…we have a secret that no-one else knows.. so by changing who we are we are forgetting that secret. And it’s something that our oppressors are trying sooo hard to get us to forget. I do not need to tell u what that secret is because if u look hard inside yourself u will discover it.
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@ Bulanik,
If I read your response above correctly, aren’t you doing to Nay Le Bon what you are accusing abagond of doing to mixed race people?
Nay Le Bon has come out and told us who he thinks he is in his own terms. I accept it.
Why don’t you?
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I only say this because of this statement:
“That’s quite a big know-all leap to make. And an exaggeration in itself.”
I hope I didn’t misunderstand it because to me it sounded like putting Nay down.
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Jefe, thanks for sharing your exeriances,I can tell you, I have faced violent situations also,some racial, and, for 26 years, I have faced discrimination for my nationality, marginalisation , to outright disgusting insults from passing cars.The number of times I have been in a social situation where I have been the only white guy, or only white guy in a band is too huge to remember, and Ive seen the outright discrimination to my black American colleagues up close….but, I know, I dont really know what its like to be black in America.
And, you are missing the point,being, the collective black American struggle , against the most violent and discriminative virulant racism, has had to forge enormous defences. And, in that process, some groups of people got stepped on. Its in that context that you should reguard Abagond’s statements.You shouldnt be concentrating on him, but , the defences, out of political activism, that have stepped on mixed race people. And ,you cant deny the enormous gains that were made by the black American community by forging those defences,that small parts stepped on some peoples sensibilities…you cant lose sight of the bigger ´picture. You also cant lose sight of how black Americans got hurt by some of these defences also, the aftermath being clear on the BWE thread.Some political activism can make great strides forwards, other political activism can cause serious and lasting damage .
You also dont get my point about embrassing one’s culture to deal with eternal racism. It doesnt stop the outside discrimination, it fortifies the person inside.Ive brought in several African youtubes of war torn orphans practicing their culture to gain back a sence of who they are and their self value. And, Ives seen a moving documentry of war torn Uganda children , from the most tragic backgrounds, participating in a cultural contest demonstrating their artistic talents, and you can see the huge transition of their expresions of how fullfilling it was to be expressing their culture, with moving testimomies od how it made them feel whole again
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Kwamla, about my quantity of posts, Im just waiting for you to catch up…….ha
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@ Bulanik,
Uhmm, I don’t know what to say… Maybe you feel like I have something against you. I will back off.
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It never had anything to do with “who suffered more”, and everything to do with not understadning black American culture.
People can point fingers at someone and call them “racist”, “opressor”, use all the language that was developed right out of the black American Civil Rights movement, but, they have no idea what real black American culture and the real struggle was all about.
They are more than willing to attack Abagond for his views , but, have no idea of the origins of those views and how it has much more to do with a political activist agenda , that was part of a much bigger political activist agenda.
They dont know how to go back to “Mashed Potatoes”time, they dont even know what that means, because you really have to go back to the time when the black American dance , The Mashed Potatoes was in style to understand that coming up soon in the future is going to be a major shift in the political thinking of black Americans.”House and Feild Negro” doesnt explain this because house and feild doesnt break down in color. Colorism existed, but, the “mixed race” individual was not scrutinised in a political agenda context as it has become now.
People arnt giving the black American struggle enough ackowledgement, in this look at “mixed race” attitudes, that it was about putting together defences against this unrelenting white violent racism, which again, they know nothing about …sorry, but having violent situations in someones life has nothing to do with living under Jim Crow laws, white flight real estate, police brutality and society putting you down and stripping you of your culture etc all amped up on Afro descendants brought over from slavery.And it just shows that people cant just look at the black American situation with out having to compare it to any other situation on the planet…this is a blog by a black American , with black American sensitivities, not Indian from India, Arab, Chinese, European, etc
Because if they truly understood how absolutly total these defences had to be put in place to overcome a system that truly was against succeeding , if they truly understood black American culture and how it developed, they would see that it isnt about attacking one person for something they are saying, its about going to the origins of this agenda and looking at it as the real cause of some of the views about “mixed race ” people that have put them in the middle of a no win situation ..they are showing a lack of sympathy for the defences needed.
