I love thick women: women with a good figure and plenty of meat on their bones. Like Beyonce, Sophia Loren or even Jennifer Lopez. But not with so much meat on her bones that she loses her figure and becomes fat.
Thick women are beautiful. I love the way they look. They turn me on.
I used to think that all men liked thick women. Far from it: it seems that most men in North America, Europe and East Asia like thin women. Only black and Latin American men seem to generally prefer thick women.
I never did understand what men who like thin women see in them. Some have great legs and some have beautiful faces that you could look at forever, of course, but they do not have much of a body compared to thick women.
Like Naomi Campbell, for example, is beautiful, but I am always left wishing there was more of her! That she not only had great legs and a great face, but a great body too.
Or take Annette Bening. She has a pretty face but is shaped too much like a boy for my tastes. Yet she is married to Warren Beatty, a Hollywood lady’s man who has had many different women and could have married any one of them. Yet he married her. Some men truly do like thin women – it is not just because they are in fashion at the moment.
Thin women were seen as the height of beauty in North America in the 1920s and 1930s and again starting in the 1970s. But from the 1940s to the 1960s the great beauties had hourglass figures: Sophia Loren, Elizabeth Taylor, Marilyn Monroe, etc. Clearly men’s tastes in women are partly shaped by the society they live in.
For me a thick woman has a better shape to her body, which makes her more beautiful. There is more woman to her, more to look at and feel. She looks better and feels better. She feels right.
Most thick women have big wide hips, which I love, as well as a big bottom and thick thighs and nothing turns me on more than that, especially in bed. And to see a woman like that in tight blue jeans is heavenly.
Not fat and ugly, but heavenly. Heavenly because I like the way it looks. Heavenly because I know what it feels like.
When I hold a woman I do not want to feel her bones. When I want to run my hands down her back I want something I can feel when I get to the bottom, something that sticks out from her body that I can put my hands on. And I want to press my body into hers. I cannot do that with a thin woman.
See also:
I actually got choked up when I read this. Living in the u.s. today I constantly feel pressured to be rail thin for men to be attracted to me. I have a classic curvy hourglass shape (not fat) But I’ve never heard a man express his appreciation for such a body as in this article. Thankyou!
LikeLike
Wow, you’re welcome. I am glad I wrote it.
LikeLike
I THINK THAT I AM CONFUSED WITH THE WORD THICK OK IM A FEMALE AND GUYS TELL ME IM THICK AND THEY LIKE THAT THEY SAY I GOT A BLACK GIRLS BODY AND THATS A COMPLIMENT TO ME SONGS SAY THICK HOURGLASS WOMAN WHICH IS GOOD
IS THICK AND HOURGLSS THE SAME>???????????????
LikeLike
In most cases it is the same, but if you can see a woman’s rib bones, for example, she would not be considered thick.
I have a post on the meaning of thick with some examples here:
LikeLike
I definitely agree. I’ve had many couples in my life, so I guess that’s a sample large enough, and I can surely say that the smallest waist-to-hip ratio, the better lover she is! In all senses!
LikeLike
I am an African woman and I Love my body, small waist, thick thighs and hot hips. Never wanna loose that, and I know that my fellow African ladies would agree if their pround of their heritage.
LikeLike
I meant ‘proud’ of their heritage.
Some African brothers are changing and increasingly prefer leaner women but my advise to the ladies is to remain healthy, thick & to maintain what was given to you.
There’s nothing like a nice waist line, thick thighs and a decently shaped booty.
LikeLike
I agree!
LikeLike
I really wouldn’t describe Kelis as “thick” anymore since she lost a good 15 or 20 lbs since “Tasty.” She’s a pretty small girl, but she does have some meat on her bones. She doesn’t look emaciated. I’m a woman and hell, I notice when a woman with a great figure enters a room.
People use “thick” and “fat” interchangeably. They aren’t the same. It’s kinda like the misuse of “curvy,” “healthy,” and “voluptuous.” Increasingly, I see black men in particular gravitating towards the stick thin look so I guess that leaves me with the Latin men. I could starve all I want (and I have in the past). My hips are going NOWHERE. My ribs jut out, my collarbones look like weapons, my chest disappears and my hips hold strong.
LikeLike
Thin is held up as the height of beauty but many women will never reach it no matter how much weight they lose: their body is not built to be thin but to have children and continue the race.
LikeLike
Sophia Loren? She may not be thin and can be consider thick, but she has no shape/ curves. A woman with azz and thickness doesn’t equal fineness. She has to be the whole package: Great face and body (not just azz and/or tits or/and thickness) I swear anything pass for a “dime” or “fine” nowadays
LikeLike
You need to see Sophia Loren in “Boy on a Dolphin”. Then tell me she is not great looking.
LikeLike
I think I’m love.
Thank you for having the temerity to speak opening about this. Sure, you’re the vocal minority on the issue of meaty women, but I believe your honesty and as a woman of substance, I appreciate your stance.
LK
LikeLike
THICK WOMEN ARE BETTER ANND IM WHITE
LikeLike
I M CRAZY ABOUT THICK WOMEN WHITE OR BLACK DOESNOT MATTER THEY ARE SO LOVELY..
AND WHEN GET IN BED MORVELOUS FOR EVERYTHİNG.
I SPENT MORE LOVEFULL NIGHT WITH THİCK AND PLUMPER..I LOVE THEM..WHENEVER I LOOKED THEY BORST AND HIP I M GETTING UP AS A HORSE AND RIGHT AWAY I WANT TO GET BED..THEY MADE ME SEXAPEL..I LOVE FAT AND PLUMPER WOMEN EVERY TİME..
AND THEY MAKE ME FULL SATISFACTION WITH ALL POSITIONS OF LOVE…
LikeLike
I am white American man and I love thick women.
LikeLike
I love thick women who have a shape and that have hips! Women (in my opinion) push themselves too hard to be “models”, it’s not attractive, it’s not natural. Give me a woman who has a solid hour glass shape anyday.
LikeLike
“PHE Says:
Tue 23 Sep 2008 at 23:38:21
I love thick women who have a shape and that have hips! Women (in my opinion) push themselves too hard to be “models”, it’s not attractive, it’s not natural. Give me a woman who has a solid hour glass shape anyday.”
I could not agree more!
LikeLike
I agree!
I hate how all the celebrities look like boys. It’s honestly kind of frightening… they don’t look like they’ve gone through puberty yet.
LikeLike
And I’m a white guy from the states
LikeLike
I agree too. Thin women do not turn me on much because they do not have much of a figure. They do seem pre-pubertal or boyish to me too, some of them.
LikeLike
I see what you saying. It’s kinda like when women like men that are tall. They like that because it’s considered masculine. And men also like women who have curves because it’s considered feminine and naturally beautiful.
But personally, a woman doesn’t really need to be thick for me. Just look at someone like Nicole Scherzinger.
LikeLike
True, Nicole Scherzinger is good looking!
LikeLike
Aw you all are sweet! I hate how Vogue and Elle and other fashion mags push the rail thin ideal of a woman. Curves are what a man deserves in a woman, lol!
LikeLike
I loved reading this article.
I work in a city surrounded by youthful thin women. I am 30 and a mother of three – and even when I was 18 my figure was 38 – 24 – 38. I always wonder if I am fat or thick. I will admit that latin men or black men will hit on me alot, but then I look at myself and compare myself to women I see in the media or at work and think…I must be fat. I truelly enjoyed your article. It was a beautiful tribute to a form often overlooked.
LikeLike
38-24-38 is not fat!! It is perfect! I can see why black and Latin men would hit on you. But it does fall well outside the range of what most white American men consider desirable.
LikeLike
That was at age 18.
I have had three children.
