Disclaimer: I am no expert on this, but I did read about it on the Internet! So before all these pearls of Internet wisdom disappear from my brain, here is what I found out. Almost everything below applies to husbands as well, of course, but I will express it in terms of wives since that is my point of view as a man:
- You suspect she is unfaithful. Sadly, most (though not all) men who suspect their wives turn out to be right. But the opposite is not necessarily true since wives can have an affair without the husband having faintest idea of it.
- Sudden changes in her behaviour, particularly in:
- the amount, quality or style of sex. Sex will probably decrease, but it could in fact increase.
- an increase in the money she spends.
- an increase in time spent on the computer online or on the telephone
- an increase in time spent away from home, often excused as working late or being with friends.
- more attention to personal appearance or a change in her appearance. She looks more beautiful, she has a glow, she is losing weight, etc. Odds are it is not for you.
- a sudden interest in something she never cared about before
- People you both know start acting uncomfortable or uneasy when they are with you. Because they know.
- She frequently finds fault with you. She is comparing you with her new lover and in her mind is trying to somehow excuse her actions.
- Your wife picks arguments over little things that do not matter. This is particularly a bad sign if she uses it as an excuse to leave the house to “cool off”. It could be a trick to see her lover.
- When you ask her where she has been she repeats the question, avoids it or gets angry instead of simply telling you.
- In bed she no longer holds you or has her body next to yours – because it makes her feel like she is being unfaithful to her new lover.
- She distances herself from your family. They make her feel uncomfortable – why is that?
- She distances herself from you. It is now “I”, no longer “we”. You become less a part of her life. She no longer cares about what you think or feel or want to do. Her “friends” are more important than you.
- She accuses you of having an affair – to turn attention away from herself, if only in her own head.
- Your marriage is suddenly troubled. There are many reasons for that, but an affair is one of the main ones.
None of these prove anything – they are just red flags, bad signs. Each one can have a Perfectly Logical Explanation.
I know that for a fact since I have been accused of having an affair, having shown some of these signs myself, like working late and having sex less often. Yet I know I was utterly faithful despite how it might have seemed.
Cue “Lately,” by Steve Wonder.
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My ex-fiancee had nearly all of these red flags, way back when…only #8 and #11 from this list didn’t apply; being a classic abuser, he did his best to limit my contact with my family and friends so he never had to hide from them – he never tried to get to know them. 11 wasn’t applicable because we weren’t married yet and hadn’t set a date – after about 3 months of his petty behavior and unbelievable lies, I moved out. I paid my portion of the bills and extricated myself from the ‘relationship’…one of the best things I ever did for myself. 😎
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Ha-ha. These are the same tell-tale signs for a man who’s having an affair. I still cannot fathom why people just don’t leave a relationship they’re unhappy in. It makes me feel like people who do have affairs have a sociopathic nature.
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I think yr next post might attempt to explain WHY people tend to stray from their partners. Signs may suggest evidence of an affair but the reasons for such are equally as important, dontcha think?
I’m just asking.
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….totally out of left field, but a welcome diversion
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I started this blog mainly to write about my marriage, but I stopped writing about it altogether two years ago since people threw it in my face and even brought it up on other blogs. I should have known better. I thought writing under a pen name would spare me of that kind of stuff, but my cyber-identity has become real enough where it does matter, strange to say.
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Sometimes it helps to get things OFF your chest! Writing stuff “anonymously” on a blog can help to get a clearer perspective on things. Do what’s on your heart if you know it’s the right thing to do.
Peace & Love Bruh
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proudchocolategirl said:
@ abagond,
well I think you should just spare us the comments about how sexually frustrated you are with your wife…I mean, i hope you get some more and all, i feel sorry for ur troubles…but it is uncomfortable and i don’t think she would appreciate it…
Menelik says:
I’m not sure I read in this post how Abagond was “sexually frustrated” with his wife. Where was it? He does however, suggest how “humiliating” it is for a man not to suspect his wife maybe having an affair.
How is this possibility “humiliating” for the woman? I’m confused by what you have written above.
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Proud Chocolate Girl made some comments that I deleted. I am not going to discuss my marriage in public, not any more, not for the forseeable future.
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Abagond,
Blogging about your marriage, especially when it comes to intimate details, is not the smartest thing to do. Not just because people can use that information to hurt you, but also because it’s… well, too personal to share those details with the whole world. Also, it presents only one side (yours), but I guess that’s always an issue (even if you were talking to your close friends).
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I don’t know, I get the idea that if it was a woman blogging about an abusive relationship with her husband—and she never revealed either of their identities—that nobody would have any problem with it.
I could be wrong… but I call
SEXISM
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You forgot one; When she starts playing the ‘Thrill is Gone’, when her husband enters the room.
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Growing up and in my late teens/early 20’s my friend was convinced her dad was having an affair. We even tried following him a couple of times but to no avail. Her suspicions died down but then my friend and her mum and aunts went on a day trip that got cut short and they returned home early unexpected to find dad, infligrante with, as was put , ‘some dried up husk of a woman’. As can be expected all hell broke lose and my friend lost it and went to box the simpering woman. Much to her disgust her father quickly stood in front of the wench and raised his hand to my friend warning her to back off or else she would feel his fist.
Lets just say their always tenuous relationship was never the same again.
Trust
Loyalty
Lies
Deceit
Her poor mum was crushed and took to sleeping in the same bed as my friend for a while but seemingly forgave him and went back to the marital bed. My friend never ever understood why her mum did this and this further fractured her relationship with her parents.
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Methinks abagond is in a bad place with this one, writing is therapy
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@ Louie jacuzzi,
writing is ‘therapy’ regardless of the subject matter or the “place” from which one chooses to write from.
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A lot of the signs listed here would just as easily be “signs that your wife is unhappy with you”.
When a relationship is going sour (for non-affair-related reasons), a lot of the things here will apply. In many cases, the husband will be mostly at fault. (I’m not talking about you here Abagond).
So while this list might be valuable to some, it could give some people the wrong idea. A lot of the time, seeing some of these signs should tell you “I need to lift my game and slavage this relationship”, rather than “she is having an affair.”
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I’ll never understand why married couples have such a hard time talking to one another. They talk to co-workers, friends, family members, strangers on the internet, etc. They even write letters to radio stations to ask unqualified people for advice. What is it about marriage that affects your ability to communicate? The last thing a fractured couple needs is advice from people who have no idea how to maintain a relationship. And how exactly does cheating bring you closer?
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Anyone else remember that song “Walking in the Rain” by Oran “Juice” Jones? This post reminds me of it.
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@ mochasister
“That’s right, Silly Rabbit, tricks are for kids, don’t you know that?
You without me is like corn flakes without the milk!”
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@ King
That was the best part of the song. I didn’t care for his singing so much. I just liked hearing him go off on the girl. “Don’t touch that coat!”
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Lol! I know!
“You just a squirrel tryin’ ta get a nut! This is MY world!!”
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LOL! I remember that song!
