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2. Adrian Turner Says:

   
   Sun 27 Apr 2008 at 00:43:55

   4.26.2008 20:04

   Good Evening,

   Hey man I don’t know how I found your blog but I’m glad I did. I was just reading some of your post and they are insightful and thought provoking. I subscribed to your feed and I thank you in advance for the knowledge that you are sharing.

   Adrian Turner
3. abagond Says:

   
   Mon 28 Apr 2008 at 08:37:43

   Thank you. I am glad you like it.
4. Chic Noir Says:

   
   Thu 8 May 2008 at 02:30:33

   do you mind writing about how Asian women and Asian men are viewed in American society.
5. abagond Says:

   
   Thu 8 May 2008 at 11:55:38

   Good idea. Thanks.

   Here is the first one:

   The model minority stereotype
   http://abagond.wordpress.com/2008/05/20/the-model-minority-stereotype/
6. Prada08 Says:

   
   Fri 6 Jun 2008 at 23:42:57

   I would like to see how you feel about the election and how it’s going. Also I would like to hear your opinion of how Asians, Indians, and Hispanics view blacks when they come to the U.S and how I feel like they hate us, but I don’t know why. I love how you and your viewers express themselves, you all are on point! Thank you.
7. abagond Says:

   
   Wed 11 Jun 2008 at 23:11:52

   That is a good topic: how foreigners seem to become racist so quickly. Some are as bad as white people in just a few months of being here! You would think they would have more sense.
8. Shining Says:

   
   Thu 12 Jun 2008 at 22:44:46

   I would like to see a blog on how black foreigners tend to look down on African Americans, especially Ethiopians. Black on black racism within the AA community and black on black racism both ways with black foreigners and AA. Some of them do not even consider themselves black. Check out the article on tadias the topic has been pretty hot: http://www.tadias.com/?p=521
   as just a place to start
9. abagond Says:

   
   Thu 12 Jun 2008 at 23:22:11

   I have seen plenty of that! Very good topic! Thanks.
10. indigoblu Says:

    
    Sun 15 Jun 2008 at 21:36:40

    Bill Cosby’s comments were quite controversial……a lot of people agreed and a lot disagreed, but no one really offered any solutions.
11. abagond Says:

    
    Mon 16 Jun 2008 at 16:05:23

    Thanks. It is on my list.
12. Michael Says:

    
    Wed 25 Jun 2008 at 17:02:03

    Hey

    Your posts have been popular over at SisterLicious, an application on Facebook for Black women. I am the co-creator and would like to get you to post some of your work there. You have my email address. Drop me a line.

    Thanks.

    It would be best to contact me directly!
13. abagond Says:

    
    Wed 25 Jun 2008 at 17:14:37

    Okay. I will email you. I saw the hits from SisterLicious but since I am not on Facebook I had no idea what they were about.
14. Olivia Says:

    
    Wed 2 Jul 2008 at 06:00:58

    Would it be possible to write about teenage black girls/young black women and their place in society, how theyre perceived etc

    Also, something on foreign black women- as in European born and raised, of Caribbean descent for example. Most of the time people will talk of AA, Caribbean or African women
15. abagond Says:

    
    Wed 2 Jul 2008 at 08:30:59

    Okay. Thanks.
16. Passing Says:

    
    Wed 2 Jul 2008 at 17:43:12

    Could you discuss perceptions on Race and Intelligence. The problem with Watson and the Gates interview has legitimized race based science, etc that I find disheartening and frankly disturbing—that I may be judged and categorized and denied rates based on my perceived IQ.

    http://www.theroot.com/id/46680/page/1
    http://books.guardian.co.uk/reviews/politicsphilosophyandsociety/0,,2288048,00.html

    Also would please compile a list of places that are progressive and positive for Blacks–this should expand globally not just the USA. Thanks
17. abagond Says:

    
    Thu 3 Jul 2008 at 05:26:32

    Thanks. I will do one on Black IQ.

    Not sure what you mean by “places that are progressive and positive for Blacks”? Like what?
18. Passing Says:

    
    Fri 4 Jul 2008 at 13:28:30

    I am talking about places for Black fols to thrive without having to deal with racism and hate 24/7. Thanks
19. chicnoir Says:

    
    Mon 7 Jul 2008 at 19:14:23

    Abagond, the Italia Vogue should be in stores sometime this week. The smart thing to do is call Barnes and NOble or some other bookstore and have them put an issue on hold for you. Otherwise, you may find it very diffcult to get a copy.
20. ohsolovely Says:

    
    Tue 8 Jul 2008 at 06:28:43

    Can you write about how Robin Givens,Will and Jada etc. I like to hear stories about black couple that make it. Also why would Someone as smart as Robin marry Mike Tyson.

    I thought she and Lela Rechon (Sunshine in Harlem Nights) would be on your beautiful black women list. Also Vanessa Williams (Soul Food).
21. abagond Says:

    
    Tue 8 Jul 2008 at 06:47:26

    Thanks for the suggestions!

    Lela Rochon is #4 on my list of the most beautiful black actresses:

    http://abagond.wordpress.com/2007/10/16/the-most-beautiful-black-actresses/

    I think Robin Givens is beautiful too. An oversight on my part.