Same Ratio – but its 44 – 30-44
LikeLike
thick women are beautiful but why people need to say negative things about thin women? just because she’s not shaped like a coke bottled doesn’t mean they aren’t beautiful. hollywood may glamorize thin women but not everyone thinks that way. look at noami campbell, halle berry, and other women who are skinny but they also have curves. not everyone in this world wants to be a skinny girl but we don’t have to
pick on them to uplift thicker women. i bet there are skinny women who don’t feel beautiful because of the way they look or they were picked on. skinny women are just as beautiful as thick women.
LikeLike
I agree Lil’vina. Just yesterday as I entered my office I uttered my catch phrase to fellow worker – “Damn Skinny *itches”. She claims she is going to have a shirt made with that on it for me. We were walking past three very thin girls who work on the floor above us. She asked me why I dislike skinny women so much when I am always talking about “loving the skin your in” and she sees men hit on me when we get food or coffee. I stopped and thought about it and realized that if I could swap my slightly overweight, yet curvy body for a thin body with no curves…I wouldnt. I love looking and feeling like a women. I couldnt leg press 500+ lbs with skinny legs anyway…or carry a 4 yr old, a baby, their bags and my brief case all at the same time…BUT – why should I dislike them for the way they were born. Its as dumb as me disliking a person because of their skin color or their eyes. I hearby vow to only utter my phrase when a skinny girl talks about being fat.
LikeLike
thanks davida! there is another post called thick black women and i wrote about how people on the page were saying negative things about skinny women. i think all shapes and sizes are beautiful but people think if you look a certain way then you’re beautiful and if you don’t you’re ugly. yes i’m a skinny woman but i don’t think there’s nothing wrong with it but people think you’re skinny, you don’t eat or your bulimic and i think it’s dumb to assume that and a woman that is skinny can also can curves. blame hollywood for brainwashing people into thinking we must look that way and it’s sad. what about the women who are models that are skinny but take care of themselves and don’t have to starve to be a model? a girl can be naturally skinny just as much a girl can be naturally thick. this isn’t making an excuse because there are some skinny women who feel that way and any women can carry babies regardless of how much she weighs so i find it kind of dumb. i just say that we are all beautiful and shouldn’t have to feel neglected because of how someone else feel.
LikeLike
Oh I know you can carry a baby girl – I ment. well – I generally carry about 70 – 90 pounds extra when you add two of three sons, one in a baby carrier, diaper bag, lap top, purse, gym back…all in my arms. I am a big strong scottish lass – ment for harsh winters on the highlands. Anyway
I did read an article that says men prefer thinner women when the economy is good and thicker women when the economy is bad. Thin women can have the appearance of fragile while thicker waisted women appears stable. It was a study done to see why societies trends swing.
The outcome was blonde and thin was in when money is flush (blonde being perceived has luxurious, youthful and expensive) and dark haired thicker women when its tough times (brunette being seen as stable and strong – same as thicker waistes). So with the economy the way it is – I should be good!
LikeLike
One commenter said there was a study that said the rich and well-to-do prefer thin women while the poor prefer thicker women.
LikeLike
I am not going to cry over thin women and their body image: they got all of Hollywood and the fashion industry telling us how beautiful they are.
LikeLike
The study I was talking to I believe was from the book “do gentlemen really prefer blondes” They also found all things being equal – hiring manages tend to hire brunettes of blondes.
LikeLike
well abagond that’s hollywood not real life. there are skinny women who don’t feel beautiful because many people have picked on them. thick women may have it worse but that’s hollywood. so you don’t have to cry about it but at least be open minded that skinny women have issues with their just as much as thicker whether you want to hear it or not. i was picked on at times because i didn’t have a body like the women you like but i don’t want a man that’s gonna want me for how big my ass is. i’m not saying all men do it but most do. so it’s wrong to pick on thin women just to make thicker women happy and we didn’t make hollywood accept us, hollywood did that on their own so blame them and other people that make people think that being skinny is beautiful. you can like thick women because i don’t have a problem with that but don’t come up here saying negative things about skinny women because we’re not shaped the way you like your women. so have some damn respect.
LikeLike
What negative things have I said about skinny women other than to state my preference?
Women of all shapes and sizes go through body image issues. And women of all shapes and sizes can be beautiful.
I may prefer thick women, but that does not stop me from seeing the beauty in thin women like Naomi Campbell, YaYa Da Costa, Jill Marie Jones and others, whose beauty I have written about on this very blog.
LikeLike
well on your other you said that thin women don’t have any shape and that’s not even true to begin. other girls that are skinny do have a shape to them and not built like a ruler. i don’t have a problem that you have a preference but don’t think that thin women don’t have a figure to them because of the way they are.
LikeLike
The heart wants what the heart wants – big girls, skinny girls, girls who play with rocks..smart girls, silly girls, girls in knee high socks. I have a friend who likes itty bitty tiny girls, no butt, tiny waist..almost like a 12 year old girls boyd (but with big fake boobs). I tell him he has serious issues and he is ignoring so many other women who could make him happy – his response (similar to my opening line, but about an organ located a bit lower on his body)…I know he’s a pig…but over all a good guy.
LikeLike
well people need to learn to appreciate other women just as much as thick women. no woman in their right have to feel bad about how their shape and neither should I. people want to blame hollywood because how they put skinny women as being beautiful and put women that’s thick or big down, but most black men turn around and do the same thing when they see a skinny black woman that doesn’t have a fat ass or wide hips. half of the time it does come off as being sexist and can’t appreciate a woman for who she is and most don’t want to admit it. i’m not saying it’s all black men but there are some out there. i got my preferences in guys but you don’t see me dissing someone because they may be skinny or fat, they’re not muscular or has a big “you know what”, which i don’t do but it’s wrong. like i said before, every woman of all shapes and sizes have issues with their bodies because they look at celebrities and models and see that they are perfect and have no flaws but most of the time they look photoshopped. hollywood is the one that brainwashes people into thinking that every young girl wants to see skinny and will do anything to be skinny. but you never hear a girl that feels the exact opposite and wants to be curvy and have a big butt because she sees that as being beautiful and guys would talk to her more. and she’s a skinny girl but i bet people would think the girl is crazy because everybody likes their women skinny. does anybody know a girl or a woman that wants to be skinny besides the women in hollywood? i don’t and i know some skinny girls that want to have a body like the girls they see in the music videos, and i mean hip hop videos. and just because hollywood may look at skinny women as being beautiful doesn’t society as a WHOLE would think that way. the only thing i can say is the more you put women down because of how they look the more they are going to feel about their bodies and about themselves.
LikeLike
Most of the women I know complain that they are too fat – even very beautiful curvy ones. I almost NEVER see a girl wish her butt was bigger…all they every talk about is that they are too fat..even if they way in at 120. I am surrounded by women who hate how they look. I cant even shop at most high end fashion stores or frankly even bloomingdales because I dont fit into any of the clothes. and I am a size 14/16. thats ridicoulous. My boss gives me a gift ceriticate every year to a store that doesnt carry clothes in my size…I am apparently to large. I dont know anyone who would prefer my boyd shape over a skinny.