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I don’t think married couples in general have trouble communicating, but I can see how one can end up talking to everyone but the partner when they have an issue. e.g. There is a problem in the relationship and one confronts the other about it. Let’s just say the woman confronts the man about not spending enough time with her since this is about women cheating and it makes it simpler to explain. He admits there is a problem and he is going to work to change and improve things. It’s better for a few days, then he’s back to spending all his time at home involved in his own world, more or less ignoring his partner. She tries to get his attention and spend some time doing things together, but nothing works. If she tries to talk to him about this several times and this pattern continues, what’s the point in talking to her husband? She needs help from somebody else and he’s clearly unable to fix it himself. The best thing to do would probably be seeing a marriage counsellor, but plenty of people are ashamed to admit their marriage got that bad. Cheating doesn’t bring anyone closer, but I suppose it’s an easy solution for a woman who feels she cannot leave the relationship, but is still unhappy in it.
Note: This is not to say that a man always does something wrong to make a woman cheat or that women are innocent angels. There are women who simply fall out of love, or aren’t the type for a long-term committed relationship. That has nothing to do with the man doing anything bad. There are also women who aim to inflict pain with their cheating. There are women who simply didn’t consider their partner’s feelings important enough to break up with him before going off with someone else. There are women who are very greedy and selfish and just want it all and get bothered when there are consequences to deal with. Yes, some cheaters are evil, some are not. Perhaps the act of cheating itself immediately registers as `bad’ with most people, but it really isn’t that simple when you’re examining the specific human beings involved.
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Abagond,
You need Game.
Have you recovered well since your breakup?
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I know we don’t really see eye to eye abagond,
but here is a song dedicated to finding new love.
whether in your current relationship or a new one,
works either way
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sigh……affairs make me want to cry. I’m pretty lucky to have a fiancee who loves me and takes care of me, He even allowed me to live with his parents when my family abandoned me. I feel horrible for men and woman who have to deal with affairs because their “lovers” have lost their love. I’m proud to say I’m not getting married to some low life….I’m marrying a winner! 🙂
I hope people who cheat get cheated on….because what goes around comes around. Connection or for sexual interest it should not matter, YOU HAD A CHOICE!!!! you married that person….you said your vows….le sigh people are retarded and I hope they as I said before get cheated on too so they can experience the pain.
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I will be honest…some of this definitely applies to my husband.
He has become obsessive with his body image at 42 years old. He works out on a daily basis and rarely wants to be intimate with me.
If he’s having an affair (which I wonder about sometimes) I have no idea because I have no proof of anything.
I’m still in love with him, still attracted to him, but I’m tired of feeling like he doesn’t really want me.
We hardly have sex anymore and when we do, it’s just blah. So while I wouldn’t have an affair (because I think infidelity is wrong and because it destroyed my parents’ marriage), I want to be desired by my husband.
I want to feel appreciated and I want to feel sexy. I’m nearly 30 and although I don’t quite have the body I had at 22, I still think I’m an attractive woman.
But communication can be difficult sometimes. I’ve asked him if he was seeing anyone and he denied it. I’ve tried telling him and showing him what I need, but to no avail.
Sometimes I wonder…I know that there could be any number of factors like work, stress, or his being older than me. But I’m not sure.
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I think my wife is having an affairs she’s always on the phone on odd hours like 2 am she store male numbers under females name
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@Tshepo
Have you listened in to her phone conversations? What is the nature of them? The fact that she is speaking at 2am isn’t promising however, it may not mean that she is physically meeting up with men for affairs. Sadly there is a rise in ‘sexting’ and phone sex, which is perfectly fine if you’re in a relationship/marriage…very exciting and spicy actually; But if someone is doing that behind their partners back, it’s just as painful as having a physical affair.
Speak to her, hear what she has to say.
I wish you the best of luck
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@abagond
It’s a shame you stopped writing about your marriage. Despite some poster saying it made them ‘uncomfortable’ or making personal digs at you, it was much needed. People need a certain level of maturity and experience to get passed that quick reaction of ‘eww sex’ and take it for what it is: A Normal part of Human Life. You should reconsider writing more relationship based threads.
I personally found it refreshing to read about relationships from a man’s point of view. I’ve been guilty in the past for thinking that the male species are descendants of the ‘Tin Man’ from The Wizard of Oz…Nothing inside, no emotion or feelings, just a hollow breeze passing inside their heads (Ok, a harsh exaggeration). But men do have the same emotions, passions and feelings as women, they just deal with things in a different way.
I’ve come to realise that men are a lot more simplistic and direct in comparison to women. By simplistic I don’t mean in a “Run Forest Run!!” way, but they tend to be direct in what they mean whereas us women tend beat around the bush and sometimes expect men to just know when something’s wrong. Perfect example:
Scene I, act IV
Husband: Honey are you ok?
Wife: I’m Fine
Husband: Are you sure, you’re ok?
Wife: I said I’m Fine
Husband: You’re seem really quiet
Wife: I said I’m FINE!
Husband:…………..
Wife:……………………
Husband:…………..
Wife:………………Well?
Husband: Well what?
Wife: Aren’t we going to discuss things?
Husband: Discuss What?
Wife: I can’t believe you! You’re so insensitive it’s like talking to a brick wall!!
Husband:……….(?!)
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Ok , here is the story , i fell in love with a girl and we became the best couple , we had distant relation , i was the first man makes love with her . to me she was like an angel , i brought her near me so we can be closer . she got a job after 9 months as a stewardess and strated flying in company of guys . i had so many problems thn bt she never cared , I CHEATED ON HER with someone she never knew and it was just a frnd to fill the emptiness in my heart . i told tht frnd tht i cant go on cos i made a mistake ! i was stupid to leave my thngs wher th frnd copied the number . they communicated and i was in deep SH## few months later my wife asked me to marry her we were not Married at tht time . after we got married she BECAME A BEAST !! she kept flying after few months of not seeing eachother and we make love i find her not tight! is she having an affair and if yes how can i know
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What? Sam, is this an allegory or are you really married?
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just remember that just because u think she/he may be cheating , dosent mean they are or is that what u tell yourself ???
i have a strong beleaf my wife of 12 years is cheating .Could be texting, sexting or hands on ,,, the truth of the mater is u will never ever know unless u get hard truth , blogging about it may help but be careful it just might make it worse
as i have learnt
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Wow, This is really so sad. I hate to hear about things going sour in relationships and marriages.
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Co-sign with Roxanne. Your marriage threads were interesting and insightful. It’s rare we get to hear about relationships ( blogs) from a male point of view..
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Regarding my last comment , it has been confirmed , yes my wife of 11 years is online , sexting , sending naked pics , and had 3 one night stands and one ongoing affair , its hard to deal with but one must keep in mind is it over ? Do i end it just because my pride was dinted ? Should i go with out my best friend for the rest of my life ? Or should it be looked at from a objective veiw ? See it for what it is , sex is sex , if she wanted out she would have left , if the bond and love had evaporated then so would she , so in my case i have chosen to swollow my pride and learn about her needs and desires and if i cant deal with that then its time to move on , remember its not about the act of sex that hurts its the lies and deseption that leaves the deepest cuts of all .
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Im not discounting the importance of this and indeed understand the life changing effects this can have on ppl , mentaly fiscally and health wise , it is in our nature to be sexaul enterties , monogyny is something that has been put in place by man , not our make up , thats my beleaifs
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Regarding my last comment , it has been confirmed , yes my wife of 11 years is online , sexting , sending naked pics , and had 3 one night stands and one ongoing affair , its hard to deal with but one must keep in mind is it over ?
Maybe she was trying to earn some extra cash to buy you a new car or something! You should thank her.
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Lmao , that i could deal with , but no cash changed hands , damn it 😉
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Have you yourself managed to stay monogamous these past 11 years?
