“Exotic”, at best, is a relative term: exotic for whom? It is like saying someone has an accent. There is something unstated that you are comparing it to. What might be exotic in White America would not be exotic in parts of New York, Lebanon or China.
When someone says a woman looks “exotic”, the question that springs to mind is: Where do you live? What kind of women are you used to?
The women in Thailand do not look exotic in Thailand, even if they look that way to you. The same goes for any other country you can name, even Madagascar.
And that gets to the second point: exotic women are not exotic. Not to themselves – just to you. Exotic is a point of view, a trick of the mind, it is not something in the women themselves.
That means that exotic women are the same as those boring, very unexotic women you know and run into all the time. Women are the same all over the world. Exotic women are not any easier to date or get into bed, they are not going to fall at your feet, despite the stories you have heard (but if they do, keep reading). If you have little luck with unexotic women, then you will have little luck with exotic ones.
Note: if they do fall at your feet when unexotic women do not, then that is a huge red flag. Most likely it is because you are from a rich country and they are from a poor one. It is not you that they like – they see you for the dork you are – but the chance to get into or stay in your country. Do not fool yourself.
Now from the other end:
If a man says you are “exotic”, then that is a huge red flag too. He is not seeing you but some picture he has cooked up in his head about women who look like you. There is a good chance that he is a loser or just wants you for sex.
If he seems to think you are exotic, then ask yourself these two questions:
- Does he often go out with women of his own kind?
- Have you met his mother?
“No” to either of these questions is a bad sign. If he avoids having you meet his mother, then he is using you. If he barely dates women of his own kind then there is a good chance he is dating not you but a stereotype.
Ask to meet his mother – or, better yet, grandmother. Ask him what he thinks about women who look like you and about women of his own kind. See what he says.