    Vanessa Williams is cute but cute but not beautiful. To me.
22. Ella Says:

    
    Mon 21 Jul 2008 at 00:36:26

    Hi, I think your website is interesting.

    I think that you should post about lisa bonet and her daughter? I think that they are pretty.
23. abagond Says:

    
    Mon 21 Jul 2008 at 02:08:29

    Excellent suggestion! I loved Lisa Bonet! And I wonder about her daughter too.
24. MSDAY, QUERCIANELLAM ITALIA Says:

    
    Thu 31 Jul 2008 at 09:38:12

    Abagond,
    I am not sure what ethnicity you are and I don’t want to assume. However, I am a black American. My mothers side of the family were African and American Indian slaves in south Carolina. I don’t know how other people feel but I don’t like the idea of people who are not black Americans with my same history being classified as “black Americans or African American(I don’t like the term) For some reason, although it is a stain on the fabric of America, knowing that my ancestors were slaves makes me feel a source of pride. I know that my people are stronger psychologically, physically and intellectually than most. I am proud of the fact that my people combined elements of all three cultures and created various styles of music that have influenced the world and that bear little resemblance to most traditional African music, of which I have listened. I am proud of the fact that my people were the ones brave enough to stand up in the face of oppression and demand to be respected to the point that other people all over the world follow our lead. I am proud of our oratory traditions, style of being, inventions, etc. Could you do a little research and see if other black Americans whose ancestry begins in America have that same ethnic pride? I am curious.
25. abagond Says:

    
    Thu 31 Jul 2008 at 10:14:14

    Sorry, there is something I am not getting: “black Americans whose ancestry begins in America” sounds redundant to me.

    Also this:

    “I don’t know how other people feel but I don’t like the idea of people who are not black Americans with my same history being classified as “black Americans or African American(I don’t like the term)”

    But if you are black American than anyone with the same history would be the same. If by history you mean family history.

    There is something I am not getting.
26. MSDAY, QUERCIANELLAM ITALIA Says:

    
    Thu 31 Jul 2008 at 15:31:31

    There is something you definitely did not get. 1. An African from Angola for example who is naturalized as a citizen this year, is classified as African-American or a black American by the government. For example, Barack Obama himself is considered “African-American, Black American” by most people and he self-identifies. His/their history is a separate entity from my great-great grandmother who came to this country at the age of twelve as a slave. Their culture is totally different from my culture which has its roots in the south. I say this because the Africans who came to America came from diverse ethnicities, blended with Native Americans, whites and were cut off and forbidden any contact or identification with Africa. Therefore, my roots begin as an amalgamation of cultures within America.
    2. Puerto Ricans, Dominicans, Brazillians, and many other new world communities identify with their island/nation. They have their own music, food, culture, history. No different from American blacks.
    3. If a Brazillian moves the Dominican Republic, they will always be a Brazillian. If a Haitian, Jamaican, Nigerian, etc moves to America, they are automatically included in my ethnicity by federal government classifications. Their families have not been in this country for over four hundred years, they contributed nothing to my culture in it’s early stages, they didn’t fight in the civil war and many had not arrived until after Jim Crow. So why, should these people be eligible for scholarships, etc that should be reserved for the members of my ethnicity who suffered in this country.
    Thus, I am not talking about Family history because I would never need a stranger to give me information about such things. I am talking about ethnic pride.
27. abagond Says:

    
    Fri 1 Aug 2008 at 23:47:29

    I think I see now: foreign blacks as opposed to American blacks. You are not talking about race but ethnicity.
28. MSDAY, QUERCIANELLAM ITALIA Says:

    
    Sun 3 Aug 2008 at 13:38:24

    Abagond stop by if you can. I need your opinion.
29. abagond Says:

    
    Sun 3 Aug 2008 at 18:19:39

    About what?
30. jacquee Says:

    
    Sun 14 Sep 2008 at 16:19:11

    What about an article or blog regarding Nigerian men/American women relationships…the real truth!!
31. abagond Says:

    
    Tue 16 Sep 2008 at 23:55:41

    I added it to my list. Thanks!
32. bob Says:

    
    Wed 24 Dec 2008 at 22:18:12

    sophie dee
33. abagond Says:

    
    Fri 26 Dec 2008 at 17:45:57

    She is a porn actress. I have not (yet?) crossed that line and do posts on porn actresses. But thanks for the suggestion.
34. Davida Says:

    
    Tue 30 Dec 2008 at 22:29:56

    Thought of a song to post
    BillWithers
    Kissing My Love
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SYmcXK-Yilo

    Hubby was singing it to me last night
35. abagond Says:

    
    Wed 31 Dec 2008 at 07:09:00

    Cool. I never heard of that song before, but I will see if I like it. Thanks!
36. Davida Says:

    
    Fri 2 Jan 2009 at 18:05:28

    Asian American poet at a contest – I am not asian or even the child of a recent immigrant to american but it was amazing and stirring poem that deals with biracial and american intigration. I was moved. Given some of our discussion you might want to watch it.
37. abagond Says:

    
    Sun 4 Jan 2009 at 06:46:20

    More Alvin Lau goodness. Thanks!
38. Davida Says:

    
    Tue 13 Jan 2009 at 04:24:18

    re oscar grant
    I apoligize…I thought of telling you but honestly thought you had it in your que to right about – unless someone tells me about something I am out of it most of the time. I dont watch the news. I only knew because my sister was working the protest. I really find the news depressing in general and dont watch it much. I cook, clean, read books and your blog. I dont surf the net much or watch much tv. I really thought you would know about it.
39. abagond Says:

    
    Tue 13 Jan 2009 at 04:47:44

    Well I did find out about it in the end, but not as soon as you did. Doing a Google search on cnn.com it looks like they did not report on it till the 6th. I first heard about it on the 7th.
40. Davida Says:

    
    Tue 13 Jan 2009 at 05:31:47

    i went back and checked…I first heard about it actually on face book not my sister – sister just filled me in on the details. a friend posted the news story on jan 7th – so same day as you! Like I said – i really hate watching the news. My friends have a standing request to make sure and email me news stories i should know about.

    I work full time as a secretary, care for my three sons plus my sisters two when I am “not working”, cook and clean. So my free time I log on quick to facebook and your sight then power down and crochet and listen to jazz or r&b (between 9 – 11) then collapse in bed.

    I have to say – even when we disagree you are never confrontational about it. You create an environment where people call talk about sensative subjects and be heared and respected. I really admire you for that.
41. Davida Says:

    
    Tue 13 Jan 2009 at 18:57:59

    This song means so much to me…especially “I hang my head from sorrow, state of humanity”. Oscar grant, russia and georgia, iraq, and so much else

    And yet with all this evil in the world “For all the mothers fighting – For better days to come And all my women, all my women sitting here trying To come home before the sun” I try to be a good mother and wife and take of the ones I love

    Alica Keys – Superwomen

    Everywhere I’m turning
    Nothing seems complete
    I stand up and I’m searching
    For the better part of me
    I hang my head from sorrow
    state of humanity
    I wear it on my shoulders
    Gotta find the strength in me

    Cause I am a Superwoman
    Yes I am
    Yes she is
    Even when I’m a mess
    I still put on a vest
    With an S on my chest
    Oh yes
    I’m a Superwoman

    For all the mothers fighting
    For better days to come
    And all my women, all my women sitting here trying
    To come home before the sun
    And all my sisters
    Coming together
    Say yes I will
    Yes I can

    Cause I am a Superwoman
    Yes I am
    Yes she is
    Even when I’m a mess
    I still put on a vest
    With an S on my chest
    Oh yes
    I’m a Superwoman

    When I’m breaking down
    And I can’t be found
    And I start to get weak
    Cause no one knows
    Me underneath these clothes
    But I can fly
    We can fly, Oh

    Cause I am a Superwoman
    Yes I am
    Yes she is
    Even when I’m a mess
    I still put on a vest
    With an S on my chest
    Oh yes
    I’m a Superwoman
42. Davida Says:

    
    Tue 13 Jan 2009 at 19:01:45

    another topic – 100s of christians in enitrea are being held by the government in metal boxes 4 feet by 4 feet…without any sort of trial…simply because they are christian.
    Enitrea is located in east africa near the red sea.
    Two news stories on the subject.
    http://www.cbn.com/CBNNews/CWN/041604eritrea.aspx

    http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/world/africa/7015033.stm
43. Davida Says:

    
    Wed 14 Jan 2009 at 01:13:50

    thought you might want to see thomas sowells blog – i have a hunch you might disagree with him, but he can give you an alternate pov as you do with me

    http://www.realclearpolitics.com/articles/author/thomas_sowell/
44. abagond Says:

    
    Wed 14 Jan 2009 at 05:08:13

    Thanks. I did not know he had a blog – I thought maybe he was too old for that sort of thing! And thanks for the suggestion about Eritrean Christians.
45. abagond Says:

    
    Wed 14 Jan 2009 at 05:16:24

    Davida: I love Alicia Keys, but most of her videos, the good ones at least, are not embeddable from YouTube, which is why you rarely see her here.
46. Davida Says:

    
    Wed 14 Jan 2009 at 19:31:54

    another topic – http://www.military.com/news/article/obama-may-end-militarys-ban-on-gays.html?col=1186032325324&ESRC=navy.nl

    Obama may intend to end the ban on homosexuals int he military
47. abagond Says:

    
    Thu 15 Jan 2009 at 01:12:34

    Thanks.
48. Davida Says:

    
    Tue 20 Jan 2009 at 05:35:12

    have you ever written about tattooing? It was once taboo…now more main stream. I am a ministers daughter and before getting mine my father and I discussed why it is perceived as a sin. My father said its not a sin (of course he thought I was asking for a friend). He did try to change his story when I started getting ink but I told him its either a sin or its not and he agreed thats it not…but he doesnt like it.

