This is not based on any grand survey, it is just based on me. I will be straight and honest rather than politically correct.
Here is what I look at in a woman’s appearance, more or less in this order, all in a few seconds:
- Age: I rarely find myself looking at women younger than 16 or much older than myself. It seems my brain is busily picking out women for me to look at. So I never even notice the women who are the wrong age. The same goes for those with the wrong hair:
- Hair: I rarely find myself looking at women who do not have dark hair or at least thick hair – the darker and thicker the better.
- Eyes: They say true beauty comes from within. It does. And it is in the eyes that you see it first. They are like windows into a woman’s heart, into her soul. When I look into the eyes of the so-called beauties of Hollywood it seems like no one is at home, that there is nothing deep in them, so they are not beautiful to me. That said, big eyes are better than small eyes; almond-shaped Egyptian eyes are better than Chinese eyes and both are better than round German eyes.
- Cheekbones: High cheekbones drive me wild.
- Lips: I love thick lips. I could look at them all day.
- Figure: After the face comes the figure. I know the face comes first because I spend half my time looking at the Chinese women in New York who have pretty faces but have no figures! I like thick women over thin: those with an hourglass figure and some meat on their bones.
- Breasts: I am not a breast man, but large breasts do make a woman look better – as long as they are in proportion to the rest of her body!
- Waist and hips: The wider a woman’s hips are compared to her waist the better she looks.
- Bottom: If you have a pretty face and a big, round bottom that sticks out, then I am yours – except my wife would kill me (she got to me first with her pretty face and round bottom).
- Upper legs: The thicker the better. Yes.
- Lower legs: I love looking at calves in black stockings if they have a good shape.
- Feet and ankles: I am not an ankle man. But I do love women in tall, high-heeled black boots.
I rarely look at fat women who are white or Asian but I do look at fat black women.
I look at women of all colours but I like black women the most. I missed seeing them when I was in Australia – but love Jamaica.
I thought I would stop looking at women once I got married, but it does not work like that. I thought I would slowly lose interest in younger women the older I got. It does not work like that either.
See also:
🙂 An honest post, to say the least
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I like your blog. I added it to my blog roll.
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Abagond,
Thanks for celebrating Black women around the world. That’s why I like your blog because you tell the truth.
Stephanie B.
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It’s (almost) exactly the same I think about it! Thnx for being so sincere and “politically incorrect”!
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I always like to hear what men look for in women… it’s very interesting great post!
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Thanks. I am glad I was not politically correct!
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Why are you describing my wife?
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Yes, because she must be beautiful.
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This is very interesting. For me it is eyes first, lips (very important stop for me), and as I have aged, I find myself looking at her breasts far more than when I was a really young guy. Can’t explain that one. Then I am looking to see if she has that rounded high-angled behind and – be still my heart – tapered legs gently narrowing to her ankles. Man, if she has all that happening, I rate her very high. I think black women are very beautiful, yes, but as I have gotten older, I realize that women of all colors have attributes that are very arresting – just in different ways. But I prefer sistas, no doubt about it.
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Interesting: so maybe I will like breasts and women of other colours more as I get older too.
The eyes and then lips are the first two big stops for me too since age and hair I do not directly notice and cheekbones are not as big a deal as eyes and lips:
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wow. interesting. thanks =]
but what about teenage boys?
you got any idea bout them?
[what they think n all?]
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This is my first time reading your blog postings.I just wanted to tell you that your blogs are interesting and very easy to relate to.One day I wish I were that woman that you are describing again…. I’ve actually had a pretty hard time with the size of my body :(.I’m 22 and I Recently gave birth to a baby girl but sadly she died of Caudal Regression Syndrome.I used to be a size 0 105 lbs but i am now a size 10 150 lbs 5’7 and i can barely get any jeans over my hips,I feel fat and it just makes me so… sad and insecure am I attractive at all?
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don’t jamaican women/girls have the roundest,highest, most firm breast that the best money couldnt buy?….man
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I am loving your blog so much. Thank you, thank you, and thank you. I only discovered it today and will be reading many more of your posts.
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The woman in the pic is beeaautiful, but what you described and this woman don’t match up.