LikeLike
Society as a whole does prefer thin women
the “black” culture is a minority culture. The majority, as documented by abagond – is a “white” culture. And they control almost all media. Magazines, TV, Movies, Books all say to be skinny is to be beautiful. if your read a fiction book, where the women is the main character – she descirves her self as curvy or being over weight and weigh in about 120. Ridicoulous. A women with a hourglass shape who weighs in at 180 is never shown or held up as beautiful. Hip hop culture may idolize the thicker women, but it is not mainstream. Dolls that little girls play with, Even “ethinic dolls” or thin. I hated barbie doll as a child, at 7 i recongized that i could never be her and got jealous and would refuse to play with my sister. why is britney spears famous? She cant sing – she is thin and blonde. thats why. Most of american worships thin blonde women – not women with curves. I have friend who no matter how thin they get, are never thin enough. Its a sickness…
LikeLike
i don’t like how people think it’s wrong to be skinny, as if it’s some type of curse. you are who you are and shouldn’t have to change yourself just to please someone. davida i agree with what you said but society as a whole don’t always seem to view skinny women as beautiful and curves as fat. that’s the media and hollywood because they brainwash and make young women feel bad about themselves. i don’t worship britney spears because she can’t sing and can’t dance worth of shit. but i know plenty of people that love beyonce because she represents curvy women and you don’t have to be thin in order to make it and she got way more talent and better songs than britney can even hit a note. yes it is a sickness that people want to be thin but thin people get picked on just as much as thicker women because what they on t.v. so they think that all thin women don’t eat, starve themselves, make themselves throw up after they eat. but people shouldn’t have to assume it’s all thin women because everyone is born different. at hollywood is starting to appreciate women with curves and then people gonna start saying negative shit about thin women. don’t knock us down just to uplift thicker women. we got body issues just as much as women who have a big butt. when i was younger, i didn’t like my body because i didn’t have much of a shape compared to the girls that always got the attention because they have curves. so white people may view thin women as beautiful but not every race, especially black men because they love women with a fat ass. and of course they’re gonna talk about women wanting to be skinny because that’s what you hear and always hear but you never hear about women who want curves, who want that hourglass figure, just to have that attention that most of the girls that has curves but no one wants to hear that because they’re focused on the women who’s dying to be thin. i think it’s sad that we have to put someone down, especially women, in order to fit in and be beautiful. a woman shouldn’t have to feel ashamed because of the way she looks whether she’s skinny or curvy.
LikeLike
exactly – the sickness isnt “wanting to be thin” or “wanting to curvy” – or even “wanting to be tan” or “wanting to be lighter” – its not about blonde hair, black hair or red hair.
This sickness you discribe is about – not being happy with yourself.
Its okay for a man to prefer a skinny women…thats what he prefers.
Its okay for a man to prefer a thicker women.
Its okay if you are most attracted to men with broad shoulder, black hair, hazel eyes and strong hands – or whatever.
If we are strong and confident and love how we look…we attract that right people to us.
I am not every mans cup of tea and neither are you. We cant be – thats what is so great. The variaty.
You dont want a man who chooses you soley because of your booty anyway. You want a man who wants YOU…and YOU are not dictated by the size of your bumm….just like the size of my waist or thighs or what ever doesnt dictate the person I am.
LikeLike
i agree with you 100% because at the end of the day someone will appreciate you for who are and not what kind of body you have. like you said it’s a sickness that women are trying to be perfect or having the perfect body because they want to feel loved or accepted by and it’s sad. and i also agree with women getting tans or bleaching their skins in order to be considered beautiful. most of that you hear is in the black community because we still deal with light skin/dark skin issue. but there are most white women that you see on t.v. getting tans, getting implants in their lips, butt and breasts because they want to look more ethnic, in other words, a black woman. i think there’s nothing wrong with change but i don’t like the fact that women in today’s society have to change the way they look in order to be beautiful and feel accepted, regardless of what race you are. there were times i didn’t feel beautiful because of my skin tone, the fact that i’m dark skin but i learned to deal with it and learn to accept the skin i’m in and i know that i am beautiful and someone will see me for that. like you said you want a man to like you for YOU and the size of your butt or hips because at times it does come off as being sexist in my opinion. that’s what i’ve been trying to say is that skinny women have body issues just as much as thicker women so when i see people here thinking that skinny women aren’t attractive and they look like boys, how do you think that’s gonna make a girl that’s skinny feel? because they don’t have a big ass or thick hips and thighs, they’re not beautiful? just because hollywood don’t think that curvy women are beautiful doesn’t mean we should pick on skinny women. i’m pretty sure that skinny women don’t feel confident about themselves even though hollywood likes skinny women. but i agree that this sickness is all about not women being happy with themselves because they’re too focus on hearing what the media thinks or what people say about them and they get affected by it. then they look in the mirror and see something that they don’t like and start having body issues with themselves. then we attack people that has the body that we want and say, “they’re fat”, “they’re skinny”, you know negative shit. we’re too focused on what we see on t.v., magazines, models and it’s an epidemic with young women. as for britney spears, she is skinny but she has meat on her bones compared to most white women in hollywood that’s just downright thin. the only reason why she’s famous because she’s a sex symbol and puts herself out there like that. christina agileria on the other hand is thin but she can sing her butt off and has more talent but people rather listen to someone that can’t sing than to someone that can sing. that’s why i don’t listen to a lot of celebrities and watch a lot of t.v. that’s gonna make me feel i’m not beautiful. i just wish women can be themselves without having to feel ashamed about how they look.
LikeLike
“When I hold a woman and run my hands down her back I want something I can feel when I get to the bottom, something that sticks out from her body that I can put my hands on. And I want to press my body into hers.” –> sexy!
LikeLike
i totally agree every single word he said, i would say the same thing.
Thank you
LikeLike
I couldn’t agree more. I love the hips, thighs and butt on my beautiful wife. Yeah, she’s round and curvy, and I love it.
Meat is for men… bones are for dogs! You can keep all those skinny girls.
LikeLike
obviously i’ve seen some guys that like skinny women so there’s nothing wrong with that. that sounded ignorant.
LikeLike
Oh gosh, another post bashing thin women. I am not going to let ANYONE convince me that my thin frame is unattractive, that I’m not a real woman (I’ve been through more before the age of 16 than most women twice that age has with resilance) or that I’m not feminine. I know some people have to make themselves or other feel better about themselves, but that shows a lot of insecurity.
Yes, thin women can and do have children everyday. Yes, thin women are beautiful. Yes, Hollywood does celebrate thinness, but how many of us live in Hollywood?
And Steve, that phrase is so played out. I’m not meat or bones – I’m a woman.
LikeLike
And Davina is right, you don’t want a man who wants you soley for a fat butt. Those types of men I would tend to be leary of anyways because they seem very lustful and swarmy.
Also, I don’t get this idea that thin women have a harder time reproducing than thick. Most women all over the world are thin as a whole. Africa, India, Asia, ect. and are overpopulated! We are one of the only few countries that are on the heavier side and we’re not AS overpopulated as other countries. Where did you come up with this logic? And pleeaase don’t tell me some study.
LikeLike
Why do so many of the posters on here get so riled up when some say that they “prefer” women who aren’t thin?
Thiness is celebrated, hardcore, by Western society so it’s not as if it’s underappreciated.
I say, “do you”, appreciate yourself and love yourself and damn those who don’t appreciate and love you.
That’s a noble idea, right? Does anyone agree?
LikeLike
i agree
LikeLike
We get “riled up” because along with showing appreciation for thick women, someone inevidibly will put down thin women in the process. “They look like 12 year old boys”, “They look, feel better”, “More woman”, “they can’t reproduce” and my favorite “real women”. And the old, played out phrase “Don’t no man want a bone”. Those are just a few examples.
I just cannot get people to understand that putting one down to uplift the other is just as bad as the other way around. Why can’t ALL women be uplifted? People looove to make thin women the scapegoat for their frustrations with “societies views”.
Mynameismyname says to do you and damn everyone else. That is good advice, but it is not applied women thick women are involved. I guarantee that if there was a blog about “Why I love Thin Women”, you haven’t seen people be “riled up”. Again, double standard. And yes, I am doing me, but then again I get so tired of people unapologetically bashing who I am physically so that other people can feel good about themselves.
LikeLike
well mynameismyname, i will do me because i know i don’t need abagond or anyone else telling me how thin women are. we’re beautiful as every other women in the world. hollywood glorifies thin women but they’re always looked at as being anorexic or hasn’t eaten. hollywood is sexist when it comes to woman’s bodies whether they’re thin, curvy, or big and i think it’s sad. if abagond wants thick women then i’m not mad because that’s what he prefers. i just don’t agree on people thinking it’s okay to bash thin women because we don’t have hips, thighs and a big ass. we’re all women and it seems no matter how many times someone says that, some will choose to be ignorant and stupid. but like mynameismyname says, i will do me and to hell with everybody else got to say because thin women are beautiful!
LikeLike
Some of these comments are just unbelievable.