    I rewrote Shakespheres – to be or not to be

    A Parody on Shakesphere’s Sonnet:

    To be Inked, or not to be Inked: that is the question:
    Whether ’tis nobler in the mind to suffer
    The slings and arrows of disapproval,
    Or to conform to societies belief to avoid troubles,

    Or by opposing them, do you end them? To ink: to change;
    and perhaps; by inking to say better express
    The heart-ache and the thousand natural shocks
    That flesh is heir to, ’tis a consummation

    Devoutly to be wish’d. To ink, to change;
    To change: perchance to dream: ay, there’s the rub;
    For in that change of skin what dreams may come
    When we have shuffled off this normal skin,
    Must give us pause: there’s the respect
    That makes calamity of so long life;

    For who would bear the whips and scorns of time,
    The oppressor’s wrong, the proud man’s contumely,
    The pangs of despised love, the law’s delay,
    The insolence of office and the spurns
    That patient merit of the unworthy takes,
    When he himself might his quietus make
    With a bare body? who would bear this,

    To grunt and sweat under a weary life,
    But that the dread of something different from others,
    With unchanged skin that with we bourn
    We bare those ills, alone, unexpressed

    Rather, make us bear those ills we have
    Expressing, with our skin, what others may know not?
    Don’t let society make cowards of us all;

    But let the native hue of color added
    To our sicklied pale cast of skin,
    Be enterprises of great moment
    With this regard our life we take the helm,
    And in the name of knowing they self
    Be all my trials and triumphs remembered in ink
49. A White Guy Says:

    
    Tue 20 Jan 2009 at 21:44:10

    Here is a suggestion:
    “White people are stereotyped as looking down on those who are different.”

    (instead of your “White people look down on those who are different”).

    Not only am I offended by this generalization; most white people I know are nothing like this.
50. abagond Says:

    
    Tue 20 Jan 2009 at 22:45:39

    Thanks for the suggestion. I do not think ALL white Americans think that way. But SOME of them do, that I know quite clearly. It is not at all a stereotype. I wish it were that simple.

    Also: if you are white, as your name says, then how in the world would you know? How would you find yourself at the receiving end of this sort of thinking?
51. abagond Says:

    
    Tue 20 Jan 2009 at 22:58:55

    Davida: Thanks. I added tattoos to my list.
52. Davida Says:

    
    Tue 20 Jan 2009 at 23:12:01

    abagond – I do think it ishuman nature to look down upon all sorts of class distinctions. I often here at work – There are often calenar conflicts, conference room conflicts etc that occur. And some of my fellow executive assistants will pull the rank card (how dare they talk to that VP like that…or dont they know this meeting was asked for by Mr. Big Shot Lawyer?) And I – in a gentle yet firm voice, wil redirect the focus to…It doesnt matter if its 10 lawyers, or 10 mail room employees…the point is common curtesy. I treat all my fellow employess at work like I do my VP. It annoys me this perception that simiply because they have a college degree they are better than the single mother working 10 hour shifts as a receptionist. They are not. Or because you ordered the latte you have the right to treat the person behind the counter as if you are better than them. I have (on more than one occasion) stopped a person and told them to apoligize to the starbucks employee…or mcdonalds employee for their rude behavior. I point out that they could have asked to have their order fixed in a manner that wasnt condesending and that one should not make assumptions about a person by what they do for a living. It infuriates me when a person behaves as if they are better than someone else and I always end up embaressing my husband. He says I have to remember I am not the universal mother.

    Or to quote one of my favorite lines from a movie (all though I cant remember which one anymore) You should treat a duchess like a prostitue and a prostitute like a duchess…
53. John Says:

    
    Wed 21 Jan 2009 at 17:50:18

    abagond Says:
    Tue 20 Jan 2009 at 22:45:39
    “Thanks for the suggestion. I do not think ALL white Americans think that way. But SOME of them do, that I know quite clearly. It is not at all a stereotype. I wish it were that simple.
    Also: if you are white, as your name says, then how in the world would you know? How would you find yourself at the receiving end of this sort of thinking?”

    First, to make a statement “White people look down on those who are different” is a stereotype by definition. That statement did not specify “some” white people. If it did, I would not have brought this up. If you mean some instead of all than please make that clear. Unless you use that qualifying word, it is assumed to mean all, grammatically speaking.

    Second, because you cannot see what I look like, I used the name “A White Guy” only to let you know that I am a white male. That’s it. I picked that “name” on the fly, because I saw that phrase a lot in your blog. I don’t live my life dwelling on being white and I would not have even brought up the subject if not for your blog being almost entirely about ethnicity.

    You don’t know me at all. If you did know me, you would know that I don’t look down on anyone who is “different” from me. On the contrary, I love the diversity in humanity. So, naturally, I resent these generalizations.