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Yes i have , it has been hard from time to time with the demands of life , but i was able to not cheat in my wife
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So you’re saying that even though it’s “against human nature,” and even though you are a “sexual entity,” you found it possible to honor the promise you made at the altar, and to remain faithful and honest to your wife?
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Not in every respect , there has been other interaction with females on the internet , i dont clame to be a angel , my nature is what it is , and for me to judge others for there actions is not an opption for my situation , for me i beleaive ppl in glass houses shouldnt throw stones , this only regarding my situation and my views , it is not intended as advice or for others to speculate it is intended for there life and marriages . So im reflect on my actions , yes i have cheated even thow skin never touched it is still cheating .
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So you have had some “emotional affairs” yourself, then? Non sexual dalliances with women who you’d become emotionally involved with on the Internet? Does your wife know about some of these?
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For me there was and is no emotional involvment , the rules were set out at the get go with these females and i had no interest in meeting them , and yes she is awear and even tryed to involve her with no sucsess , we all have a choice and hers was not to be involved so my activites sessed
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Well it sounds like she knew about your non-emotional involvement with other women (So I should assume it was internet sexual?) Do you think that she decided to have some internet sex of her own:
Which simply led to other things after a while? (as it often may)
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It sounds like your wife didn’t want to be involved in any kind of 3-way internet sexual encounter with her husband and some other woman on the internet. Although you tried to get her involved in one.
She seems to have declined, but then
–taking the example that you set—went on to find her own sexual connection outside of your marriage. The only difference being one of degree.
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Up date to my personal situation , ppl because infadelerty has impacted your relationship it dosent mean it is over , for myself an my wife it has opened our eyes abd brought us closer together , the scar still remains but once understood from both parties and much talking ( not fighting or yelling ) it has may it clear that we both love each outher very much and an willing to rebuild a soild fondation of truth honesty and trust , it dosent mean it is over if this happens !!
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Sorry for the incorrect spelling , was a rush job on my phone 🙂
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Your partner doesn’t have to be having an affair; they could simply be done with you (and unable to admit and/or act on it). IOW, this is more like a list of “signs that your partner is no longer in love with you.”
Maybe they outgrew you. Maybe the scales fell from their eyes. Maybe you’ve let yourself go. Maybe you take them for granted. Maybe your goals/values just don’t line up anymore. Maybe there was some dealbreaker event. Maybe you’re no longer the person they fell in love with— or vice versa. Maybe you changed; maybe they did.
Or yeah, they might be having an affair… but I can just about guarantee some other more prosaic maybe came first.
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yeah that and the time about we had our second son she said ‘i told you about that threesome we did last summer’ guess what i wasnt there aint no shame they gonna do what they do and you cant really do ish about it …
it is basically a competition when it comes down to it
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All of the above, the lying, when she told me she’s at her parents house, then i woke up in the middle of the night, wondering where the hell is she cause she said she will be home… and i had this bad feeling in my gut, so i decided to go check, and when i went there, i didn’t even find the car… and when i confronted her she went into a rage, telling me if you don’t like my life style divorce me… i was like why, i’m just asking where you were… So for the past 6 months i tried everything, didn’t say a word, trusting her every action, then i had this feeling she was with her ex bf… soon enough i found her car at this apartment building, she later told me she was staying at her friends place… well i couldn’t believe it cause his car was there too…. she’s like i have no idea why he would be there… later she told me 3 different stories, i knew she was seeing him and is still in contact with him…. the sad part is, i still love her, but i cant take the abuse, it was OK for her to be suspicious of me, but when i say something it was hell all over again. i ask why did you get another number she went into crazy mode… then one day she asked me if i cheated would you forgive me, i said yes.. then i asked babe why did you say that, she replies i was trying to get you to divorce me… i’m like why is that, you know i got nothing but love… she’s like i cant be with you…. you lie all the time, and your not straight with me… i said OK what did i lie about, i got no answer, and i asked her when was i never straight with you, she didn’t give me an answer, then i asked is it because you wanna spend the night at your friends all the time, she’s like you don’t have a choice… i’m like then why did we get married? she’s like i just wanted kids, but not anymore… cause she already had 2 before me, then her mom got involved and finding out she did the same thing to ex husband, but never confirmed she cheated. her brother told me something isn’t right with her in the head, and told me you have done more then anyone he has seen. she will feel sorry one day, those were his words… he told me even we cant handle her. Sometimes i wonder, am i being paranoid, or is she really seeing someone else…. well one day i decided to show up so i can pick up some clothes, and when i got there with out calling her first, shes like no i’m not opening the door i’m like why, shes like i don’t know if your really here to pick up the clothes, i told her i spent 4 nights at the hospital taking care of my father who just surgery. she later open the door, she was wearing nothing but a rob, i walked in, and then she closed the bedroom door, i didn’t think of anything, i was angry for being mistreated this way, by the time i left and got in the car i was like wait a min, why did she do that? well i got on instagram that she blocked me from my account, but i had another account where i was still on there and she took a pic of a lit candle, and she loves to make love with candles… so i was like damn, she did have someone else there. in my apartment, in my bed, and she kicked me out for not giving her the car keys to my car. what sucks the most, even after all this i still wish and hope shes not doing anything behind my back.. i tried talking to her, and she keeps telling me your garbage, and your never honest… i’m like what is wrong with you? i go to work, and come home every day, and your never there… so how am i being not honest? she’s married but still living the single life, i feel i got taken advantage…. i spent over $150,000 less then a year of our marriage, and i didnt even spend it on me…. what do you guys think?
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My spouse and I stumbled over here coming from a different web address and thought I may as well check things out. I like what I see so i am just following you. Look forward to exploring your web page repeatedly.
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I’m glad this post is still active. My wife cheated in the past (november), I forgave her. She never stopped talking to the other guy though, so I’ve always had a little bit of trouble trusting her fully again. I read her text messages, and read disturbing things.
The other guy saying things like “I’m glad you’re so open to trying new things with me” (this was in february) and asking for topless pics (last week).
She replied with “You make me so comfortable, it’s easy to try new things with you.” and “I don’t have any ready to go, and can’t take any because I’m with Jordan”. She never said no, just ‘not right now’
A quick bit of TMI: we don’t use condoms.
Importance: they’ve been disappearing from the box I bought just before we stopped using them.
She had asked me how to put a pattern lock on her phone (I only know it because I have watched her to memorize it) and seems to want me to go places so she can be home alone.
I also read her journal, and in it she wrote about how she ‘texted and called a “friend”‘.
I feel like she’s hiding so much, but she expects me to just trust her. because of that, I have no idea how to confront her about it. In order to know all this, I would have to have snooped, and she’ll make a big deal about that because I’m “supposed to trust her”.
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you don’t loose your women you loose your turn
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ah man you can’t touch her phone and look at her texts and stuff dude that is personal boundaries
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@ Jordan
Confront her and start talking about how to fix your marriage (if you want to fix it).
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@ Jordan: Get professional counseling.
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All this stuff is just sad. People just don’t honor their vows, and have no idea about the sanctity of marriage and commitment. Such sad commentary.