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That picture carries over from this post:
She is beautiful. You do not need all the things I listed to be beautiful.
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you didn’t describe which shade of black women you preferred? (just curious)…
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I think Naomi Campbell has the perfect shade. But to me the eyes and general body shape matter way more than which shade of skin she is – though pale skin like what English and Japanese women have is a turn-off. More here:
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Abagond,
I run into your blog when looking for some info about black women, and let me tell it caught my total attention. It is so nice the way you portrait the beauty of black women. I am so bookmarking your blog. I found it very interesting.
Btw, the information about the WHR was very helpful. By my measurements, my WHR is 0.698 (looking forward to loose some fat tho)
Thanks
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Again… thanks so much (i am really excited, sorry)
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Your website is very interesting,i don’t agree with everything that u have said but hey each to his own it also kind of gives me hope because i am a mother of five thankfully to God i am still the same way i was before i got married a size 8, slim brown and beautiful. I do think however that beauty also stems from the inside and self confidence is also a big key to beauty so woman black ,white, whatever race u are if u think u are beautiful, then u are!
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I think you like fat black women because they carry their curves very well, and usually they keep their waist-line.
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Whatever blows your hair back. Personly I find white woman the most attractive. The whiter the skin the better. Add thick dark brown hair and blue eyes, yummy!
White and Asian woman have the best legs, can’t beat them. Must admit the Asian woman look after their weight better, proberbly comes down to diet and lifestyle.
I also spent some time in England and there are some beautiful English roses on that shore, let me tell you!
I also enjoy looking at attractive black girls, but I’m hitting 40 so that is understandable.
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OMG! I LOVE THIS BLOG! LOL!
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The guy above is an example of white men that are over the hill start checking out younger black women. Yuck, the most unattractive people i see daily are older white men.They get bald so fast, their teeth yellow, the grossest thing is seeing that thin straight hair over a bald dome, eeeuuww!Their guts start to protrude,no waist to speak of, their behinds are flat, skin gets paler, the blue veins are clearly visible,porkmarked skin etc yikes!Yes you’re right Wayne, whites are something else.Those attractive black girls would laugh at you.
In England they are worse.
The English are not renowned for their looks that’s for sure.
I can’t even count how many Britishmen are with foreign women, the figure is truly shocking!
I don’t blame them, look what they’re stuck with, lol
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Wayne says,
I also enjoy looking at attractive black girls, but I’m hitting 40 so that is understandable.
laromana says,
This is a good example of the type of older WM that inspires nothing but contempt/disrespect in me.
They didn’t consider BW “good enough” to SERIOUSLY DATE or MARRY when they were younger but NOW that they’re older, suddenly, BW are “attractive” to them. How DISGUSTING and ANNOYING.
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Wayne says,
“I also enjoy looking at attractive black girls, but I’m hitting 40 so that is understandable.”
Why is it understandable to enjoy looking at attractive black girls at 40?
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“I also enjoy looking at attractive black girls, but I’m hitting 40 so that is understandable.”
yeah please elaborate
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For me it is first the eyes, the lips(thick of course), thick upper legs with a big round bottom, high cheeks, dark brown and chocolate shades suits them beautifully.
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Haha. That is hilarious!
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Nice post Abagond
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As I was reading this, the “Yes.” at the end of #10 made me crack up. Thanks for the great post!
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Why did no-one jump on lerbra when he said as he gets older he is appreciating other skin colours more but when Wayne said it about black women he got pounced on? Bunch of hypocrits!
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Abagond, You are so naughty!
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hmm interesting posts here. Let me tell you as a SLENDER, English, blue- eyed, good breasted white women who happens to be married to a beautiful 6ft Black Jamaican for MANY years! though i may not have the much worshipped black womans bottom I try hard to keep my other attributes in shape! I also keep my man very happy thankyou very much. personally I dont care how light or dark your skin is. Beauty is a package and there is beauty and ugly in every race and country.Remember what is one mans silk purse is anothers pigs ear! I have known my husband for 33 years and still find him as beautiful as day one. I hope you will all find the same bliss as me xx
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Reblogged this on Olamide Craig and commented:
Hmmmm….
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How one man looks at a woman…..
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