    Also, when I first posted under the name “A White Guy” it was on the topic “Black women that white men like.” You stated: “The features of her face can be black, but not too black.” I wanted to let you know that there are white men, including myself, who appreciate the beauty of women with strong ‘Afrocentric’ features.
54. John Says:

    
    Wed 21 Jan 2009 at 18:12:41

    Davida Says:
    Wed 14 Jan 2009 at 01:13:50

    “thought you might want to see thomas sowells blog – i have a hunch you might disagree with him, but he can give you an alternate pov as you do with me

    http://www.realclearpolitics.com/articles/author/thomas_sowell/ ”

    I love Thomas Sowell. He is a brilliant and independent thinker.
55. anon Says:

    
    Wed 21 Jan 2009 at 18:51:19

    Write a positive post on thin women for a change.
56. Davida Says:

    
    Wed 21 Jan 2009 at 19:08:56

    Abagond 0 if or when you do the tattoo post – let me know..>I have a whole series of pictures of my tattoo session…up close on the process. I love to be able to express my inner soul externally. I never felt very beautiful on the outside until I was able to express how I think I look on the inside. Now I feel alot of the time like the most powerful, glorious women in the world.
57. abagond Says:

    
    Wed 21 Jan 2009 at 21:39:35

    Davida: thanks.

    anon: good idea.
58. abagond Says:

    
    Wed 21 Jan 2009 at 21:49:31

    John:

    This page is a place to put down ideas for posts before I forget them, so some of them are not yet well formed or thought-out – yet. It is a kind of womb for future posts.

    So while it is good to point out what you did, please do not go on to assume that it is what I ordinarily think or anything.

    If I said something like that in a completed post, then that would be different since I do put some thought into what I write and try to choose my words carefully. (But even then I tend to have this way of talking in absolutes).
59. abagond Says:

    
    Wed 21 Jan 2009 at 22:16:04

    John, you said:

    … I don’t live my life dwelling on being white and I would not have even brought up the subject if not for your blog being almost entirely about ethnicity.

    If you are American, then you should dwell more on being white. Read Macon D’s blog for a start:

    http://stuffwhitepeopledo.blogspot.com/
60. John Says:

    
    Wed 21 Jan 2009 at 23:33:50

    Abagond, being white is not that important to me. I rarely think about it unless someone else raises the issue. I think we are all better off if we cherish our differences without obsessing over them.
61. Davida Says:

    
    Thu 5 Feb 2009 at 15:36:48

    suggestion – the twins born in london to bi racial parents – two sets of twins – one is white in appearance – one is much darker – paper calls them white and black twins…one would be suject to white advantage the other not…
62. abagond Says:

    
    Fri 6 Feb 2009 at 00:53:20

    Thanks!
63. mynameismyname Says:

    
    Fri 6 Feb 2009 at 05:10:40

    Instead of analyzing your ideas of what “white America” finds attractive in black women, why not do a list or at least an analysis on how “black America” define beauty in their women. What do black women themselves think of their beauty? What famous black women appeal most to black folks? That would be very interesting.
64. abagond Says:

    
    Fri 6 Feb 2009 at 11:23:43

    That would be extremely interesting, but how would I go about nailing down “what famous black women appeal most to black folks”? Do I use Essence or Smooth? Not only do they have different ideas of black female beauty, but it comes down to what some editors in New York think.

    Any thoughts?
65. mynameismyname Says:

    
    Fri 6 Feb 2009 at 15:33:17

    Exactly, the same way assessing Maxim or Cosmo represent more of a editorial board’s ideas than the common person’s.

    You see how complex it all is?

    You could gather such information by doing what you did for the previous post, gathering online lists of beautiful black female celebs decided and compiled by blacks (supposedly). Yet, really, what would they prove? Then again, it could play as a ancedotal constrast to the other list.

    What black female celebs have you seen the blacks who you’ve known or observed really take to?
66. abagond Says:

    
    Fri 6 Feb 2009 at 16:35:35

    Interesting. Off the top of my head: Aaliyah, Nia Long, Chaka Khan, Phylicia Rashad, Janet Jackson, Queen Latifah and Gabrielle Union.
67. abagond Says:

    
    Fri 6 Feb 2009 at 17:19:18

    mynameismyname said:

    You could gather such information by doing what you did for the previous post, gathering online lists of beautiful black female celebs decided and compiled by blacks (supposedly). Yet, really, what would they prove? Then again, it could play as a ancedotal constrast to the other list.

    Good idea. At the very least it will be the (supposedly) black counterpart to “The most beautiful women according to white people”.
68. mynameismyname Says:

    
    Fri 6 Feb 2009 at 23:21:24

    I honestly think you should take me up on my suggestion, Aba! Seriously. I’m willing to help you with it. It’s far more interesting and relevant than the other list. IMO.

    All those women you named above, in answering my question, ARE beautiful. Funny, I’ve heard a lot of those ladies cited as beautiful by both blacks and non-blacks. I’m telling you, a lot of non-blacks dig Gabby. Her and Sanaa Lathan.

    Jill Marie Jones and Vivica A. Fox are two black female celebs who I’ve heard many black folks (mainly males) rave about yet I never saw the “hype”.

    Keisha Knight Pulliam, Lauren London, Meagan Good, Stacey Dash and Serena Williams also seem to get a LOT of love with many black Americans. Both from my own observations and others.