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dang, I know i’m late but Jordan, wow. Confront her ass, don’t let her try to flip around on u, and trust that she will. Get some bass in ur voice and say no this is about u, your lies, and your cheating. I will not be used I want some closure and I want to figure this all out. Then u both decide if ur relationship is worth fighting for , if it is go to counseling and give 100% and expect the same from her. Maybe u can find out what drove her to cheat was it family issues ,stress, feeling unappreciated,etc, therapy will help u both to be able to say what u feel.If she continues to disrespect u and not give 100% in healing ur marriage, leave her. I don’t know if yall have kids but if u do that should give both of u more reason to try to fix it( and get a paternity test). I hope it works out for u whether u decide to stay or leave.
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Gonzales
I know I’m real late, but if u haven’t already I think u should leave her, if her own family is telling u that she is not right don’t waste ur time. She may have some things going on mentally that u cannot fix. Usually ppl that cheat project what they are doing onto their partner, so that is probably why she is accusing u of cheating and lying. That is crazy that she came to the door with her robe on and wouldn’t let u in, yeah that is really suspicious. u are not being paranoid, we all have instincts and we are the only ones who always choose to go against our instincts. Those instincts were put in us for a reason, to keep us from getting hurt and to survive. Maybe she’s not the one for u maybe later she will regret it, but right now she doesn’t and will not see what she had until u are gone. I hope u figure it all out and can be happy with or without her.
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My partner found an email from a dating agency she accused me of meeting other women I work long hours when I come home she goes to work and I look after our 6 year old I don’t drink never go out except for sat morn to play golf I asked why when and where would I get the time and money also if I was why would I leave my phone for her to look at ? Not stupid?? She broke my golf clubs put all clothes in bin liners screams shouts swears at me this sat she’s going away with her friends ?? Put on Facebook her profile as single her marriage broke up as she had an affair for three years before her husband found out … Not with me I met her after she expects me to give her money for her three children all over 18 and working it’s driving me Fxxxing crazy anybody got advice is she up to her old tricks ? Does a leopard change it’s spots? Advice please
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I NEVER BELIEVED IN LOVE SPELLS UNTIL I MET THIS WORLD’S TOP SPELL CASTER. HE IS REALLY POWERFUL AND COULD HELP CAST SPELLS TO BRING BACK ONE’S GONE,LOST,MISBEHAVING LOVER AND MAGIC MONEY SPELL OR SPELL FOR A GOOD JOB.I’M NOW HAPPY & A LIVING TESTIMONY COS THE WOMAN I HAD WANTED TO MARRY LEFT ME 2 WEEKS BEFORE OUR WEDDING AND MY LIFE WAS UPSIDE DOWN COS OUR RELATIONSHIP HAS BEEN ON FOR 2YEARS… I REALLY LOVED HER, BUT HER MOTHER WAS AGAINST US AND SHE HAD NO GOOD PAYING JOB. SO WHEN I MET THIS SPELL CASTER, I TOLD HIM WHAT HAPPENED AND EXPLAINED THE SITUATION OF THINGS TO HIM..AT FIRST I WAS UNDECIDED,SKEPTICAL AND DOUBTFUL, BUT I JUST GAVE IT A TRY. AND IN 7 DAYS WHEN I RETURNED TO USA, MY GIRLFRIEND(NOW WIFE) CALLED ME BY HERSELF AND CAME TO ME APOLOGIZING THAT EVERYTHING HAD BEEN SETTLED WITH HIS MOM AND FAMILY AND SHE GOT A NEW JOB INTERVIEW SO WE SHOULD GET MARRIED..I DIDN’T BELIEVE IT COS THE SPELL CASTER ONLY ASKED FOR MY NAME AND MY GIRLFRIENDS NAME AND ALL I WANTED HIM TO DO… WELL WE ARE HAPPILY MARRIED NOW AND WE ARE EXPECTING OUR LITTLE KID,AND MY WIFE ALSO GOT THE NEW JOB AND OUR LIVES BECAME MUCH BETTER. IN CASE ANYONE NEEDS THE SPELL CASTER FOR SOME HELP, HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS;supremetemple@hotmail.com……HOPE HE HELPS YOU OUT OUR OPPORTUNITY … CONTACT THIS GREAT SPELL CASTER VIA EMAIL:supremetemple@hotmail.com
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Does this clown have a potion for winning the lottery? If so they can contact me at: thereisasuckerborn everyminute@foolsareus.com
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@ Edwin
Why did you write that in ALL CAPS?
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http://glo.msn.com/relationships/infidelity-red-flags-confirmed-by-real-women-7373.gallery
“By Meagan McCrary, co-author of The Little Black Book of Big Red Flags”
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my whom I have 2 children with had being having affairs with other men what should I do.?
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Isaac:
Other “men”? Time to let her go. She will never respect you if you take her back. It won’t be back to the way it used to be.
Men can (sometimes) have an affair that is just physical. They can still hold their wives at night and can still love their wife and family. Men have the capacity to be polygynous. Because of the reproductive reality of men and women, women do not have a natural capacity for polyandry (that is multiple men at the same time, all of whom are treated well)
Once a woman begins an affair, she mentally has shifted over to the new guy. The more you try to convince her she “should” love you, the more you come off as clingy, needy and “beta”..
Basically, the only way a woman will cheat (aside from maybe a one-off got black out drunk mistake–and even in that case you have a woman who probably had some idea what she was doing) is if she is no longer attracted to her husband. Generally, this is due to his beta behavior.. This is why women are responsible for ending the vast majority of marriages.
Wish I could have known abagond when his marriage was still salvageable. Unfortunately for you, Isaac (and for Diesel) you are also past that point.
Get her out of your life, except for dealings necessary for dealing with the kids, and work on self improvement. Become as alpha as you can be. Learn about women,hypergamy and, yes, game, and start with someone new. Learn from your mistakes.
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Yeah Kiwi, spoken like a true PUA adherent. When men have an affair, it hardly means anything!!!
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My mistake, King. Of course men and women are exactly the same physically and are wired the same mentally. It’s sooo obvious for any man who has enough experience with women. How could all the previous generations miss it? Carry on.
Kiwi has this bizarre idea that simply laughing at someone (rather than refuting their ideas) will make them run and hide.. I guess this is his own reaction to torment that he has faced. It’s probably the first time I’ve encountered this tactic in supposedly intellectual discussions.
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Kiwi:
You asked: “Where was I laughing?”
Is your memory so short/selective? That would be over at “Asian fetish, where earlier today you said:
“I can’t tell if you’re trolling. Your comment has me laughing.”
I couldn’t be bothered to respond to it separately, but your “WTF” comments have similar flavor.
It’s like you feel a personal need to respond to each and every one of my comments on this blog. I mean I could only count a few times over the course of many months where you haven’t tried to come up with something. It’s weird. Check your orientation, bro.
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Ow! Gentlemen (Kiwi and Biff), can’t we get back to discussion of the male female dynamic and what to do when it has broken down in a marriage?
Biff’s response to Isaac Baiden reads with a tone of sincerity. It appears, Biff is serious about what he’s saying, so discourse/refutation, if one disagrees with him, does seem the better approach to take, in my humble opinion.
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Other “men”? Time to let her go. She will never respect you if you take her back. It won’t be back to the way it used to be.
Wrong answer! Perhaps she has learned some new tricks in the bedroom? See if she will use them on you! It may enhance your love life! If these men were old, rich and suffering from heart problems, see if she can extort some cash from them. If none of the above are applicable, divorce her!
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Does anyone else love the Biff and Kiwi sideshow that so many threads become? I find it fascinating.