It seems like American society has got thin women thinking that the whole world must find them beautiful, that those who do not must keep their mouths shut!
I agree it is insecure to go out of your way to put down others, but it is just as insecure to see a slight where none was intended.
I never said thin women were not real women, that they could not reproduce. If I did, please point it out because it must be a mistake or something badly worded. My sister is thin and has a child so I know those things just are not true.
But I did say that thick women look and feel better, that I do not like feeling bones, that thin women are shaped too much like boys. But all that was stated as what I prefer. Notice the “I” in “Why I love thick women”.
Plenty of men, even black men, like thin women, so I thought people would read my post as just one taste among many, which is just what it is.
Note, I never said thin women look like boys, period. They do not. But their shape does look more like that of a boy when compared to thick women because their figure is thinner. I was trying to get across why I find a thin figure unappealing. Maybe I succeeded all too well.
.
LikeLike
How could you not see a slight in “No man wants a bone”, or some commentors stated that thin women look like 12 year old boys or as you say, that they’re shaped too much like boys. That’s not meant as a slight? Come on! That is totally defeminizing thin women. It’s just like if someone said that short men are not man enough or look like little girls because of their height. That is stripping short men of their masculinity.
And no, I do not think that the whole world must find thin women beautiful, but we shouldn’t have to stand for slights and insults either.
Like I said before, it would be really interesting if some man posted a blog about why he loves thin women and finds thick women’s figure unappealing. Wow, could you imagine the replies.
LikeLike
“it would be really interesting if some man posted a blog about why he loves thin women and finds thick women’s figure unappealing. Wow, could you imagine the replies.”
there are blogs like that – lots and lots. and then there is almost every magazine on the racks.
And the replies – mostly moe men bashing thicker women.
Hey some men love me – some men find me fat and unappealing…thats their issue. Only one mans opinion matters to me – and I wear his ring.
LikeLike
Well said.
anon: I will defend my own statements but not those of other commenters.
LikeLike
well abagond you did say in your other posts that thin women do have boyish figures, or you said that they seem boyish to you because they don’t have the qualities you like in a woman. i guess no matter what we say, there are some people that won’t get it.
LikeLike
WOW… I am just amazed with your statement. I love my booty, but growing up I was always teased by my girlfriends since it is really “noticeable.” I never had problems with boys because of it tho. But it was back home (I am an African gal)… here in America the thin concept is so strong that I would never hear someone saying something like this. Reading your blog brings me happiness and joy.
Thanks so much
PS.: English is not my language, so forgive me for any unclear sentence.
LikeLike
Stop using the media and magazines as an excuse. They are so irrelevant and so indirect in our everyday lives. I go by what I experience on the real and in person. The women (and some black men) who make rude comments about me because of I am thin. As Davina states, she calls women “Skinny B******”. Yes, I’ve been called that before for no reason. And for what? So, no, it’s not always about what a man thinks or whoever put the ring on your finger. It’s about the negatitivity and vicious comments that some thin women experience on a daily basis either directly or indirectly.
Thick women can complain and gain support all of the time about their “negative treatment” from the media, but if a thin woman does the same, no one understands.
Lilvina is right, no matter what we say, people refuse to understand.
The only way Abgond or others will understand is if their daughters grow up to be thin and some of the hate that they experience from it. Then maybe you’ll finally be more apathetic to everyone’s feelings, not just thick women.
LikeLike
Yep – I also said skiny B*tch is about the additude – not the size of the women. I have even called guy friends that. Its the “oh I cant possibly eat all that cause I might get fat” additude…when they are skinny as a rail. The constant dieting, the fear of any bit of fat. Thats what a skinny b*tch is to me. Not just any thin women. I have thin friends who happen to be that way. They exercise and eat right – but its because they like it – not because they have massive body issues. And I find them beautiful. Skinny B*tches have body issues and are always worried about their weight, and are hung up on what the scale reads and what size clothes they wear. Skinny B*tches think my size 14 means I am fat and the fact that I eat a cupcake now and then means I have no self control.
As for thick women getting support – abagonds website is the ONLY site I have come across that extoles the curvy women. At least in a postive and wholesome way.
LikeLike
Nawww, that’s not entirely true. Women could see another woman walking down the street minding her own business and call her a skinny b****. She has no idea what her attitude or dieting habits are. A lot of these comments are out of pocket and about random thin women. I’ve overheard random women say them before. It IS possible for some women to have naturally high metabolisms.
And then Monique has that book “Skinny B**** are evil”?
You don’t see thin women saying thick women are “Big or thick b******”. Thick women who overcompensate with confidence, go around declaring how beautiful they and their curves are and putting down women who are not like them. Soliticting apathy and compliments from people by complaing about how the media is so unfair. And from personal experience, try to tear you down in the company of men or even put their butt in your face while dancing to “Baby Got Back” (btw was one of most ridculous displays I’ve ever seen). To me, that’s what classifies a b****.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with thick women at all. I just don’t like the antics displayed by SOME. I love truely confident thick women like Oprah who thinks she has a weight issue, but doesn’t project that onto other women. She does what SHE has to do to look and feel the way she wants while not putting down others in the process. That’s a confident woman!
And just google “why I love thick or curvy women” and you’ll find a plethera of websites and or blogs just like this one.
The reason I’m so passionate about this is because I’ve had so many experiences with silly and petty women. It is my goal to confront issues like this and make people understand a different perspective.
LikeLike
my suspicion is – thick women who call thin when skinny b** chs to so out of a lack of self confidence.
So to – thin women who tear apart a larger women do so because they have to pick apart someone.
Now – a man can say – I dont like X because to me it looks like X. Its how he feels. Some men feel larger women look fat and unattracitve, others find her perfect. I have a friend who prefers women at abut 90 lbs, preferably with large breasts (fake)…its what he likes. am I offended that he doesnt find me attractive…not in the least.
LikeLike
anon everything you said is exactly how i feel because people constantly brag how hollywood treats thicker women when we’re not a part of it. i don’t know what it’s like to be in hollywood and deal what other women have to go through but stop trying to point the finger at the media because unfortunately, that’s the media and that’s what they do. all we’re trying to say is understand where we’re coming from. any woman, skinny, thick or fat, can be treated like shit because they’re body is different. but the fact that people choose to uplift thick women but put down thin women is wrong. but like anon says, the only way people will understand if it happens to their daughters and they’re getting teased because they are too thin and not womanly enough, then maybe they will see what we are talking about. frankly i could care less about hollywood because i’m not in that lifestyle nor do i want to be because all it does is promote negativity. i didn’t like the fact that Monique had a book called “skinny women are evil.” i bet if a skinny chick came out with a book talking trash about thick women, oh boy, controversy. i’m all for loving yourself and being comfortable in your own skin but i don’t like it when they are proud of their bodies but then start trashing other women so they make themselves feel better. it’s wrong and make women that don’t have curves feel bad. i think we need to stop all this b.s. about body types and learn to accept someone for who they are. enough is enough.
LikeLike
go lil´vina.
LikeLike
abagond- it´s one thing the “industry” keep telling us how to look, and another what we meet in real life and by guys. afterall I girl want to be appriciated ( well first of all by herself, but obvious) by men and not a stupid hollywood doctrine that is more commericalized than true. the problem is that all the ideals affects all girls simulataneously. if someone ( the industry) picks on a chubby girl´s self esteem- she gets bad selfesteem. if some guys picks on a smaller girl because she is a bit thin- the girl gets bad self esteem.
you are allowed to cherish your ideals, but you don´t have to say that all other people are ugly like as if that was some sort of truth. actually , and I utterly and pure easthatcially mean it, there are so many forms of beauty and just beacause of that you have this thing for your thing doesnt mean its universal truth. we all have our things.
LikeLike
personally I have a thing for rather skanky pale english lads with a rascal face. i´m norwegian. 🙂 but i´m sure I could change preferences eventually if I needed to.
