The danger signs of a rapist

Most women who are raped are raped by someone they know: a husband, an old boyfriend, a date, someone at work, etc. There is no sure way to know in advance whether a particular man will rape you, but there are certain danger signs to watch for:

1. Self-centredness – to the point where he always puts his needs and wants and feelings above those of others. He thinks the world owes him whatever he wants. He has no trouble excusing mean behaviour. He makes you feel bad for not doing what he wants.
2. Belittling – he puts down others, often as a “joke”. He thinks he is better than others and looks down on them.
3. Tells you what you are or are not thinking and feeling. When you try to set him straight he does not listen or take you seriously. He says things like, “You don’t really mean that.” A man like that will make your “no” to sex into a “yes” whether you like it or not.
4. Uses violent and threatening language, like calling you a “bitch”. While everyone looses it now and then with him it is a constant thing.
5. Uses threats and even violence to get his way. Especially with people he thinks are weaker.
6. Has trouble with anger. He blows up over little things. It is like he is trying to find excuses to get angry. If this leads to violence, even worse. He especially gets angry when he does not get his way. He breaks things, hits things.
7. Sudden changes of mood. Most people cannot suddenly go from happy to angry – or back again – quickly. But he does. A very bad sign: a man like that is capable of unlimited violence and damage.
8. Jock mindset. Because of sports he sees violence as excusable in daily life.
9. Gets mean when drunk.
10. Drinks or uses drugs. These by themselves do not cause rape but nearly all rapes take place when a man has been drinking or doing drugs.
11. Does not face up to the wrong he has done others. If you ask about something wrong he did, the thing to watch for is empathy and moral reasoning. It is a bad sign if he:
    1. Makes light of it, tries to play it off.
    2. Gets upset and never seems to want to talk about it.
    3. Makes it all about his feelings and the wrong that was done to him.
    4. Is long on how and what but short on why.
    5. Turns it on you.

Do not be alone with a man like this, most especially after he has been drinking or doing drugs.

If your boyfriend or husband is like this, you are in danger. Even if he does not rape you he may beat you, even wind up killing you, or take part in other crimes. Do not fool yourself into thinking you can change him or that you are that special to him.

See also:

• No Nonsense Self-Defense: Potential Rapist Profile – what I based this post on.  There is way more stuff there if you want to read more
• black rape statistics – wherein I argue against the treasured White American belief that black men are more given to rape because they are black
  • Jim Crow – was excused on said belief
    
• domestic violence
  • How a wife beater thinks – pretty much the same way that rapists do
    

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black rape statistics

The use of black rape statistics is a common white racist argument. It seeks to prove that black men have a dark and savage nature by showing that they rape women at vastly higher rates than white men. The beauty of the argument is that few whites question it because it plays on two stereotypes they have about black men: they are violent and they have stronger sex drives that they cannot control.

First, as black crime goes rape is rare. Here are the top ten crimes committed by blacks in America according to FBI numbers on arrests made in 2007:

1. 485,054 Drug abuse violations
2. 261,730 Larceny, theft
3. 316,217 Assault (non-aggravated)
4. 183,810 Disorderly conduct
5. 109,985 Aggravated assault
6. 97,472 Driving under the influence
7. 68,052 Burglary
8. 62,278 Drunkenness
9. 57,745 Weapons; carrying, possessing, etc.
10. 54,774 Robbery

Forcible rape was not even close to making this list: there were only 5,708 arrests.

Second, white men are a far bigger threat. Despite the racism of the police and the stereotypes about black rapists, the police still arrest twice as many white men for rape.

Going by the stereotypes, you would expect whiter countries to be safer. Wrong. Despite the millions of black men in America, women are way safer there than in Canada and Australia, where rape is more than twice as common.

So where are the statistics that show black men are such dangerous rapists? It comes from comparing not all rapes but just interracial rapes. Comments like this often appear on this blog:

Fact – blacks rape white women 2000 (yes 2000) times more than whites rape black women. In New York City, about 300 white women are raped by blacks every year BUT there has not been a black woman raped by a white male in anybody’s memory (going back over 20 yrs.) Consider: Al Sharpton had to go upstate New York to find a hoax and that was almost 20 years ago. (Source NYT 4/22/05)

That looks solid: the New York Times said so! Except that it did not: there is no such article.

I looked up the numbers for myself:

The FBI does not break out numbers for interracial rape but the Justice Department does for “rape and sexual assault” – based on a crime victim survey it does every year. But interracial rape is so rare that there are fewer than ten cases in its sample. So you cannot draw any firm statistical conclusions.

