Roissy in DC, a white man, told us in “Interracial Loving” about his first time with a black woman. It was like watching a train wreck.
One commenter, Haroldmaude, a black woman, comments in part:
Wow. I thought my humorous racial comments and viewpoints were always in danger of being misconstrued. And I really want to believe you’re being a bit light-hearted with this nostalgic post, but you’re not, are you? As a black woman, thanks for fulfilling the stereotypes about how/why white men date black women: it’s exotic; she’s probably used to really big black penises; a lot of other black women will find me attractive; and though the black men hate me for taking ‘one of their own’, they RESPECT me for pulling it off (???). Wow. Wow. Wow. Actually, those looks from the black men were probably more about, “There’s only one reason why he’s with her.”
This went right over Roissy’s head. He either did not understand it or chose not to. Even after she pointed out how he was stereotyping blacks he went right on doing it – while saying he was not!
For example, about stereotyping black women as exotic he says:
you’re barking up the wrong tree if you think you can guilt me into some contrite backpedaling. homey don’t play that. of course she was exotic at the time. she was my first. the first asian i had was also exotic. hell, the first time i kissed a girl was exotic. if it’s the word that ties your panties in a knot, try substituting “novel”.
Not getting it. It is like watching a troll in control of his own blog.
But it gets worse. Here is what he has to say about his stereotyping black women as being used to really big black penises:
a fair assumption on my part as most people date within their race for the majority of their dating lives. luckily for me, i’m no slouch in the big penis department.
Still not getting it.
I later commented:
Roissy: A very interesting yet sickening account. You need to reread haroldmaude’s comments with care.
That was putting it nicely.
Government figures show that white Americans have higher reading scores than blacks. But then why is it that blacks easily understand my posts while some whites have such a hard time?
Round about comment #15 some white person will do just what Roissy did: state that I am wrong while proving I am right by his very comment.
I used to think I was not being clear enough, that if I used just the right words then scales would drop from the eyes of white people. But that assumes that racism is just a simple misunderstanding, a set of bad ideas, like stereotypes, that can be replaced with better ones. Sadly, it is not that simple.
– Abagond, 2009.