Are “mixed race” individuals sensitivities important? Absolutly!
There is a need to re examine some of these political agendas that just dont carry over, and are just a yoke on everyone , blatently on display in the BWE thread.But , you cant diminish the struggle. The black American struggle against white racism is a work in progress, its on going. And, because of this struggle, there have been enormous gains…70 percent middle class in a system that never wanted or cared for them to succeed..
Yes, some sensitivities have been lost in the struggle
The incredible black American art of tap dancing got thrown under a bus it never has recovered from
Thanks to herculian efforts by Wynton Marsalis, Louis Armstrong , put down by this poltica agenda , for shucking and jiving to the white man, finaly has been recognised for the genius he represents in American culture
And “mixed race ” people have been caught in the middle of a political agenda that really leaves them in a horrible position, and, it deserves to be scrutinised very hard….because America is changing..fast..and who is stuck in political agendas from the past, may be lost in the confusion as the change comes…they will suffer in the long run more than mixed race people
Tyrone is a black American whose defences are rightfully locked and loaded against white racism. He deserves to shine a light on this white racism and how it will seep into so many areas to only try to put him down…but, his views on “mixed race ” people might end up as stiff bonds that could be melted away in him if he one day met a mixed race girl that he fell in love with , or someone who might save his life or help him in a profound way that would highlight the barriours of his beleifs about mixed race people
But, if peope dont really understand black American culture , the origins of the poltical activist agendas, what it was like before, they are just surfacly attacking what someone sais and not getting anywhere near the real issues and answers to why these things are how they are now
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I am always perplexed at the boogie woogie that goes on with this blog and the semantical instant political activist scrutiny
“black”, “sub Sahara”, “mixed race”, I mean they are all inadaquate metaphors
but, subtitute them with more inadequate metaphors, as filled with holes as swiss cheese?
Take ” aboriginal indigenous natives”…I mean seriously
“aboriginal” blatently brings to mind “aboriginies” from Australia and could be severly confusing.
“indigenous”, why dont they ever say “Hitler invaded the indigenous people of Poland and the Sovite Union and France”? it seems only reserved for suposedly people outside of “civilisation”
“natives” only conjures up visions of “the natives are restless”
Its totaly as inadaquate as the other terms and actualy confuses conversation, only regulating it to some elite scholar “I am superiour to you because I can use these confusing complicated definitions”
Comunication is what is important, not some semantical out pointing the other with suposidly political correctness
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Sorry, Abagond , both these posts were meant for the “Mixed Race Thread”
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@ Bulanik:
Say what? I’m a person of colour? Well, I learn something new every day. 😀
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Internalized racism is what you can find over at Diary of a Tired Black Man Forums, Sgt. Willie Pete’s Gen-X blog, Evia Moore’s blog and Halima’s Blog..
and various other blogs supposedly for and run by black people.
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@Leigh
“Well, I learn something new every day. ”
Yeah, but can you ever understand any of the subjects under discussion. 😛
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@ Jefe:
No, I cannot as I’m a Filipino-Canadian. I don’t have anything to contribute. 😉
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Wow!! Why does EVERY opinion on these forums get deemed as some kind of personal vendetta against the whole world.. lol! People need to chill the f**k out!!
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@Leigh
Yeah, know you’re place and stay there.
WAIT. Did you say that you were FILIPINO-CANADIAN? Can you PROVE that? 😛
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@ Jefe:
lol! I can’t prove I’m Filipino-Canadian. However, I’ve been commenting here and there on Abagond’s blog for the past four years. I’ve always stated I was Filipino-Canadian. 🙂
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@ Bulanik:
Hmm. I was thinking “nude” represented her being stripped bare. Her true self. Btw, I know what you mean about the tights/band-aids, they were not brown, but pink-toned.
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@Leigh, you know I am joking right?
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OMG, I used to use Pear’s soap. 😛
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I loved that soap :/. Christ, this world can be so depressing. Sammy looks ill, I’m surprised no one close to him said something.