On television rape is a dark-alley crime, but in fact strangers commit only 2% of rapes. Half are done by current or former boyfriends, dates and husbands. Interracial rape is rare for the same reasons that interracial marriage is rare. So rare that there are not even solid government figures on it.

But better numbers would not help: after all, if you applied the same reasoning to numbers on marriage it would “prove” that black men are by nature also more likely to marry.

The argument is built not on sound reasoning and solid facts but on white fears that go back at least to Jim Crow times.

See also:

• How to argue like a white racist
  • black crime statistics – mainly about murder
• stereotype
  • The black brute stereotype
  • The pure white woman stereotype
  • The Jezebel stereotype

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black crime statistics

The black crime statistics argument points out that blacks commit crime at a way higher rate than whites and therefore blacks are more given to crime than whites – you know, because blacks are more violent, dangerous and immoral. It has been used to excuse white flight, bad policing and society the way it is – therefore helping to keep crime at much higher rates than in other rich Western countries.

For the argument to work one must assume the just world doctrine, the idea that America is more or less just and equal. Once you assume that, then you are pretty much forced to conclude there is something wrong with black people.

But for any meaningful comparison between black and white crime rates you need to take into account things like income, unemployment, the rate at which crimes are reported, etc. Further you need to assume that the police and the courts are not racist, which is rarely the case.

A good example is murder. In New York blacks are way more likely to murder someone than whites are. But does that mean blacks are more violent and savage than whites? Hardly.

I used to live in one of those parts of New York where blacks and Latinos were killing each other right and left. I never saw someone killed but I certainly heard the gunshots and knew two people who were shot dead, both black-on-black murders.

It had little to do with the supposedly violent or savage nature of black people and everything to do with the drug trade. In the process of getting drugs from South America to the good white people of North America blacks, as always, get stuck with the most dangerous and dirty work. Of course they are already breaking the law by selling drugs in the first place but blacks also have the highest rate of unemployment and so are more likely than others to turn to it. Not that that makes it right, of course, but we are talking about comparisons here.

But there is more: not only were most of the murders drug-related, the police did little about it: they seemed much more interested in protecting the lives of whites and Asians than those of blacks and Latinos. As with other city services, black ghettos are badly served by the police compared to other parts of the city.

So to just present the bare numbers,while it may seem clear-eyed, hard-headed and fair, is extremely misleading. Especially when presented to people who already have certain stereotypes about blacks. To assume from such numbers that there must be something wrong with blacks – as opposed to something profoundly wrong with how American society functions – is racist and, for white people, self-serving. It also has the effect of making crime a black thing, which means little is done about it other than to hire more police and build more prisons.

See also:

• How to argue like a white racist
• just world doctrine
• The black brute stereotype
• The police
• black ghetto
• Jamaica, Queens
• white flight
• race and crime and poverty and television

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The Rocky Mount Killer

The Rocky Mount Killer is an American serial killer in Rocky Mount, North Carolina. Since 2005 he has killed at least six women, possibly nine – three women are missing. No one knows who he is. “Rocky Mount Killer” is my name – the press has yet to give him one.

It took six bodies and four years before the police formed a task force in June 2009 and started to get somewhat serious. In July the FBI joined in. In August it made news across the country when AP and CNN carried the story.

The police are saying little.  They are starting to look into it and have leads and suspects, but have yet to search the woods where many of the bodies were found and where there might be three others.

The murdered women were all black prostitutes hooked on drugs or drink who came from the edge of town. Most were found near the same stretch of road, their naked bodies thrown away in the woods, often lying there for months because the police did not care to look for them:

Found dead: May 29th 2005: Melody Wiggins, 29

Found dead: August 17th 2007: Jackie Thorpe, 35

Found dead: March 13th 2008: Ernestine Battle, 50

Found dead: February 2009: unidentified

Found dead: March 7th 2009: Taraha Nicholson, 28

Found dead: June 29th 2009: Jarneice Hargrove, 31

The three missing women:

Christine Boone

Joyce Durham

Yolanda Lancaster

When a white woman was missing the other week, the police held a press conference. None of these women got a press conference.

Rocky Mount, the birthplace of Thelonius Monk, won an award for being an all-American city. It is in tobacco country, an hour by car north-east of Raleigh. Blacks live on the east side, on the “wrong side” of the railroad tracks that divide the city.

On the east side the serial killer is all people can talk about. Meanwhile on the west side hardly anyone even knew about it till June when Hargrove’s body was found. Even the news reporters did not know. But the police certainly did: they are the ones who picked up all six bodies.