Lots of people disagree with each other, myself more than most, but few of us have one particular, special combatant with whom we slog it out whenever we can get the chance with such wholehearted dedication.
These two never seem to tire of being at each other’s throats. I wonder if they are married.
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@ Kiwi
I deleted three of your comments for making gratuitous personal remarks about Biff.
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I was IN A relationship with an arrogant self centered man for 4 year and had no idea of the kind of man i was living with. What am about to write now, is not a mistake its something am proud of cos i will never stand to see some irresponsible man rise my child. Until now i use to say i am the strongest woman on earth i mean no matter what a man throws at my face in a relationship i will always not let it affect me. Well i was wrong when you have a child with that man every thing he does that is not in your interest hurt you so bad that it feels like your heart is bleeding not cos of you something but mostly because of your child. The name i’m using here is a fictional name cos i don’t want anybody talking about me. Mike and i,were together for four years and we had a child a son together but we weren’t married. Our relationship was just as fun as it usually is in the dating stage i mean we went dates we text all night he call me on the phone just to tell me i love you. It was the best moment of my life aside from the birth of my son and he was right there with me in the labor room when i put to birth he never left my side i mean my life was a fairy tale with the happily ever after theme. When i look back now i ask myself why?Why did he go through all that trouble when really he didn’t love me as he use to say. It was hard for me cos he went from being perfect to being ruthless he made sure i knew he was cheating on me with another b**ch and went i was tried to go away with my son, he threatening to take him away for me that i came with nothing and and also leaving with nothing . I wish i can put this in film to make it more clear for you guy i mean he made me pass through hell. And he was really going to take my son from me cos he was wealthy and the law was on his side cos i had nothing to offer my son i mean i work three job and hardly had time for myself he used that against and i was losing cos i could not even afford a lawyer. Everything was spinning out of hand. All i had with me was the hate and pain in my heart i would stay up all night crying my eyes out cos i had nothing to do. But like they say a desperate woman is a dangerous one. In my quest for help on how to make the scum bag stay away form me and my son i contacted a spell casted i found online i have seen a couple of good remark about him and some most highly recommended him as the best in spell casting. Like i say am proud of what i did if wanting to be with your son by all mean necessary is crazy then i am crazy to have contacted Mutton Osun the spell caster. It made me calm when mutton osun told me he can help me and that he was not going to charge me but how ever he asked me to get the materials we use for the spell and i also paid for the delivery of the parcel he sent me with instruction of how to make the spell effective. Just weeks after i did what he asked me Mike dropped all the case and left the country with his new b**ch i didn’t really care cos i had my baby that is alright for me though i love him i don’t want a monster as a husband or a father of my child so i let him go. I highly recommend you contact Mutton Osun for help if you need any on his email godsofosunx @ rocketmail. com
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My name is Sandra and i want to testify of the good work
done by a faithful lord TB joshua, a spell caster. in my life i
never thought there is such thing as spiritual intercession.
my problem started 5 months back when the father of my
kids started putting up some strange behavior, i never knew
he was having an affair outside our matrimonial home. it
dawn on me on that faithful day 4th of April 21st 4:23pm
when he came to the house to pick his things that was when
i knew that situation has gotten out of hand and he then
told me he was quitting the marriage which i have built for
over 6 years, i was confused and dumbfounded i called on
family and friends but to no avail. two months after i
started having problem with my kids welfare rent-age and
all of it, i really went through hell. until a day i was
browsing on the internet and i happen to meet prophet TB joshua
his email prophetjacobs @ outlook .com i never
believed on this but i needed my man back so i gave the
spell caster my problem at first i never trusted him so i
was just doing it but you know a problem shared is half
solved after a 2days my husband called me telling me that
he his coming back home and that was all. now we are living
happily, friends contact him on this email:
prophetjacobs @ outlook .com for help
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Being attracted to the same sex in countries like USA,UK Canada is really easily as i have heard.There are still people there who don’t like people like us but it not as bad as that of Russia cos here we are beaten jailed and sometimes even killed.You can’t hold the hand of the one you care about in the public so as to avoid been harassed we can even set a place to me cos if we are caught we face jail time.Here in Russia we gay are prisoner in our own country.I am currently in a relation with my fiance and we had to leave Russia to be together.Before now his parent were against our relationship cos they had no idea he was gay we sneaked around knowing the risks if we were to be caught.When he finally got heart to tell him family the rejected him and asked he stops seeing me or they were going to turn him in and that scared him a lot his father is a very powerful man in Russia and he made it possible for him not to be able to live the country i mean as long as you have money in Russia anything goes.I was lucky they never got to meet me cos if they did i would have not been here right now writing this article that you are all reading.Probably i would have been in jail.Months passed and there was no way we could see each other cos they had him watched to make sure he is never get to meet me and also to know the person the was he was practicing this profane act with as they called it.They stripped him of all his right to the family assets and made him an outcast i could see he was suffering form the text he was sending me they made his life miserable and made him end our relationship.I knew he was confused and did know what to do to get his life back to make his family see him the way they use to.And i knew that his family were never going to accept his life style cos they are so anti gay.If they were to be a fund riser to fight gay practice in Russia his family will be the first to ask that they host it.I love him so much but he was scared of him family and they also had a grip on him.I know most person don’t believe in what about to say but still if it wasn’t for Mutton Osun a spell caster that i found on the internet i would not have been writing this.It happened maybe by a slim chance or fate that i was a blog were it happened that i read three distinct comment about how he help them with similar problem.I contacted him with an email address that was in the comment.I asked Mutton Osun to cast a spell to make my then boyfriend to make up his mind to run away from Russia with me to be together and also his family as in his father to make it possible for him to leave Russia with me and set a very comfortable life for us were we were going.And i know doing spells with someone you can’t even see is outrageous but i promise you he makes you feel more at else when he calls and he really goes through with his promise cos he did with mine he was really helpful to him and kind.And like other people said he doesn’t even charge you for what he is doing for you.I had to provide some list of materials that he asked that i get for my spell casting.I preferred that i sent the money down to him cos they were not easy to find and even when i found them it was so expensive but he could get them cheaply.He instructed me on how to make the spell work with great effect.It took 7 seven day and night to see it result.On the seventh night my boyfriend call me to tell me we could finally be together cos his father did agreed to do all i asked mutton osun to make him do i just knew at once it was Mutton Osun spell cos it what i asked for and now me and fiance are the happiest right now we can hold hand now without fear of being harassed or sent to jail for we are in love and we are very comfortable here.His father made sure everything was set before we even got here just like i asked it should be.Am going to also leave Mutton Osun email here just like others have done for contact purpose godsofosunx @ rocketmail. com
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“NOBODY KNEW ABOUT my sexual escapades. I kept waiting for them to cure me, or for something to cure me of them. Two years had passed since my mother’s death, and I still couldn’t live without her, but I also couldn’t live with myself. I decided to tell Mark the truth. The list was long. I practiced what I would say, trying to say it in the least painful way. It was impossible. It was time.
Mark sat in the living room playing his guitar. He was working as an organizer for a nonprofit environmental agency, but his real ambition was to be a musician. He had just formed his first band and was writing a new song, finding it as he went along. I told him that I had something to tell him and that it was not going to be easy. He stopped playing and looked at me, but he kept his hands on the guitar, holding it gently. This man whom I’d loved for years, had loved enough to marry, who had been with me through my mother’s death and the aftermath, who’d offered to go down on me in the gentlest of ways, who would do anything, anything for me, listened as I told him about the Technically Still a Virgin Mexican Teenager, the Prematurely Graying Wilderness Guide, the Recently Unemployed Graduate of Juilliard.