    Like I was mentioning, we should really attempt to explore this. Just for constrast.
69. abagond Says:

    
    Sat 7 Feb 2009 at 00:03:37

    mynameismyname:

    Okay. It will appear on Monday. Not Saturday – I promised Renee of Womanist Musings that I would do a list of black women I most admire before I put up another one of my tawdry little beauty lists. And not Sunday – that is when I write to my mother.

    If you feel you understand how I did the tabulation for “the most beautiful black women according to white people”, you can do the tabulation if you are up for it. Search on “the most beautiful black women” in double quotes. If not I will do it. In either case I will do the write-up and post it on Monday morning.

    This will be interesting!
70. mynameismyname Says:

    
    Sat 7 Feb 2009 at 06:44:51

    Alright! I anticipate it.

    I think you’d do a better job compiling the lists. I had difficulty finding the results you found, using the search terms you used on the other list.

    I will tell you one thing though. Just from browsing internet discussions boards that are ran by (supposedly) black folks via the search terms you use: it seems like discussions of black female beauty inevitably turn into discourses in colorism and Western standards of beauty.

    Yet, like one especially enlightned poster noted in the other list’s comment section, the conversation rarely veers into those waters when it comes to measuring black male attractiveness.

    Why the double standard, you think?

    See, Monday’s entry WILL BE interesting!
71. Daniel Asamota Says:

    
    Wed 11 Feb 2009 at 05:33:32

    I am glad someone is bringing attention to the Nollywood actresses and also I would suggest talking about the actors too. It is my hope to sell the American black onto the films coming out of Nollywood and to hopefully improve the standard of the films so we can have big budget productions one day like Bollywood. Also, I have two books out and am looking for investors to make movies out of my work. Anyone interested please contact me at dasamota@yahoo.com. Thanx.
72. abagond Says:

    
    Thu 12 Feb 2009 at 12:16:31

    Thanks, but I find actresses so much more interesting than actors. Maybe it comes from how they look.
73. Davida Says:

    
    Wed 18 Feb 2009 at 06:32:08

    I wrote my first public little blog tonight.
    On – the Smell of Love.
    I posted it to my myspace and facebook pages…not sure if you can view it. I dont have an actual site yet. would LOVE your feedback

    But here is the link
    http://blogs.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=blog.view&friendID=138768659&blogID=471481200
    let me know if you cant see it
74. Davida Says:

    
    Wed 18 Feb 2009 at 06:35:37

    I dont think that link will work – if not try facebook: http://www.facebook.com/home.php#/note.php?note_id=65168204917
75. Davida Says:

    
    Wed 18 Feb 2009 at 06:47:55

    argh – how about this one http://blog.360.yahoo.com/blog-sh.En7M0dqdsfCqDCGJ2YICxPVDXsw–?cq=1&p=43
76. abagond Says:

    
    Thu 19 Feb 2009 at 18:31:00

    Wow, that is great news! Only the last link worked for me. You should make it more public, easier to get to. WordPress and Blogger are both free.

    Also you should make the lettering bigger if you can. On Firefox on my MacBook there are almost ten lines an inch (2.7 mm per line). That is too small to read for long periods of time. Not sure if that is something you can easily change.

    I hope you can manage to post at least once a week!
77. Davida Says:

    
    Thu 19 Feb 2009 at 23:40:52

    what did you think? worth publishing? and doing the extra effort to go to wordpress or something like that?
78. dedabets Says:

    
    Fri 20 Feb 2009 at 00:56:55

    http://theaveragegirlnextdoor.wordpress.com/about/
79. dedabets Says:

    
    Fri 20 Feb 2009 at 00:57:15

    thanks for all your support and help!
80. abagond Says:

    
    Fri 20 Feb 2009 at 02:50:39

    It is worth publishing. Once you get it set up and get used to it, it is pretty easy. That is why there are millions of blogs – because it is so easy.
81. LaSmartOne Says:

    
    Sat 28 Feb 2009 at 22:39:08

    You should do a post on Ellis Cose or his book Envy of the World. Great book!
82. RealityChecker Says:

    
    Sun 1 Mar 2009 at 03:44:22

    A good post on the Dark Ages will provide the White supremacists who troll this board a reminder that Human history is older than the past 500 years.
83. dedabets Says:

    
    Thu 26 Mar 2009 at 18:35:25

    womens body language – and how men perceive the signals we are sending.
84. Davida Says:

    
    Fri 27 Mar 2009 at 05:56:12

    oakland PD lost four officers today.

    As much as Oscar Grants death was a horrible wrong – why no comment on these four mens death? My sister actually arrested the shooter in 2001 for car jacking another man at gun point.
85. abagond Says:

    
    Fri 27 Mar 2009 at 06:32:31

    Good suggestion. I am thinking of doing one on the shooter.