LikeLike
well I prefer a thinner woman, many thin woman have average size breasts 34b-36c and still have a round rump with a little curve, just enough to old onto. I don’t want tree trunk thighs, thick -jiggly middles and a loose big butt with cellulite, no way.
LikeLike
Win: if she’s fat, then she’s not thick. This is thick:
LikeLike
Win, while I don’t condone putting other women down (thick women are beautiful too), it is admirable that you are comfortable stating what you like knowing that most people condemn your preferance. It is not politically correct to openly admit that you are attracted to thin women. It is appreciated.
LikeLike
I like this word! some one called me this a few months ago at school. but just for the record,my measurements are: 46,26,51;so would I qualify as thick??? beacause if so,I can use another word other than “big”.(which I get called a lot in a good way,I hope.)
LikeLike
I think that interest in thin women is the result of mass media. It is simply unnatural to be interested in a thin woman. Thin women turn me off.
LikeLike
please omar! it’s not unnatural to like thin women. if that’s what you like then that’s your choice.
LikeLike
i feel so good about myself right now. im grateful that you really appreciate black women. somehow, i still wish i was a little thinner–thats not important. abagond, you have raised my self confidence.
-BGWS =)
LikeLike
Is this still going on? Wow. Such a flame war.
@abagond I appreciate your article about shapely women. It’s interesting to read and commendable to voice outside of the status-quo. Living in LA is very hard for a curvy woman and those who are the ‘fashion have nots’ could use a shot in the arm every now and then. Bravo.
As for your thin rebuttal commentators, I understand how you feel. I can. I know that many thin women get the evil eye because of their unwarranted comparison to society, the media, yadda yadda. Still, the gentleman here is talking about his personal preference and he’s entitled to it. It’s his blog and as long as he’s not going on a skinny chick witch hunt and quoting physical violence, I’m cool with that.
But come on…be honest…isn’t it nice to always find a pair of jeans in your size and always on sale? You’re lucky for that blessing alone!
Covering a curvy ass is expensive! I should know!
LikeLike
Body changes: a thin girl in my teens to a petite woman in my twenties to a thick woman in my thirties gradually becoming a ‘big mama’ in my fifties. I’m still the same inner woman to me. Never ever did I hear heterosexual men tell me I’m “too thin, too thick, too curvy or too fat”. It seems a waste of life, love & lust to let the two-dimensional world of fashion, film & barbie rule your body.
LikeLike
@ Anon and li’vina.
Its a shame that you have both had -ve experiences because of your size/weight. I feel that thin frames can be beautiful and feminine. It seems that a war has broken out though.
Is it too much to understand that the bodies of women with very small breasts,hips and/or bums can appear androgenous? Though this is CERTAINLY not the case all the time- one of my close friends has a small bust an bum and looks very much like a woman! There are many examples…
Noone has the right to strip a woman of their feminimity though , and anon raised a very interesting example w/ a short man being considered a little girl bcos of his height, which is incredibly silly!
Jus wanted to add my two cents!
Peace and Love
Annaleisha
LikeLike
annaleisha, thank you! all i’m saying and anon was saying that we, as thin women, have been picked on about our weight and when we express it, people think we complain or we’re hating, which is not the case. why can’t thin women accept their bodies and not be bashed on like thicker women? thin women is beautiful and i’m not forcing anyone’s opinions but at least give us some respect.
LikeLike
I’m confused. Am I reading the same article as you the thin? All I read was a man going on about why he loves thick women. I didn’t see him bashing skinny women. I saw that he doesn’t want to see or feel bones (ditto) but why does that automatically bring the claws out? I am 6ft tall and used to be skinny, but am now thick and either way, I’ve met men who prefer one, the other, or either. I don’t find this article offensive, not because I agree with it, but because I am reading it as what turns one man on. He never said skinny women were disgusting or lesser beings etc, just that he prefers a woman bigger than skinny and smaller than fat. I think most men agree with that, only abagond wants the almighty booty, too.
Is it so hard to just accept that he can praise one without condemning the other?
LikeLike
@avytech
This is one reason.
“I never did understand what men who like thin women see in them. Some have great legs and some have beautiful faces that you could look at forever, of course, but they do not have much of a body compared to thick women.”
This
“For me a thick woman has a better shape to her body, which makes her more beautiful. There is more woman to her, more to look at and feel. She looks better and feels better. She feels right”
And this.
“When I hold a woman I do not want to feel her bones. When I want to run my hands down her back I want something I can feel when I get to the bottom, something that sticks out from her body that I can put my hands on. And I want to press my body into hers. I cannot do that with a thin woman.”
This is another. Quoting you.
“saw that he doesn’t want to see or feel bones (ditto)”
What’s not to understand? And no, not all men agree with this, obviously.
LikeLike
Avytech read the post in the spirit in which it was meant.
LikeLike
@islandgirl
Every quote you listed were cases of him explaining why he prefers thicker women to thinner women. There was no hating there.
Look again:
“I want something I can feel when I get to the bottom, something that sticks out from her body that I can put my hands on…”
He is describing HIS desires.
“For ME a thick woman has a better shape to her body, which makes her more beautiful.”
Even when he says, “I never did understand what men who like thin women see in them.”
He isn’t bashing, but stating that he just doesn’t get it. Much like how I don’t get why some people have certain kinks. It’s a statement of wonder. Not a bash.
A little reading comprehension goes a long way. What I don’t understand is why so many people are lacking in that department.
Anyway, night night.
LikeLike
A little reading comprehension does go a long way, maybe that’s why it should be exercised at bit more and maybe things will be clearer.
What part of “compared to thick women, thin do not have much of a body” or “a thick woman has more body making her more beautiful” does not compute with you in regards to him bashing thin women?
He’s in essence saying that thick women are more beautiful and have better figures and doesn’t get why any man would like a thin woman as if they are so unattractive.
If you can’t understand that, I’m sorry. Maybe you will understand this better. Instead of thick, replace it with white woman and replace thin with black woman.
“I never did understand what men who like BLACK women see in them.”
“For me a WHITE woman has a better shape to her” blah, blah, blah.
It may not offend you as much because you are probably thick yourself. But when the shoe is on the other foot, it is very offensive.
LikeLike
Island girl,
Very well said.
For all that people talk about liking thick women, not falling prey to the media’s upholding of thin women, etc. it’s interesting to note that the “ideal” thick body shape is no easier to attain than a thin one. How many men who like thick women talk about them having big hips, thighs, butts…and flat stomachs??? Now if everything else is big, what are the chances of this girl having a flat stomach? But that’s the image put out there, most often in rap videos. I have a feeling that having a belly would put many thick women in the “fat” category (according to the aforementioned standards). The video vixen/Beyonce-looking thick women do not represent the average thick woman in America. Hell, Beyonce is what, a size 4? Very much on the thin side. Even the men who want them thick want them without jiggle (in the wrong places), without cellulite, and without rolls. So I’m not buying that preferring thick women is some sort of progressive idea, because it still conforms somewhat to very specific American beauty standards.
LikeLike
Jasmin,
I wholeheartedly agree with you and co-sign what you said.
LikeLike
I always found disturbing what people call thick, but in reality there are not that thick ( or just in some place as Jasmin said).
They like them thick and well-toned so at the end everybody end up at the gym ( thin and thick).
LikeLike
islandgirl:
If I prefer thick women, all things being equal, of course, then how do I express it without seeming to bash other kinds of women? Or do I just shut up and keep it to myself?
LikeLike
Abogond,
Okay, let me show you how to express your preference without bashing another. It very simple, really.
I love tall, thin men. To me they are extremely sexy.
So instead of-
Tall thin men are so sexy. For me, a tall, thin man equates security, which makes him sexier and you just can’t find that in a short, stubby man.
Unlike short men, when I’m with a tall man, I feel protected. He feels more like a man.
I love the way tall, thin men looks in his clothes. Heavenly. Not short and stubby, but heavenly.