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@ Jefe:
Of course, silly! lol! 😀
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@ Bulanik:
blockquote>@ Leigh
I recall once, when I was 7 or 8 years old washing my hands and the white child I was with (about the same age) being astonished that the “dirt” from my brown hands didn’t come off in the wash (lol).
As a child, I remember one neighbor’s young daughter asked me why I didn’t have white skin like she did. I told her I was born this way. She said, “But you’re brown!” I said, “Yeah…and?”
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[…] internalized racism […]
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Well I’m not black, I’m a mix of Mexican, Native American, and Spanish. When I was a kid, my grandmother on my mom’s side was very hateful to me. My dad was a Mexican immigrant, he worked for my mom’s parents in their fruit orchards. My grandma called us dirty wet backs. You see, my mom’s parents were Spanish (grandpa) and Native American/Spanish (grandma) and they did not like white people, black people, or Mexicans. They were also hateful of asians, particularly Japanese. I grew up in small town that was a Spanish settlement that kind of got left behind in 1690. Very narrow-minded people there. I was constantly told by my grandma that I wouldn’t amount to anything because I was Mexican. She told me that I couldn’t go to college, that I could never own a business, or even buy a house. She said those things aren’t for Mexicans. She said that only white people can be rich and that I would be in poverty all my life – particularly because I’m Mexican. She also said no man would ever love me because of my hair – which is very curly after my Dad’s – the rest of my family has thick straight Native hair, mine is pretty kinky. My mom always told me grandma was just a hateful person so I never believed it, as hurtful as it was. But now I’m grown up and successful – not living in poverty, college grad. I live in the El Paso, TX, Southern New Mexico area, and the population is mostly hispanic. But I work on a military base and my kids go to school and day care on base – where the population in this tiny community is mostly white. The other day we were at walmart and there were police and my oldest daughter, who just turned 13, asked why there would be cops there. I said “Maybe someone got caught shoplifting.” As we were driving by the entrance, we could see the police talking to a man who was obviously hispanic. My daughter says, “Of course – Mexicano – stealing.” And the way she said Mexicano – in a fake snobby accent – was so disrespectful. I flipped out on her. I guess I should have seen the signs, she refuses to pronounce Spanish words correctly, and after she started going to school there she slowly stopped speaking any Spanish to where now she won’t even pronounce her name corectly. I don’t know what to do. I have always been so proud of my culture and heritage, and my mixed race. It hurts me so much to see my daughter cut herself off from her own people, and even show such hate towards them.
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@Tanya
I share your concerns as I fear that my daughter may experience similar when she reaches that age. My husband is Mexican and I am black. I try to show her the good and joy of both cultures and my husband is adamant about this as well. I keep a lot of things in our home from a lot of different cultures but I focus on Mexican culture because that is a part of who she is.
Unfortunately friends are the biggest influence and with peer pressure she will not quickly steer away from that type of behavior. I would simply continue to present your culture to her as a part of your life and perhaps with age she will understand and embrace it.
Good luck.
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5. I mocked aspects of my culture and people openly.
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9. I saw Asians as abnormal compared to whites.
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“Reparations are a bad idea because they would ultimately backfire. Paying reparations would fuel white resentment not just towards the blacks who receive them, but also towards other minorities.”
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“When I was younger, I had internalized racism deeply.”
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Kiwi,
When you were younger, what were your thoughts about black people?
How does your thoughts about black people today differ than when you were younger?
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i think i´m begining to sufer from internalized racism, i am black, born in a latin american country and i have been depressed in the last month because of how negative black people are portrayed in the media, also the fact that if we can afford traveling we have to always research how much racism there is a a country that we would like to visit, we blacks can be discriminated against everywhere in the world(even in africa) whereas whites are worshipped.
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@ willson
That is still external racism. Internal racism is when YOU start believing that those things are justified and deserved.
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@ willson
also the fact that if we can afford traveling we have to always research how much racism there is a a country that we would like to visit…
I understand this. I’ve thought similar things. But really, the best research is to go to the place. Don’t let secondary sources imprison you or curtail your experiences. Go to the place, keep your wits about you and carry yourself like you belong.
