Some stuff you probably should not say to White Americans:
“racist” – never ever tell White people that they are racist or anything close to it. It can lead to something far worse than racism: hurt White feelings, like White women’s tears. It will only prove to them that you are the racist one.
“whitey”, “honky”, etc – racist, even if you have a suburban pass.
“cracker”, “vanilla”, “mayonnaise”, etc – comparing people to food is dehumanizing.
“Do you prefer to be called White or Caucasian?” – pointing out their race makes them uncomfortable. In fact, pointing out any difference makes them uncomfortable. Instead, make it about stuff you have in common, like sports or the weather. Certainly not history:
“slavery”, “genocide”, etc – do not bring up the bad parts of their history. Deep down they know they are among the most savage, terroristic and thuggish people in history, so do not rub their noses in it. Their fragile pride depends on maintaining a false sense of innocence.
“Black lives matter” – in some circles this could get you beat up. Many Whites believe “All lives matter”, where “all” means “only White”, as in the White saying, “all men are created equal.”
“Can I touch your hair?” White people are not a roving petting zoo provided for your curiosity.
“What are you?” – not a zoo animal.
“Is it true what they say about White guys?”, “Is your hair real?”, etc – rude because it is too personal.
“As a White person, what do you think about … “ This is insulting. Whites think of themselves as individuals, not part of a hive mind.
“Why do White people…” – this makes it seem like you stereotype them.
“Why do you people…” – this is even worse because the “you” is othering.
“I like White people”, “I like White culture”, etc – see “Do you prefer to be called White or Caucasian?”.
“I watch Hollywood films”, “I’m into Christian religion”, “I’m into White girls”, “I admire your leader Donald Trump”, etc – this is a better way to show you like White culture, but to bring it up out of the blue will seem odd. And that “into” is kind of creepy too. Also, do not assume that any given White person likes all of White culture. They are individuals with individual tastes, just like everyone else.
“You are pretty for a White girl” – even if true, this is a backhanded compliment. It assumes that most White women are not all that good looking.
“You speak such good English!” – another backhanded compliment. It assumes they are either foreign or lack intelligence.
“You look so exotic!“ – this says more about you than them.
“Where are you really from?” If they say they are from the US, why assume otherwise?
“Totally rad”, etc – overuse of outdated White slang will not put them at ease or make it seem like you are up on White culture. In fact, it will have the opposite effect.
– Abagond, 2015.
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