    Dying in the line of duty is an honourable thing, something I respect and even admire, but, just to let you know, I do not get twisted out of shape over the death of policemen. For some background as to why, I used to live in the part of New York where Sean Bell was killed:

    http://abagond.wordpress.com/2008/03/18/jamaica-queens/
86. Davida Says:

    
    Fri 27 Mar 2009 at 08:13:49

    my sister arrested the shooter in 2001 – after he held another man at gun point and car jacked his car.
87. dedabets Says:

    
    Fri 27 Mar 2009 at 18:40:45

    What if the cops were black – would you care then? Cops have families too…and most cops are not bad.
88. dedabets Says:

    
    Fri 27 Mar 2009 at 21:24:48

    might want to do an article on this

    http://suicideandmentalhealthassociationinternational.org/libAfriAmer.html

    Blacks Less Likely to Show Suicide Factors

    By DANIEL YEE, Associated Press Writer

    ATLANTA – A study of suicides in Fulton County found that blacks who
    commit suicide aren’t as likely as whites to display telltale
    suicide risk factors such as depression, health officials said
    Monday.

    “
89. Mayhue Says:

    
    Sun 29 Mar 2009 at 01:26:51

    Maybe you should filter some comments. I think your sight ie being overrun by White males and I preffered when your posts were more about People of color.
90. abagond Says:

    
    Sun 29 Mar 2009 at 08:39:18

    I kicked off one of them and put in place a stricter comment policy:

    http://abagond.wordpress.com/2009/03/29/new-comment-policy/
91. Davida Says:

    
    Fri 3 Apr 2009 at 05:18:22

    I couldnt find a post on IR relationships BM to WW so I thought I would post here – verizon wireless commercial for the verizon hub – black husband sending directions to white wife. think it gets international play or just in areas where IR relationships are more commen.
92. abagond Says:

    
    Fri 3 Apr 2009 at 05:57:51

    Thanks! I found it on YouTube and posted it on this blog:

    http://abagond.wordpress.com/2009/04/03/verizon-hub-ad-black-man-white-woman/
93. Mariella Says:

    
    Fri 3 Apr 2009 at 08:08:56

    Hello, great site here I am looking for fans of celebs all over the world. If you have any fresh gossips with someone, i will appreciate your help In exchange I can upload some top hottest stuff from my archive here. Regards! Waiting for links with good stuff, and free of course
94. Not a hater Says:

    
    Sat 4 Apr 2009 at 16:03:53

    Hey abagond there are 2 VERY beautiful black women I think you should write about, please write about them. There not that known but they are beautiful

    One is a model named Lanisha Cole, she has done a lot of music videos and was a model on deal or no deal and the price is right. Please look her up and post her.

    Another is an aspiring model name Nerissa Irving, she was born in jamica and is a very beautiful black woman.

    Please can u post these two women up in one of your blogs! Thanx.
95. abagond Says:

    
    Sat 4 Apr 2009 at 16:24:12

    I know about Nerissa. She has an entry on one of my other blogs, Black Beauty of the Day:

    http://blackbeautyoftheday.blogspot.com/2008/10/nerissa-kamoy.html

    I will post Lanisha there too for Monday.

    My posts on this blog are all 500 words long, give or take 20 words. If I can find enough to write on either one I will do a post here too.
96. Not a hater Says:

    
    Sat 4 Apr 2009 at 17:23:09

    Thanks im looking foward to your blog I got some info on her here at this link:

    http://realtalkny.uproxx.com/2007/11/topic/topic/vixens/saturday-night-vixen-lanisha-cole/
97. abagond Says:

    
    Sat 4 Apr 2009 at 19:03:36

    Wow, she is beautiful!
98. Dedabets Says:

    
    Sun 5 Apr 2009 at 21:06:08

    My bro in law (who is a BM) stronly disagrees with some of your view points…agrees with others.

    Your viewpoint of police is one he disagrees with.

    He suggested I ask you your take on the three Pittsburgh cops who died…and if you assume that gunman was not killed because he is white –
    my bro – in – law doesnt think it has anything to do with race.
99. abagond Says:

    
    Mon 6 Apr 2009 at 03:51:01

    I thought that policemen were trained to shoot you dead if you point a gun at them, no questions asked. Is that true? And if so, how in the world did the gunman in this case avoid getting killed while being able to kill three policemen himself?
100. LaSmartOne Says:

     
     Mon 6 Apr 2009 at 19:57:54

     Hey, could you touch on your thoughts of the United States of Africa? There’s even a Youtube lecture video of Dr. Molefi Asante on the topic entitled “Toward the African Renaissance”. What would it mean for Africa and the diaspora economically and psychologically?
101. dedabets Says:

     
     Mon 6 Apr 2009 at 21:59:48

     no – police are trained to shoot for center body mass – the chest.

     This man had a vest on. There fore he lived. The head is a smaller target and harder to hit if a person is ducked down and hiding…they ended up shooting him in the legs. Chest shots wouldnt work.

     People who die of police gun far are either shot in the chest and not wearing a vest or a cop got a lucky shot to the head or accidentally hit an artery – very few shooters are skilled enough to hit a person in the head or purposely hit an artery – if the victem is aware they are being shot at. Snipers are different issue since the victem is mostly unaware of the shooter. Your basic cop will aim for chest…if their is a vest on – then the person will probably live.