The police did not get serious till the news started covering the murders. But the news did not cover it till the women’s faces began to appear on billboards.

The billboards were the work of M.O.M.S. – Missing or Mudered Sisters, founded by Stephanie Jones, 28, who knew two of the dead. She raised money through fish fries and motorcycle rides. The billboard company gave her a good discount and one donor gave $20,000 – half for the billboard and half as a reward to find the killer.

Experts say the Rocky Mount Killer is most likely black – because 80% of serial killers go after their own race. He seems to have been in the military or the police force because he leaves little evidence behind.  He has a car where the passenger-side door cannot be opened from the inside. He gets his kicks from controlling women through sex.

He will continue to kill till he is stopped.

Thanks to Siditty for featuring this story on her blog and thereby letting me know about it.

See also:

• News articles: blackwebportal.com, The Loop21, CNN, AP
  
• M.O.M.S.
• The Missing White Woman Syndrome
• The police
• Romona Moore, a missing black woman – an excellent example of racist policing and news coverage
• Henry Louis Wallace – black serial killer from North Carolina. Same pattern of police disinterest so long as only black or Latina women are getting killed.
• Virginia Dotson – yet more disregard for black life by the police (video)

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race and crime and poverty and television

Watching television you would think that black ghettos in the big cities are the poorest and most dangerous parts of America. Well, it is not quite that simple.

In 2007 the four precincts in New York City with the worst rates of major crimes were these:

• Bed-Stuy
• East Harlem
• Midtown South (42nd to 34th Street)
• Lower East Side

Only Bed-Stuy is mainly black. East Harlem is Hispanic, Midtown South is white and the Lower East Side is Asian and Hispanic.

True, taken as a whole the black and Hispanic parts of the city have a higher crime rate than the white and Asian parts. But each part of the city is different. You cannot just go by race or even poverty or even the two together. For example:

• The middle of Harlem, which is mainly black, is safer than Midtown Manhattan, which is mainly white – and far richer.
• In the late 1980s Jamaica, Queens and Harlem were both mainly black, but Jamaica had way more of a black middle-class – and yet it was far more violent.

So you cannot make general rules. Different things are in play in different parts of the city. You have to go case by case.

Likewise, here are the five poorest parts of America:

• Indian reservations
• South-west Texas
• The middle of Alaska
• The Mississippi Delta
• Appalachia

Only the Mississippi Delta is mainly black. Appalachia is mainly white, south-west Texas is Hispanic and the Indian reservations and the middle of Alaska are Native American.

Most people do not even think about these places because you hardly ever see them on television or even hear much about them in school.

The reason black ghettos star on television is because they are the main example of poverty – and of Black America too – if you live in the two places where most of American television comes from: Hollywood and New York.

Most poor people are white. Most poor people do not live in cities, but in places where reporters and film-makers hardly ever go.

And, just as you almost never see the poor Indian reservations on television, so you barely ever see black suburbia either – further strengthening the idea that most black people are poor and most poor people are black, neither of which is true.

And even when television does present poverty it rarely explains it. So people think what they want about bootstraps and all that – a comfortable thing to believe if you are middle-class or rich.

Television is not a mirror of American society. It is not even an imperfect mirror. Television is the creation of a very small number of people – most of them white, male, liberal and well-to-do – who have their own ideas about America. Many of those ideas are not true and many come from yet older Hollywood output, so the thing feeds on itself.

But their picture of America becomes our picture of America – even if the little bit of America that we know first-hand is nothing like what we see on television.

See also:

• Do Poor Whites Even Exist ?!? – AverageBro.com on how racism informs news reporting on white poverty in Kentucky.
• black ghetto
• The Sioux today
• Apple-pie America
• New York
  • Jamaica, Queens
  • Harlem
• What white people should know
• black brute stereotype
• television

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Henry Louis Wallace

Henry Louis Wallace (1965- ), the Charlotte Strangler, was one of the most dangerous serial killers in America. For almost two whole years, from 1992 to 1994, he was on the loose killing women in the east part of Charlotte, North Carolina. He killed eleven young women in all, three of them in the last three days before they caught him.

His secret? He killed only black working-class women. He was able to kill seven of them before the police started to get serious about finding him!

Wallace seemed like such a nice man. Even his girlfriend was surprised when she found out he was the killer. His neighbours and those who knew him growing up were shocked.

Wallace had a crack habit. When he needed money, he would get himself alone with a young woman at her place and rob her.