He fell straight forward out of his chair onto his knees and then face down onto the floor. His guitar went with him and it made clanging, strumming, hollow sounds as it went. I attempted to rub his back. He screamed for me to get my hands off him.
Later, spent, he calmly told me that he wanted to kill me. He promised he would if I’d given him aids.
WOMEN ARE USED to the bad behavior of men. But I had broken the rules….”
http://thesunmagazine.org/archives/2192?page=1
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Probably all this testimony you read about spell casting online are spam right?And yeah some are spam some think all of them are spam which is totally not bad and i also know some believe spell casting really works but have not been able to find the right one. Well i think i found the right spell caster Metodo. I know he is real not cos he helped me but because i was there in his temple i Have seen him and his temple and i tell you it can’t get more really that what am writing now. I know you may want to know why and what lead me to contact a spell caster i am a south African woman here in south African as a matter of fact in Africa having a male child is like the most important thing in a marriage and it turned out that i am married to a very traditional man as in a he believes the male child carry the family name on and on but the females get married and change there name which is true. I were married for six years and i had no male child for him .Maybe friends and family filled his head with a lot of things like i don’t have a male child for him and as a result he need to get a divorce and get another wife that can bear him a male child. I always thought the people that filled his head with this ideas where is family and friends the people that i smile and dine with. The very people who ought to have advice him rightly. I never found out if they where involved in wanting to ruin life and my marriage. Not because i could not find out but cost i didn’t want to develop hatred for them cos i will always get to see them and it is not really healthy seeing the faces of people you hate. At that time, i mean before i knew my husband got himself a lover i was paranoid about him having a lover cos our lives changed a lot he starting coming home late he wouldn’t touch me any more and even he started avoiding me in our home making up excuses to stay all day in his study room doing nothing and telling me his need something off to clear his head. We had fights all the time i brought up the matter if he was see someone else. Maybe he got tired of lying i don’t know he finally asked for a divorce. A divorce my family saw him through his university and got him a got job i told myself and now he’s asking me for a divorce cos i don’t a male child yet for him. He was ready to let go of his three beautiful daughters he asked that i take them along. Maybe he was a real f**l and didn’t know what he had and maybe he didn’t deserve someone like me but one thing was crystal clear to me i was still in love with him and i wanted a complete family for my kid that and the fact that i raised him from the gutter i didn’t care about any of his problem when i married him and i forgot to say my father never approved our marriage but still i jumped into it thinking we are going to have each other forever. Though we are still together now but its cos of the spell i had metodo cast on him to make him see how much he needs me in this life. When i contacted metodo he asked that i get the materials for the spell which i did and delivered the materials to him in person that is to say i came in contact with him. I was to return in to his temple in 7 seven day and within those seven day he gave me a blessed a red candle asking that i command and say whatever i wanted every night within those seven days which i did on the seventh day when i returned to metodo temple he gave a harmless powerful substance with instruction on how to use it. This might seem like fiction or lie or what ever you lucky reads may think but deep down you know it true you just looking for a way not to get involved. I ve got my husband back and my family life couldn’t be better thanks to the spell though i don’t have a male child for him at least his them lover bore him one. contact him with his email if you want his help metodoacamufortress @ yahoo. com
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About 2-3 years ago my wife contacted (Facebook) an old male friend she has known for 33 years but had not heard from him for years. He lives on the opposite coast from us.This led to phone calls, which all seemed like just friends. I was even included in a couple of calls. During one of the calls I was included in, he said something like “I have been madly in love with you for years” (he was drinking and maybe forgot I was in on the call). My wife was talking to our son who was in the other room and says she didn’t hear what he said but laid it off to “oh, well he’s from the south and that’s the way southerners talk”. I know that is not what I heard.
That night after she went to bed I got on her computer and found she had sent old topless pics (from our honeymoon) to him. I confronted her the next morning and she said it was innocent, she was just not feeling good about herself (gained a little weight).
I checked phone records and found that when I was out of town she would call him and have 2-3 hour conversations. It was during a 3 hour conversation that she sent the pics.
She has apologized and says she is not in contact with him anymore, but I saw she had googled “How to delete Facebook private messages”.
I take responsibility for my part in her not feeling good about herself and am addressing that.
I am now afraid to leave the house but have to travel for my job. I asked her to join me on a trip and she turned me down, but the look on her face has me wondering. She looked like either she had something planned (meet him? he’s an airline pilot or maybe more phone calls?).
Not sure what to do. She says she loves me.
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You folks are all kidding your selfs. YES SHE IS SCREWING AROUND ON YOU. WAKE UP! When did men become the ones with these feeling, and not the one out screwing around having fun like we use to. A reasent survey shows women are now having more affairs when then men when they go on separate vacations or girls night outs.i don’t care what anyone says women need and admire a strong man who doesn’t take any BS. WHEN A WOMEN KNOWS HER PLACE SHE WILL BE FAITFULL TO YOU TO THE BITTER END. IF ALLOWED TO WALK ALL OVER YOU SHE WILL CONTINUE TO DO JUST THAT AND YOU CAN LIVE IN MISERARY. Your choice man up and get out or be a pansy!
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reasent?
MISERARY?
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Well, you know, King, miserary loves company. LOL! 😛
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@ leigh
Lol! Past miserary or reasent miserary?
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@David McMillan:
Wrong. Women have always had affairs since time immemorial, but were very sneaky about it(the danger added a fun element!). As for knowing their ‘place’? Their place is at the head of society with clowns like you doing what you are told and bringing home your pay checque(and make it snappy goof). In a perfect world, polyandry would be the norm so we women would not have to look at the same ahole everyday and be able to collect numerous pay checques!
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@ King:
BOTH! 😉
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I am kierra clarke i want to thank Dr. DR EBOEHI for getting my lover back to me within 48 hours. When my lover left me i was so tired and frustrated till i search the internet for help and i saw so many good talk about Dr. DR EBOEHI of (supernaturalspelltemple@ gmail. com) and i decided to give him a try and i contact him and explain my problems to him and he cast a love spell for me which i use to get my husband back. If you want to get your lover back contact DR EBOEHI via email: (supernaturalspelltemple@ gmail. com DR EBOEHI the great man that is able to bring back my lost love.
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Odense, Denmark
Its’s so much positive energy around me again. I haven’t felt like this for
months, maybe years. And now when they broke up and she calling me to get
back together and all..WOW I am so happy.all thanks gose to
d.rrivershebalisthome the spell caster who help me out if you need his help
also contact him email address d.rrivershebalisthome@gmail.com thank you
so much doctor
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Then again with most of the women cheating today really speaks for itself.
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Why do you think Ashley madison had so many subscribers?