When I’m with a man, I want to feel secure. Like he will be able to protect me against anything. I want to feel like I’m with a real man, I cannot feel that way with a short, stubby man. I never understood why anyone would see anything in a short, stubby man. I want a real man, not a 12 year old, short little girl.
Why not say-
I absolutely love tall, thin men. They are extremely sexy. First of all, I love how they look in their clothes, especially when they are dressed upscale in a suit. It drives me wild to see a tall, thin man in a nicely cut suit and who smells good.
Also, I love looking up into their eyes when we are together, especially when he looks down and smiles at me. When he has to lean down to hug me, I feel so secure and protected. Like nothing will bother me. The fact that they have big hands and feet are a turn on. There is nothing better than when a tall, thin man cradles his big hand over mine.
See, I expressed my preference for a certain type WITHOUT putting ANYONE ELSE down. Why is that so hard?
@Jasmin
I said this in your other post, but – Thank you! Your post are very thoughtful and well put.
Thanks for asking my advice.
LikeLike
that was great was you said islandgirl. if you’re going to talk how much you appreciate thick women, why not do it without making comments about thin women? i’m attracted to all types of guys, regardless of size, shape and race. i don’t think nobody is better than another person. there are some people put curvy women as the beauty standard just as much with thin women in hollywood. look at the rap videos. all you ever saw was women with big butts, boobs, thighs and hips. you didn’t see many thin women in those kinds of videos and always talk about how much they want a curvy chick. the way i see it they do the same thing just as much as hollywood do with the whole size 0 thing. the reason why women who don’t have the body type you like express their thoughts because they’re tired of having being told what a real woman should like instead of saying “love your body”. beyonce doesn’t look that curvy as much as she puts it out there. she just wears tight clothing to make it seems she has that hourglass figure when she doesn’t. truth is i never looked at abagond bashing thin women but i don’t agree with some of the things he says about thin women. not all thin women are full of bones. i went after the people that bash on thin women while praising thicker women. and just because one person didn’t find the article offensive doesn’t the other person won’t. another thing i do agree with jasmin is that while most guys prefer a thick woman, they also want her to have a fit body, toned and a flat stomach and most chicks that are considered to be thick don’t have that. some do but some i’ve seen don’t. like i said before they’re doing the same as the media and hollywood, pushing another beauty standard on what women should like. the REAL average american woman is women OF ALL SIZES!! from the skinny, to the curvy, and the full figured. not all women are going to look like the women in hollywood, the magazines, even in rap videos.
LikeLike
Thanks Nubiah and Island girl. 🙂
While I think you mean well, Abagond, I’m just generally of the opinion that if you have to put down A in order to uplift B, you probably aren’t that secure in your liking of B in the first place.
LikeLike
Islandgirl:
Thank you very much. Your example was very good and clear. I will rewrite my post when I get a chance, like probably this weekend.
LikeLike
Abagond,
Wow, thank you! That would be very refreshing. I appreciate your openess to this.
LikeLike
I too love thick women. I get weak in the knees when I see a beautiful, voluptious woman. It saddens me when so many of them that I’ve met in my time consume themselves with trying to fit into the societal mold of beauty. I think think that all women, thin or thick, should love who they are because their are enough men out here to love and embrace all of you.
LikeLike
Abagond, you and I are nearly on the same wavelength when it comes to a womans body shape. I love thick (voluptuous, curvy etc) women. I also like them slim (not skinny) and chubby (not obese.)
LikeLike
Hey, great minds think alike 😉
LikeLike
ok,so i understand what he is trying to say, but,Abagond, are you talking about the woman with all this tickness all over except the stomach? because there is the thick woman with, kinda big arms, a belly that jiggles, also some strechmarks but she still have all characteristics you like. Maybe a woman like this>http://z.hubpages.com/u/379865_f260.jpg OR this one? http://hotlink.myspacecdn.com/images02/65/6e822bb30faa4f13b4be2c3fe5711ada/m.jpg. Or you are jsut refering to the more athletic thick, kind of a model with more meat? like this http://api.ning.com/files/mBlvHrVrIf11J-u3jGFxjMovuuFKIboVO-Hr7rwvRvTnsF9XHwRvXn0zjS7OhRKMUrNa8CIMLrk-mPKzrSSgrCIi4dXgf5-f/3753courtneyblack.jpg << if its that one then you should say " i like skinny models with hips and ass and voluptuous chest".
LikeLike
I also love thicker women. Friends of mine get surprised that I really don’t get into all of the same celebrities that they do. Jessica Biel, Angelina Jolie, and some of the others are all too skinny for me. I like women like Vida Guerra, Ki Toy Johnson, Beyonce, Elke the Stallin, Buffie the Body, and for some of you who may know who she is, “Pinky!” If you don’t know, I recommend checking her out. Now THAT I could have fun with all day!
LikeLike
Im so glad to read something like this. I am by no means a twig, and I am curvy. My measurements are 38-24-38, and to a lot of the country, id probably be considered morbidly obese, but i dont give a crap. All of those twigs only WISH they looked like real women. Honestly, i dont consider anyone to have a feminine body unless the WHR is UNDER 0.67.
Plus…I know this sounds odd, but to me, this country seems to have a strange obsession with childish looking women…They want a GIRL or a boy, but not a woman…And it makes me wonder if these men are really gay or something because they prefer a manly looking woman to a real true soft female….But i dont know, thats just my strange way of looking at it, LOL.
Id rather have these curves than to be a twig. Its a lot nicer being able to fill EVERYTHING out perfectly, rather than be a twig and look like a human clothes hanger (as my dear husband calls them LOL)
Thank you SO much for this….It has really helped me 🙂
LikeLike
acey, i disagree with what you said and i think it’s ignorant of you to say that women who are thin have childish bodies. and not all americans prefer the thin look so to sit here and trash talk thin women is wrong. i’m a thin woman myself and i’m no twig and i don’t know why people think it’s okay to bash thin women just to make thicker women feel good about themselves. all women of all sizes are beautiful and people should see that and stop criticizing. just because guys that prefer thin women don’t make them gay or weird, that’s what they prefer. there’s nothing wrong being so why make a thin woman feel guilty about the way she looks?
LikeLike
First of all, let the thick and fat women have their moment. I’m a slim black girl who is hated by fat/ thick blk women. I am naturally slim. When I was pregnant I weigh 145 and Im 5″5. After I had my baby I lost the weight naturally. My baby weigh 6lbs and I had him 2 wks early. Also, I had him vaginally, but they say skinny women has a hard time having children. BS, most thick/ fat women cannot push theirs out, they have to have a C-Section but they are more woman. LOL Also, Fat/ Thick women are good for sex, but men marry slim curvy women. Cause they already know thick turns to fat and fat turns to obesity. Goodbye
LikeLike
I really liked that post, I am a little puzzled, and have a tiny question. Can I send you an email?
LikeLike
I do think some fat women use thick because it sounds better.
The actress Kirsty Alley she really pisses me off she goes on about how fat and disgusting she is and feels and says she does not want a man to touch her but she would love Jamie Fox because black men like big women.
Which was so stupid to me and offensive she says she is nasty and stuff and is not worthy of a (white) man but she is more than good enough for a black man?
LikeLike
I agree Aiyo,
I’ve known some white women in London that gain tons of weight and feel assured that black men will want them. Some black men actually see this as a compliment, they don’t understand that a huge part of why she’s with them is because they are a last resort. Vanessa Feltz comes to mind. Quite an insight into their mindset about being fat and insecure and black men.
Weight gain is natural, but when you make a beeline for black men for that very reason then your relationship is basically a sham.
LikeLike
I;m 18 years old. And i think im thick…i have a large chest…slim waist, big bottom, thick thighs and semi-slim hips. Im overweight…but proportionate…some ppl say i cud be a video vixen…Am i thick?
LikeLike
As long as you aren’t thick between the ears, Jennifer, you should do very well.