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Oh yeah! Aba, look that Lucky Brown Brighten Cream link, WTF man, it doesn’t work! It just goes to this stupid museum. You need to fix that, seriously!
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@ Legion
People who want to lighten their skin need to see that museum more than they need to lighten their skin!
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[…] experience racism. Or maybe not, Asian supporters of this play show how people of color learn to internalize racism against themselves as a […]
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I gave up on black people a long time ago. The “black” people that I love, I no longer see as black. I no longer see myself as black. In doing so, I released much of the pain that blackness brought in childhood the beatings, the pressure to get a relaxer and my beautiful afro hair falling out, the ostracism by my own people. Black is now the other. Black is now “Them” the evil spirits of white imagination.
I feel a burning hatred when I see “black” people. I feel tense, like a bad omen has brushed over me I feel sick when I hear Hot 97 blasting and see sagging pants. Blackness. Disgust
Then there are figures like WEB Dubouis.Thinkers who fought for the dignity of “black” people. And yet blackness has been robbed of its humble glory and invaded by monsters like the ones on BET and your local ghetto. So many, myself included, have been displaced.
I hate black people. I love those who were displaced.
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@sad
Those that are displaced are still black people. You will be black until you decide to get plastic surgery, bleach your skin, and by odd chance label yourself as white or Latino.
No one seed you as other and frankly that is internalized racism for you.
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Correction sees*
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Internalized racism is a fantasy of colored people.
A couple of points:
1. Multiracial societies are the minority in the world. The USA is a very peculiar place in the world, an unnatural place. Whites usually are in Europe, Blacks in Africa, Asians in Asia, etc. So there is no confusion.
2. Most colored people in USA, especially blacks, are not true blacks. They are mulattoes, aka with White blood. As such….Probably this is where the wish to be White comes from. Because they are in fact part White. Do 100% black Africans wish to be White? No they never do. They are proud of their race just like Whites.
American blacks are the spawn of slave masters and their slave concubines, and they are confused about their identities. But the few 100% black people in USA, do not hate their own race.
CONCLUSION: Race mixing is bad. Multiracial cultures are unnatural and lead to confusion & problems. To be sure…Although segregation is bad, races should not mix. This prevents confusion such as “internalized racism”.
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Multiracial societies dominate in nearly all areas in the world that were exploited by Western Europe, or were European settler colonist areas. They are found around the world, but particular in the Americas and on islands in the Pacific and Indian Oceans.
Even prior to European imperialism, they were found along major trade routes, such as the Eurasian Silk Road or those surrounding the Indian Ocean. Even prior to that, it would be found in the ancient human empires.
The USA is by no means unique or unusual, at least in THAT regard.
Race mixing, per se, has never been a “bad thing” in human history. Some countries (eg, Mexico) have modern populations that are almost entirely the result of race mixing.
Of course, the USA does have its own peculiar history that has brought us to the present day. Some of that history is bad, esp. the white supremacy, slavery and manifest destiny parts. These are what caused people to adopt a colonized mind, one effect of which is internalized racism.
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@ Mark I
How did the first group of Blacks become “mulattoes” – aka with “white blood”? The White supremacist (White historian) and White extremist (Mark I) will NEVER explain how a significant element of Black people became so-called Mulattoes (“bi-racial” or “mixed race” people). The first so-called Mulattoes were the product of a White man, typically a White slave-master or overseer, raping (voluntarily or involuntarily) a helpless Black slave-woman on the White man’s plantation. Prior to raping the first Black woman on the slave-ship and plantation, the White man raped helpless, Native American women throughout the Americas and called their offspring “Mestizo.” The White supremacist and White extremist will say what they want to say but don’t give the full breakdown of things. Mark I’s rhetorical comment is an example of White genetic annihilation – as Dr. Frances Cress Welsing points out. Today, the White supremacist/White extremist is raping another woman of color – the Asian/Asian-American woman. Online dating is a sophisticated way for the White supremacist and White extremist to rape young, naive Asian/Asian-American women (and girls) – unfortunately, many of these Asian women are embedded with internalized racism.