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My wife is always on her phone talking to so called friends I’m kinda eery about it since she sends more texts and knowing she likes to so called rollplay with guys I’m always wondering if someguy is screwing my wife what to do
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I think in most part your right.my wife has begun distancing herself from my family after i caught her a number of times chatting with guys on FB.And her sister who was really close to me barely looks at me or joke anymore.lol Thotville.Mi
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I tried and tried to make it easy for my wife to find a lover, but no luck. She’s a nag and a shrew and a huge drag, and I thought a lover would brighten up her life, or at least get her out of the house. Once I was listening to a funny NPR story in the car, and when I came in the kitchen smiling she said “You’re smiling!! You are having an affair!” — Which I wasn’t actually! So I just observed that I wasn’t smiling because I was having an affair, because I wasn’t; or because I was happy to see her, because I wasn’t; but just because there had been a humorous story on the radio.
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Dear sir
I’m 23 years old boy having sex with 33 years old unmarried lady…but i’m confused about her verginity.. She told me She i
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I tried and tried to make it easy for my wife to find a lover, but no luck.
Just get a divorce unless you’re a masochist or something!
I’m 23 years old boy having sex with 33 years old unmarried lady…but i’m confused about her verginity.. She told me She i
Stick to the palm sisters, Agatha and Arlene, that way you won’t come up with such nonsensical tripe.
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This might be very helpful….. I contracted the services of an online private investigator/hacker to catch my cheating wife and the results was really helpful. I would recommend ben and I am grateful for his expertise. All he did was a hack on her mobile phone and I had access to her sms, calls, gps e.t.c and it helped me in handling my marriage before things got out of hands
Find his contact info below:
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Get a divorce. It’s cheaper than hiroing a private detective. If in doubt, get the heck out!
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Hi my wife dosnt sleep with me much once a week she is always on her phone says she is entering companions I’ve asked her straight out she gets so angry and say I’m a maliputater and I’m paranoided I feel lost its when she has a shower she is in her room for 1hr my gut says different am I paranoid please help me
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I am working far from my home,so everytime when I go home my wife says I must phone and tell her that I am coming pls help me I think she cheat me.
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If she is, maybe she can learn some new tricks for the bedroom!
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This seems to be one of Abagond’s comedy threads.
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This post have something very true things that people come here and comment year after year….for some one or other have either shown or seen this signs in there marriage life….a pain is now lingering around ma heart for she is showing many of these…..
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Yeah im feeling all of them things, my partner who I’ve been with for 19 years had four wonderful children, she keeps her distance from me in bed she shows no feelings at all,I have done nothing wrong, I buy her anything she wants if i have the money, sex life has gone I can’t even remember what sex feels like now, just don’t know what to do, I’ve tried everything, so upsetting. She is showing all the signs of a cheater as I’ve been cheated on before.
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Hello, is good I inform all the men and guys out there, that sometime we all make mistakes in our relationship and made our relationship to be broken and is also our responsibility to make it work by seeking for solution to it, I’m very happy today to tell you little of my relationship problem, i cheated once on my wife and she caught me and she was ready to end our marriage because i truly love her i quickly seek for solution to stop her that is when i came across Dr.Ekpen temple who has help so many people restore their broken marriage and relationship i also contact him today my marriage is restored, I’m going to drop his contact so that does having the same issues can contact him for solution on (ekpentemple @ gmail . com).
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Men, when your wife starts singing ‘The Thrill is Gone’, you know your marriage is in trouble!
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hi, am jenny, i had my friend help me hack my ex’s email, facebook, whatsapp,and his phone cause i suspected he was cheating. all he asked for was a his phone number. he’s email is ..IF u need help tell him jenny referred you to him and he’ll help. Am sure his going to help you do it, good luck
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Fantastic! Both my husband and boyfriends are cheating pieces of sh*t!
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@ Herneith
I see you are in top form today! LOL!
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@herneith sinatra or muddy waters?
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Nope, Howlin Wolf, ‘I asked for Water’:
(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dUA9FUTieKA)
My theme song!
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I’ve been married for 10 years now and we have 2 children. My wife has lately changed some behavior towards me 1- She avoids getting dressed in front of me when she used to love it. 2- She used to make sure she’s in the room when i dress or undress and gave me hot comments on how i look and how it makes her feel… 3- She used to occasionally start foreplay now she’s doesn’t even care. 4- Our foreplay used to last at least 30 min, now she rushes through it to get to the sex part. 5- Lately she has a way of killing the mood by saying something to put me off when i try to do something romantic or initiate some intimate time. So i’m wondering if there’s reason for me to be concerned that she might be seeing someone else????
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Get a divorce!
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I hv noting to ask any comment in my family i am spoiled all i had.she LOVE her boss she leave my home only for him.
thanks
Smls
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I see all these things whith my wife, but guess im to slow to actualy catch her.i
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You men are dense, get a divorce!
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More often than not, Affairs arise out of boredom or Curiosity. I have never believed a Woman’s basic excuse of ”you dont listen to me” or ”you dont consider my feelings”..to be the reason for infidelity. I think people get bored with each other over time. Doing the same things over and over becomes mundane and people just go through the motions. And then one day a stranger says hello and ‘wham’ you have a potential Affair in the making. knowing someone else finds them attractive gets them excited and curious, and they begin to behave like they are Not in a relationship. i know first hand because my ex-Wife Cheated on me for no other reason than she wanted to experience someone new. She worked in an office with a bunch of single women who constantly talked about men and their genitalia and had inappropriate conversations constantly. And when my Wife found out that a delivery guy who brought office supplies asked about her. She acted like she wasnt married. And a Month later an anonymous phone call told me to go to her job on her lunch break and i did. One her foul-mouthed co-workers said she went out to lunch with another girl so when i left i found a note on my car to walk across the street and and knock on the back door of a parked U.P.S Truck. I did not knock…i pulled open the doors and found my Lovely Wife with her dress up around her waist and a startled Delivery man on top of her. When we divorced i asked her what i had done wrong. And she looked me in the eye and said..’it wasnt you,you have been a good husband. i cant say anything other than i just wanted to be wanted by someone else, i dont have an excuse. So trust me, if someone finds your Wife or Girlfriend Attractive..they’re gonna make a move on her. And she will either tell him to get Lost, or She will take the bait plain and simple.
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@Bilvis
I will later say so much more, but for the moment I agree with you. However, some women are okay with simply getting the attention from other men. I ponder on what makes these other women go so far as sex.
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Knew this woman a couple of years back. We went out for a year. Sweet as an angel at first and always said and did the right things.
After sometime, it seemed like this was just too good to be true and I stopped being wrapped up in the emotions of the relationship and started thinking straight. I noticed that the same story involving a male friends was sometimes told differently, my jokes weren’t funny anymore to her, she told me was away on a weekend yet she couldn’t answer her phone or text back, etc.
When I cornered her about this, at first she just lied through her teeth, crying and getting mad at me and saying I was always insecure being with her. Finally, one day she admitted everything, but she was never remorseful for doing what she did. She really hurt me, but I realized at that point that she was just damaged goods and toxic – to me and the next guy. Last I heard is that she moved away, but that she was still single…probably still doing what she does best…
I just hope she gets what she deserves in the end, but she is not that important to waste my time or brain power on anymore. I have moved on and I am happy now.
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There’s a sucker born every minute. Her boyfriend probably ran out of money or went back to his wife. There were no ‘spells’ involved.
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She keeps blaming me for texting other girls allot
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Who cares. Black chicks are a dime a dozen. Dump her and find a really “good” one.