LikeLike
I applaud u for writing this article. I myself am a thick chick; I love my thickness and I embrace it. I have large breats, a big booty, and hips and thighs to match. I don’t hide it, I embrace it. I haven’t gotten any complaints from any men that I’ve been with. They say I’m warm, soft, and beautiful and I have the sexual confidence of a sex goddess. 🙂 I’m loving it.
LikeLike
P.S. I do NOT hate skinny women. Each woman has their own individual body type, and they should embrace that. No woman, in my opinion, should be put in a box. Men like what’s according to their preferences.
LikeLike
Thanks for making my day. I have struggled with body image, and even when I was riding my bike 10 miles a day, and walking everywhere, and eating a vegetarian diet with no junk food, my measurements remained 42-29-44. I finally realized that I needed to embrace myself as I am. I’m lucky to have a husband that loves me just the way I am, and it’s nice to see that there are other guys who feel the same way. Thank you.
LikeLike
abagond
Thank you for an amazing post. I am also a thick or curvy girl who has always struggled mentally with being curvy…from not being one of the “popular girls” when I was younger b/c of my weight, to guys making comments about the size of my boobs in junior high, to my mother calling me fat growing up, to the media portraying a body type that I’ve really only fully realized recently is photoshopped more often than not.
I’ve felt inadequate, worthless, useless, and less than a human being my entire life.
A couple years ago, I did lose a bunch of weight for my health. And yet I still struggled with my perception of myself, even seeing myself mentally as even bigger than I was in reality…thinking I couldn’t fit into clothes that I actually could, things like that.
I loved your post, abagond. It made me cry.
Thin women may not like some of the comments made at times, and yes, I don’t agree with people bashing each other (which I personally don’t feel you did here). But having been a bit bigger (8 sizes) and having lost a lot of the weight, I’ve seen both sides. My opinion from that is what bigger women often experience is out-right discrimination and hate.
I have a boyfriend now who has helped me see what I was thinking of myself and peel all of that self-loathing away. Today I know I am confident, sexy, and that he worships my curves. There isn’t a sexier feeling in the world either. I wouldn’t be to this point today if not for his patience and love. 🙂
And for what it’s worth, I’m American and he is
A white Australian.
It’s not only black man who love us, girls–don’t think it’s limited–there are many cultures and races that do. And they may not be in the majority, but there are still plenty of them and what’s cool is they are so passionate and vocal about their adoration.
I can now say with confidence I don’t want to be anybody but myself, and I love me just as I am. 🙂
LikeLike
thank goodness there aare men out there like you! these days men seem to think of curvy or thick women as “fat”
LikeLike
Here’s what I think: Hollywood has women who diet off their natural weight, and the magazines can be filled with pictures of airbrushed women with their legs, arms, waists, and faces photoshopped. These pictures are put into the media, and people perceive them as thin, rather than unnatural. Some people then project this onto naturally thin women in general–even the ones with curves. So when a thin woman walks by, an insecure/bitter think/fat woman thinks, “She’s thin, so she must think that she rules the world, and is probably a total stuck up bi***.” They then harrass these thin women whether they’re stuck up or not, and leave the thin women feeling degraded and marginalized. On the other hand, other people think that unnatural thinness is beautiful, and so harrass thick/fat women because they’re not thin enough, which then leaves the thick/fat women, once again, feeling degraded and marginalized. So then a post like this comes along (which, admittedly, did have some anti-thin sentiments) and people begin putting others down, and it erupts into a “flame war”.
LikeLike
Vilia,
I wasn’t going to post anymore about these topics, but your comment is worth mention. That was the best comment regarding this subject yet. I totally agree with you.
LikeLike
Thank you so much! That made me smile…
LikeLike
You know what women REALLY need to do? They need to stop depending on media and others to feel good about themselves. Yes, validation does help from time to time with self image, but over all… it’s about confidence.
Look at yourself in the mirror and recognize your beautiful qualities. Capitalize on those qualities and appreciate yourself. When you have confidence, people will feel that and you’ll glow– doesn’t matter if you’re fat, skinny or some apple or pear shape in between.
LikeLike
I am a white Canadian male and even here most of the time guys like the slim stick figure, don’t ask me why. My wife is Latina and is a thick woman and after all the women I have ever been with, she is what I was always looking for. I never knew why I just couldn’t be satisfied with what I had. Everyone told me you have a great looking woman or this one is really sweet, but it wasn’t until I finally dated a girl that was the complete opposite of what I always date, that I found what I was looking for and have never regretted it for a moment. Growing up all my guy friends were goo-goo for the tall slim white girls, but not me, even my best friend thinks I had strange taste in girls because the girls that our friends thought were too “fat” or needed to loose some weight, I thought had incredible figures. It’s not like these girls were 400lbs but were simply a bit bigger and I have always thought this looked “healthy” (skinny girls look unhealthy like they are lacking nutrients and meat to keep them warm) if a woman had enough meat on her. In closing I would like to send a shout out the woman out there who might not think they look good because of what you hear on TV or what others say out loud: If you think you look good be happy with it and just go with it, there is always someone out there who agrees with you, it’s just a matter of finding the one who loves you for you!!
LikeLike
I’ve had thin women and thick women, the ones in between, and the best have been on the thick side. And what I have seen around the world, Asia excluded, guys want their women women, on the thicker side that is. Asians are different. They like childlike small girls over there. I have no idea why.
Thin clothe hangers might look great on cat walk or in the fashion shoot, but in real life, particulary when the clothes are off, thick women win the day hands down. There is no comparison. I’ll take that black lady in the picture any day before Bening.
I think only young insecure boys and sexually insecure and/or confused guys go for the thin girls. Also elder millionaires like to have a model lean on their newest limousine. It looks nice on the magazines and pictures.
None of this means that thinner women should get fatter. It is just my opinion. What women all over the world should do is throw out the terrorizing magazines, cosmetic firms and such which are there to make money on the frustrations of the women. That is why the beauty ideal changes every year and you will never catch it. Just spend more money chasing it.
1940’s the advertising business discovered that frustrated people consume most and that has been the key element ever since. Somehow women don’t seem to get it. And somehow this same shit has been spoonfed to younger guys. I mean, mens cosmetics? C’moon!
I have never ever used nothing on my face, other than camouflage in the army, and I never will. I have never dyed my hair, shaped my eye brows and I never will. I will never trim my nose hair (if it gets into way, I cut it off), eye lashes, or use any kind of cream on my face. The only thing I have used has been a sun block on the beach holiday way back.
I think mens grooming is hilarious. When a guy spends more time front of the mirror than his woman, he should get a reality check. Guys who use hair spray are funny. Guys who do nail polish are even funnier. Can you imagine a guy who can’t use a shovel or hammer because it might ruin his nails?
Men are men. Women are women. And thick women are the best in my mind.
LikeLike
Sam,
You said some great things and some awful ones. As a thick woman who is also a tomboy I must applaud and protest at the same time! 😉
(joke, joke!)
LikeLike
I must protest your post above. You stated : Only black and Latin American men seem to generally prefer thick women.
I am a 44 year old white male. I must say that I MUCH PREFER a thick woman.
I like the hour glass figures.
To me a woman is supposed to have thick features on her body.
So please take notice: There are still some white guys out here that LOVE thick beautiful women.
LikeLike
when we first got married my wife weighed 110 lbs at 5ft 7 kinda skinny but she had a nice round booty over the last 20 years she has gained 65 lbs and become a thick girl with a really nice soft big black ghetto booty i love it
LikeLike
I like the article. As an African thin woman it’s difficult to be accepted in the black community. Everywhere I read ‘black men love thick women’. Thank God my current boyfriend doesn’t care about my weight but I kinda feel this pressure.
I cannot tell that my body is skinny skinny, I have parts that are kinda ‘thick’. But I just wan to say that black men don’t have to understand that there also are alot of thin black women who feel that they are ugly, all because of articcles like this. Black men worship thick women and they hate thin women. It really makes me sad.