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@ Mark I
Btw, I’m not an endorser of racial amalgamation nor do I speak ill of it. Love sees NO COLOR. However, many people date or marry outside of their race because of internalized racism or out of spite.
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@Jefe and Michael Cooper
Well said and very informative.
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Maybe Mark hates being ‘white’ and is suffering from internalized ‘whiteism’? In any case, opinions are like anal openings, everyone has one!
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@ Herneith
About Mark I’s internalized whiteism – ain’t that the truth!
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I see internalized racism when black people deal with black people who THEY DON’T KNOW.
I’m not talking about your black mother, black father, black brother.
NO !!
Let me see how you deal with black people WHO YOU DON’T KNOW.
I’ve seen black people move to another seat when a black person sits next to them on a bus. I’ve experienced this myself. I’ve known black people who don’t like to go to places were there are too many black people
Outside of church gatherings many of us assume that all black places are ghetto and ratchet. It’s almost like some us HAVE TO HAVE white people around us to make us feel comfortable. .
But black people can experience a LIFETIME of sh*t from whites and they will still gives whites a shot. But let him/her have one bad experience with a black person ? Just one. And that’s it.
I’ve seen black people stand on the edge of train lines, a sea of whites behind them. All it would take is one push. Or black people getting angry when they find out that they’re next door neighbour is black.
When we deal with black ppl who we don’t know, we can be as racist as anyone else.
I can remember when me and my father got on a plane and for the first time ever, there was a black pilot and my father said “I hope this brother can fly this plane”
Now understand. My father was a speaker against racism in England. has published works against racism, been radio shows, campaigned, demonstrated.
I was brought in solid African household. But DESPITE all that when PRESSURE WAS REALLY ON, that white supremacist gene that has be planted in all black people came up.
Don’t get me wrong, he checked himself and realized that that black pilot was almost certainly the best pilot in the whole airport.
He would have had to have been.
You know they tested him and tested him and re tested and he must have aced every time and even though he was qualified pilot. You know he’s STILL probably the most watched, criticized pilot there is. So he was super safe..
But that’s not the point.
The point is that thought came into my fathers head of course all the whites and non-blacks on the plane thought it too. But if the seed of black inferiority has been planted in my father, it can be in anyone..
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@TheHipHopRecords (@TheHipHopRecord)
as resw would say, +1000!!!
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A great irony indeed. The people a black person (well a black man anyway, I have noticed quite a bit of difference in treatment of black men and black women) is most likely to encounter racism is among other black people (that they don’t know, professional and non professionals of all stripes, in my experience, particularly doctors). Not because blacks are more racist, though I cannot say they are less, but because black people are the people that black people are likely to encounter on a daily basis. We all, all races, carry this mental illness.
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@HipHop Records: Agreed.
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Dictionary example of self-loathing:
http://www.richmond.com/opinion/their-opinion/guest-columnists/w-f-twyman-jr-column-the-turning-point-of-self/article_ef8d9d12-a134-5e46-96ff-b429b54f199a.html
Of course, it was mostly whites who responded positively to this article. This guy hasn’t got a clue. Read it and weep, or laugh!
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[…] do notappreciate being accused of being racist against my own kind. Sometimes referred to as “internalized racism,” it’s theallegation that you believe the stereotypes that the world has created of […]
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@ Mark I
The above talking points could have come from a white diehard supporter of segregation. I half-expected you to declare race-mixing as “communism”.
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@ Mack Lyons
I always have a hearty laugh when I read White trolls rant and rave about “race mixing” and how “the races should remain separate”, etc. It was their ancestors that traversed the globe, jumping out of their pantaloons and “mixing” with every local female they could find.
If they think race mixing is so bad, they should pack up and move back to Europe———and stay there.
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[…] do notappreciate being accused of being racist against my own kind. Sometimes referred to as “internalized racism,” it’s theallegation that you believe the stereotypes that the world has created of […]
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