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You can’t rely on feelings to achieve the Western ideal relationship. Monogamy is a Western ideal. It’s one that I value deeply and could not give up. But it’s not “natural.” The feelings, jealousies, etc that come naturally in relationships don’t contribute to achieving a monogamous, long-lasting relationship. Their purposes were determined by evolution not ideals. Whereas the cultural value of monogamous is one that lives in our heads not in our instincts. Achieving a monogamous relationship is mind vs matter game. Evolution didn’t make us monogamous, culture did. If we want to stick to that cultural ideal, we have to resist the evolutionary instincts that want us to reproduce with more people to increase the chance of our DNA getting passed down. We have to resist the instincts that want us to leave our current partners for someone hotter, more successful, healthier, etc. It’s not that these instincts are necessarily bad; it’s simply that they stand in the way of acting out our cultural values of monogamous relationships.
Studies show that prettier people cheat more. We can never get a perfect estimate for how many people have cheated, but monogamy is valued higher in society today than in the 70s yet studies show that possibly 18% of married people have cheated on their spouses. Perhaps those numbers are downplayed due to people’s shame, but one thing is clear. Mongamy is hard. It takes effort and you can’t rely on your partner just feeling like they’re the “right one” to give you the strength to commit to a long-term relationship.
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It’s true do ewrithing you sey th only thing may wife she don’t ripe relationship with may family end she sey never had sex with only frend se I made her swer on bible I told her if she loyal she will b fine bat if she liys she going tu get supras from god
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Hi i feel awful as all these things have happened to me i havent had sex with her in 20 years i am disabled but can manage & enjoy sex, even though i have been denied sex this mad amount of time i have never been unfaithful in anyway i have cought her having sex with two other men some years back, i let it go after talking, well in the last three years she has starved me of food hit me kicked me she doesn’t help clean or wash clothes help clean house in anyway she coursed massive arguments to leave the house for hours at a time 18 times in five weeks i have found out just a few days ago that she has 5 mens names in her phone she has denied me access to my bank account to for ten years i never see bank statements ether i feel trapped used & very silly but i used to love her with all my heart, its gone now im cold i have twice tried to kill myself its only my older daughter who has saved me from myself i can’t face another fight or anymore pain i don’t & cant carry on i now she has taken all the money i ever had bank is empty, when my mom died my mom left me a few thousand i kept at my house she took that to & lied im trapped she threatened me with things like she will bruise herself & call police & say it was me shes is getting dangerous now im really locked away my story is massive i haven’t started on anything there’s loads more im unloved controlled unhappy mixed up used lost scared
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If you love her and have an otherwise great relationship I would say you should or could convert her sexual impropriety into a mutual satisfying sexual life. There are many ways to do this. She would basically become what is called a “Hotwife.” The basic idea is to openly accept her kink and turn it into something that encompasses you both and enhances your relationship and gets you both “off.” If she is open and respectful and involved you then it’s not “cheating.” What hurts so bad about cheating is the “deception” and not the act of the sex itself. She may be a nympho or gets off on being a whore or is acting out based some underlying emotional needs or whatever. If she loves you and wants to maintain the relationship then accepting her kinkiness and freakiness can be a way to keep the two of you together and also have a hott and fun relationship and actually strengthen it. If you embrace it she might actually grow tired of and ultimately abandon the extramarital stuff.
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Stick to the palm sisters, less complicated!
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That’s true too but can get boring sometimes but switching to different types of porn helps with the boredom. Lol
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If you live your wife and she loves you and is good for and two you then infidelity in and if itself us not a reason to break off the relationship. You might even want to incorporate her freakiness into the relationship. Having a freaky kinky wufebcan be hott. And if she is really hot chilly natured but you want to save and grow your relationship you might even wish to incorporating her whorishness into your relationship consensual and openly. Kinky women and whores are fun to have as companions so long as there is honesty and openess.
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Polyandry the answer to women who cheat! Multiple husbands!
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@ Herneith
Does that mean you have to take care of both of them when they get sick?
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Nope, you trade them in for healthier models!
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U know.. my wife shows me she loves me alot. She often cries as we didnt meet eachother for 1 year long. She is with her mother and father. Whenever i get angry with her she often calls me until i pick up phone. She says sorry for her mistakes and promises not to repeat again. I told her not to yell at me or talk rude with me. But no matter whatever i do she is still behaving me the same way. She is bored when she has to the same thinb twice or i will say same thinh twice to her. If i get really angry and dont talk to her then she phone my frens and say them to say me to talk with her. She ask me often do you love me really like that sort of things. She bath twice a day. She gets angry very fast with me if i advice her. So whats going on.. and u know she was thin and her breast was small. Now a days she has increased her weight and her breast size too.. i suspect she has affair with some guy and have sex with him.. can u suggest why these behaviours and that transformation. Is my suspect righy or wrong???? Please help me
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Divorce her and quit whingeing!
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Divorce the piece of sh#t immediately! Take the turd to the cleaners! Add insult to injury by getting yourself a ‘boytoy’! Either that or find yourself an elderly gentleman with a heart condition, wealthy of course. I love giving unwarranted advice to people!
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Divorce her and skip town so you don’t have to pay alimony!
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Hopefully, she picked an older rich man to fool around with.
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My marriage is in trouble due to my husband’s behaviors and other issues.I am getting fed up on every level !
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sure, let me give you my bitcoin wallet info
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My marriage is in trouble due to my husband’s behaviors and other issues.I am getting fed up on every level !
Divorce him and get yourself a younger man! Works wonders! Oh, and don’t forget, make sure you take him to the cleaners!
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@Rose: You should have traded him in for a newer model much as you would a car.
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The worst feeling is you knowing that your partner is cheating on you but you don’t have any evidence against him, this was the feeling I battled with for like 4 months. I tried using the app it didn’t work perfectly. It was until I saw a referral on here about “W i L L i A M S D H A C K G H O S T at G M A I L .. . c om” that was how i was saved. He gave me access to my husband’s whatsapp, facebook account, instagram and gmail account without his notice and that was how I got all the evidences needed to confronted him, he couldn’t deny it. I had to break up with him, who else would want to stay with a cheater. I’m happy for this great help, if you need similar help to hesitate to reach out. He’s reliable and genuine.
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Divorce him and take him for every nickel you can. Trade him in for a younger model. Happiness is the greatest revenge!
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Everything changed after I consulted Dr.Kuma. Before my marriage was hell. I cried day and night. I could see my marriage falling apart despite all my efforts to make it work. My husband left me and his kids for another woman and when he sent me divorce papers, It was at that point that a friend of mine referred me to Dr.Kuma. She helped me rescue my marriage. My husband came back home and the other woman went back to Australia. And now its like heaven on earth. Thank you Dr.Kuma for being sincere and keeping your promise. Dr.Kuma’s contact [email address redacted]
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@Lin;
Can Doctor Kurma give me the latest lottery numbers? That way I can get rid of my husband easier.
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@ Herneith
What you need is Miss Cleo. Just listen to that “authentic” Jamaican accent! She must be legit.
(https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=oxopPDMq7rs)
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@ Abagond
I’m surprised the V. West spam comment made it through your filters.
Oh well….
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@ Afrofem
Poof!
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This is the last of the my wife posts. Very unsatisfactory. A good yarn should have some kind denouement. An edifying post from you on lessons learned from your marriage seems in order.
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Welcome .I am very gentle and romantic girl.be sure to write me!
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@ Abagond
Nearly four years later…many thanks!
Hmm. So the block editor has finally arrived in the comments section.
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