But when he got there it would go beyond that: once she turned her back on him he would put his hands on her neck and force her to have sex with him. After that he would cut off her breathing completely, strangling her to death. Then he would rob the place and leave.

The women he killed (pictures, where I could find them, go above the name):

March 1990: Tashanda Bethea – a girl he once dated. Threw her body in a lake.

May 1992: Sharon Lavette Nance – a prostitute. Instead of paying her he beat her to death.

June 1992: Caroline Love – after throwing her body in the woods, he helped her sisters file a missing person’s report. She went missing for two years.

February 1993: Shawna D. Hawk – found naked in her bathtub, her eyes looking up lifelessly through the water.

June 1993: Audrey Ann Spain

August 1993: Valencia M. Jumper – a friend of his sister’s. He strangled her and set her on fire. Later he went to the funeral.

September 1993: Michelle Stinson – found by her three-year-old son “sleeping on the floor” in her own blood with a knife in her back.

February 1994: Vanessa Little Mack – a sister of an old girlfriend of his.

March 1994: Betty Jean Baucum

March 1994: Brandi June Henderson

March 1994: Deborah Slaughter

• Love, Baucum and Slaughter worked at Bojangles on Central Avenue with his girlfriend.
• Spain and Hawk worked for him at Taco Bell. Stinson met him there.
• Henderson worked with him at the Golden Corral.

The morning after Slaughter turned up dead the police compared notes. The same name kept coming up: Henry Louis Wallace. Not as the killer but as someone the last three women all knew. They found out he knew the other women too – and that it was his fingerprints that were on the back of Baucum’s Pulsar, the car they knew the killer had driven.

They arrested Wallace and questioned him for hours. At last he broke and deep into the night he told them about each of the eleven murders.

He is now in prison sentenced to die, but no date has been set. He still has some more appeals he can make in the courts.

See also:

• A Charlotte Tragedy
• Henry L. Wallace: A Calamity Waiting to Happen
• Victims of Henry Wallace
  • Shawna Hawk
  • Brandi Henderson
  • Betty Jean Baucum
• Essay on Violence Against Black Women: Four Past Cases The Media Ignored
• The Missing White Woman Syndrome
• Race in America

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Gary Graham

Gary Graham (1963-2000), also known as Shaka Sankofa, was a small-time armed robber from Houston, Texas who was put to death in 2000 for the murder of Bobby Lambert. It made the news across America and overseas because the governor of Texas at the time was George Bush, who was then running for president.

It was widely condemned overseas because Graham was 17 at the time of the murder. Only four other countries apply capital punishment to children: Iran, Pakistan, Congo and Nigeria.

The case against Graham was strikingly weak: His gun did not match the bullet that killed Lambert. Only one of the five witnesses placed him at the scene of the crime. Two were sure it was not him. Bobby Lambert did have enemies, but Graham was not one of them.

In 1981 Bobby Lambert gave testimony in court against some drug dealers. One night soon after in front of a Safeway food store in Houston he was shot dead. He was not robbed. Five people saw it.

Ten days later Graham was arrested. A 17-year-old boy with a gun, he was robbing and raping the good people of Houston. He found himself put in police line-ups just when the police were looking for Lambert’s killer.

Only one of the five witnesses picked him out of the line-up and even she failed to pick out his picture earlier.

Having no one else, the police pinned the murder on Graham.

He had no money for a lawyer so the court appointed him one, Ronald Mock. Court appointed lawyers are underpaid and overworked. They try to get you to admit guilt so they can get through their cases quickly.

Graham said he had robbed some people but he never killed anyone, so it went to trial. Mock did little work on the case. He did not know about the other four witnesses. He did not know about the gun not matching the bullet. So neither did the judge and jury.

The judge sentenced Graham to die.

For the next 19 years Graham fought it. No judge wanted to reopen the case. No judge wanted to hear from the other four witnesses. The Supreme Court, by a 5-4 decision, refused to hear it. The case was reviewed by 33 judges in all. Graham had run out of appeals.

The New York Times was against it and so was the United Nations and Amnesty International. Jesse Jackson and Al Sharpton came to support Graham. So did Amnesty International in the person of Bianca Jagger. The Ku Klux Klan came too, but probably not in support of Graham, who was black. (Lambert was a white man.)

It took five guards to take him away to be killed. Just before he died he gave an angry speech. He said he was being lynched, that this sort of thing will go on for another hundred years if black people do nothing. Bianca Jagger cried. Then he died.

Bush said justice had been done.

See also:

• Bush
• New York Times
• United Nations
• America
• Race in America

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