God bless you all
LikeLike
I understand the thin chicks here getting upset with some of the comments left by people who enjoy curvy women, but understand that there are far more people who laugh at a girl for being 15-20 lbs overweight. As soon as an artist gains weight, Christina Aguilera for example, they all call her cow and all kinds of names because she’s non longer a size 2. Yes, you are offended, but mostly you all dont have issues finding clothes that fit you, you don’t spend 3 hours trying on clothes and at the end up leaving the store with nothing because stuff doesn’t fit you.
LikeLike
well im a big girl with the highest self esteem on this earth…i love to show off my body but in a womanly manner. its not like ill rock a 2 piece but ill damn sure rock a 1 piece with the side out and some more lol. the men ive been with looooove my body & me….i can f*** the best, i stay w** in the bed, i master in oral and i can cook. i hate this thing where only ugly….overweight…..nasty are attracted to us thick/plussize/bbw type of girls. they need to update there statistics especially down here in the south
LikeLike
I’m a white guy and “thick” girls (I prefer the term curvy) turn me on to no end! I agree with the sentiment stated here, despite actually being a virgin! However, some “fat” girls are pretty sexy too! I like girls who can fill out their clothes well- those who have nice boobs and a nice butt. Sometimes that means the gal might have a slight belly on her, but I don’t care- she is still extremely attractive to me. The only thin or skinny girls I’ve ever been attracted to are black (I am more attracted to women outside of my “race”- I find a darker complexion attractive), but even then, I generally prefer thick or fat women.
That said, while physical attraction might be what would make me come up to a girl at first, having an upbeat personality and a very high level of intelligence and/or education matters much more. If she doesn’t have those characteristics, I’ll simply say hi and leave it at that.
LikeLike
I’m a bisexual girl and I’ve always found girls that are thinner with petit figure is more attractive.I mean boobs are nice but b cups are the best to me but unfortunately I live in a “mexican” area and theyre all generally what men want which is “thick” so I dont have many options aha
LikeLike
I’m a petite & thin girl, and I just don’t “get” this article. I don’t understand how people assume “thick” and “fat” to equal curves. A girl can be thin and still have big boobs (not me), an X shaped waist (me), and an round apple butt (me). I can’t tell you how many times I see a girl with big boobs and cleavage and big butt take off her bra and jeans..and it’s saggy eggplants and a wide square behind. Thin girls on the other hand, have hidden curves that come out and perk up when you take off thier clothes. You’ve been duped!
LikeLike
My ex had the most amazing body I’ve ever seen. Her booty put J-Lo’s to shame & she was absolutely gorgeous. West African. BUT, I can actually say that thin women are sexy in a different way. Obviously, big bubble booties are better to look at but when making love, a thin girl can do things a thicker woman cant.. & a nice soft ass that isn’t overly big can be super sexy.. imo
LikeLike
I agree also. Thick women are heaven on earth.
LikeLike
What is interesting that thick white woman these days will get more attention from black and latino men than white men. I know a white girl who is very pretty facially and is thick and is like a size 12/14 but still in proportion, she can’t stop getting black men’s attention and is now with a fine brotha, I say go girl if white men aren’t checking for her.
LikeLike
I see that your post was written quite some time ago – do you still feel the same way?
LikeLike
It is hard in America being a thick women. I used to think I was fat but I’m not I’m thick. Men usually say thick. women tend to use the word fat. I think you would be amazed by the way women project on other women so they feel thin and desired.
LikeLike
I get called a skinny bitch by women that are bigger than me and fat by women that are about my size it confuses me. Men almost always say I look good im in between I’m thick.
LikeLike
That sucks that you have to go through that. Unfortunately we are a jealous and insecure species. Whether it be about race, size, skin color or money, someone out there is waiting to tear you down to feel better about themselves. I’ve come across so many beautiful thick women in my life that hate themselves because they’ve been brainwashed. I also have had many male friends who secretly love thick women but are too afraid to show it because they’ll be ridiculed for having a “fat” girl. Its all bullshit. Be proud to be thick because it really is a beautiful thing.
LikeLike
Thanks I appreciate the support. It seem to me from my experience it is more of a women’s problem but it sounds like your male friend got screwed over by the industry that sells women’s beauty as a product for men its a sad thing I don’t know if you seen it but there is a documentary about it called America the beautiful and it has a sequel excellent films you may want to check it out
LikeLike
Wait quick question why do people see women as one or the other thick\fat or thin\bones? There are many women who are thin with curves and thick but petite women who are in-between. But they aren’t seen as in-between they are seen as one of the other often times they caught it from both side I personally get it from both sides its confusing every women is different and beautiful in her own way. A women should be measured not by the size of her ass but by the size of her character.
LikeLike
@ Jane
Thick, thin and fat are just words, a rough categorization. As such they cannot begin to describe all the different shapes women have. But they do get at something.
LikeLike
That’s true abagond I didn’t mean anything negative about your article. I just don’t understand why the extreme the fat vs skinny thing goes.
LikeLike
But fat is a hate word when used as a hate word and I while there is male gaze in life and it is beautiful for a man to define his gaze in anyway he pleases that is only a tiny piece of her womanhood.
LikeLike
Umm…thin women can also be curvy. I hate how people say that skinny women look sickly when really, a lot of skinny women can’t help it! And, all of my skinny friends and I eat more than the thicker girls! I have large breasts, but at times I do wish that my butt was bigger because all of the men within my race discriminate against me because I’m a thin woman. I can’t tell you how many times I have heard a man say how much prettier I would be, if a had a big butt. Being thin does not make someone look masculine or less of a woman,
LikeLike
Genetically, the Khoisan women (of southern Africa) are super-shapely women. The famous “Brazilian-butt” doesn’t even come close to the buttocks of the Khoisan women. These African women have very curvaceous bodies, which I love. They’re well-known for their c-shaped buttocks. In most countries in “sub-Saharan” Africa a shapely female body is a symbol of beauty.
LikeLike
This blog made me cry of deep grief. I cannot help that I can out the womb destined to be skinny. I am currently working out to get the curves like Beyonce. Do you think I want to be skinny? FREAK no! I am a black woman and want to look womanly. I’ve attempted suicide 2 times during my life and seeing this post might just up that to 3. I’m sorry I’m not your bodacious woman. I’m sorry I’m nothing but bones. I’m sorry I’m a skinny little b**ch who has to work for a “real woman” body. If I gain weight and muscle (which is easy for me) will I then have more worth in the real woman department? This blog post tore my heart and I pray to YHWH that skinny women can find comfort in the world. Sorry I’m a b**ch by the way. You know, because I’m skinny.
LikeLike
I second that.
bethxshebaxmeep
You need to work with what you got. Sometimes all the work in the world won’t make you thicker.
LikeLike
and it.is not surprising that these “thick women” have the highest obesity rates. asians and whites have.the.lowest.
LikeLike
janice
There is a difference between thick and fat, and Thick and white and Asian. White and Asian are race categories. Thick is a description. Meaning there can be thick whites or Asians. So do show me some stats that say thick women have the highest obesity rates?
LikeLike
Meghan Traynor says “It’s All About That Bass, No Trouble” She is a confident thick white girl. But why is it ok for the white girls to have the big bottoms and on the black women it’s something that’s not considered attractive?
LikeLike
*No Treble* ^^^ Anyway i’m sure this will be the thick girls national anthem along with Beyonce’s “Bootylicious”
LikeLike
How..nice everyone sweating thick women..when most of them are a cheeseburger away from being fat!😉
LikeLike
Hey, I absolutely adore cheeseburgers!
LikeLike
@ sexy@petite
You’re not going to be everybody’s type but you’ll be alright!
/stealsHerneithsCheeseburger
LikeLike
The best gentlemen friends I ever met were at the grocery store! I think I’ll have some poutine with the cheeseburger!
LikeLike
@ Hernieith
LOL!
Looks yummy, especially after a night of dancing at the club!
LikeLike
LikeLiked by 1 person
That’s the ticket!
LikeLike