     Cops were responding to the gunmans mothers 911 call. He met cops at the door with vest on and shot them in head before they were even aware this was something more than a mother and son fighting over the dog pee-ing on the carpet. Thats why they died and he didnt. Also why the shooter in oakland did die – no vest.
102. dedabets Says:

     
     Mon 6 Apr 2009 at 22:41:38

     i miss the posts you used to do – less in response to comments and mroe on topics I wouldnt have thought off – old english, historical issues, books I havent had the chance to read. Your two posts on seeing a women and how time stopped for you are two of my favorites. Your new years day post was well written and moved me. just my two cents…their is so much evil and nastiness in this world – I enjoyed seeing beauty through your eyes.
103. abagond Says:

     
     Tue 7 Apr 2009 at 05:02:16

     Wow, thanks for the feedback. That is good to know.
104. abagond Says:

     
     Tue 7 Apr 2009 at 05:03:32

     LaSmartOne: I will look into that. Maybe a post can come out of that. Thanks.
105. LaSmartOne Says:

     
     Tue 14 Apr 2009 at 11:26:24

     Just to add another suggestion to the list:

     Richard Wright’s Black Boy (the fully restored version by HarperPerennial). Amazing read! He has so many insights that are applicable to today that it should be required reading by all Americans, but most of all black boys themselves. So much has changed but so much has not and Wright illuminates the dysfunctions and quandaries of “Negro life” (both Southern and Northern) in so much stark detail that one cannot help but reflect on their contemporary counterparts. Wright’s autobiography is about the development of a mind against forces that would deny him his own humanity. I can’t recommend this book enough to friends and family, urging them to forget their preconceptions and to just read the book.
106. D&nni Says:

     
     Mon 20 Apr 2009 at 18:12:02

     Hey Abagond I really love your blog. Congratulations!

     I would like you to post things about Africa before europeans’ overseas expansion, such as Mali, Ghana or Gaza Empires. Those are african history pearls that should not be forgoten, because the only way to change the future is understanding our past.

     Here I leave you a couple sites, in wich you can find lots of beautiful africans:

     - http://bhfmagazine.com/bhfadvert_articles/bhf_mainmenu.html

     (sorry about my english, it’s not my first language)

     Thanks for all of your posts it’s really fulfilling to see that not everyone is being brainwashed by this society.
107. abagond Says:

     
     Tue 21 Apr 2009 at 06:19:59

     Thanks. Great idea. I knew about BHF, but thanks – you were right to tell me about it.
108. Regina Says:

     
     Thu 23 Apr 2009 at 03:29:29

     Hi there! Love your blog! I am a middle-aged black American female who is dating a middle-aged white American man. One of the things that I’ve noticed is the tendency to show famous BM/WW IR couples together in the media and in magazines quite frequently (i.e. Seal and Heidi Klum), but to only show the female side of BW/WM IRs (i.e., Alfre Woodard and Roderick Spencer).

     It would be interesting to see a post as to why people think this is.

     Thanks!
     Regina
109. abagond Says:

     
     Thu 23 Apr 2009 at 22:32:31

     I know what you mean but I do not know why that is.
110. mynameismyname Says:

     
     Fri 24 Apr 2009 at 01:06:06

     Yeah, there are many famous white men who are married or involved with black women (and vice versa) yet they don’t get close to the same media attention that Seal/Heidi or Bush/Kardashian get.

     I don’t think it’s too hard to figure out why that is.
111. Regina Says:

     
     Fri 24 Apr 2009 at 07:39:04

     I know why it is, but simply wanted to open up a dialogue with others on the site to discuss it and hear their opinions, which could be different from mine.

     Not only it is difficult to see BW/WM celebrity couples in the media and popular entertainment magazines (Halle Berry and Gabriel Aubry seem to be the only ones), but I have been hard pressed to find info and pictures of famous couples on the internet as well.

     How many people are aware that the prince of Lichtenstein is married to a black woman and has a child with her? Check out this comment written by a poster who is wondering why this is as well.

     http://www.thumperscorner.com/discus/messages/2152/6405.html?1142425987

     Posted on Thursday, July 14, 2005 – 12:01 am:
     After all the drama with Prince Albert, I thought I’d share a love story with you.

     In what some are considering a modern-day Cinderella story, former New York fashion designer, Angela Brown, wed Prince Maximilian of Liechtenstein in a fairy tale Manhattan wedding on January 29, 2000.

     Angela Brown, the daughter of Mr. Javier Francisco Brown and Mrs. Silvia Maritza Brown, was born in Bocas del Toro / Panama on February 3rd, 1958. She attended high school in New York and studied fashion at the Parson’s School of Design. For three years, she sold her designs under the name A. Brown and also was employed until September 1999 by fashion designer Adrienne Vittadini.

     Prince Maximilian, born on May 16, 1969. He attended school in Liechtenstein and earned a degree from the European Business School in Frankfurt in 1993. He currently works for Industri Kapital, a leading European private equity firm, in Hamburg.

     The couple met while Prince Maximilian was working for Chase Capital Partners in New York City in 1997. They became friends and began a courtship in the summer of 1999.

     The were wed at Saint Vincent Ferrer Church in Manhattan at 11:00 a.m. on January 29, 2000. The couple was joined by a few hundred friends and family members for the ceremony.

     Based on America’s obsession with European royalty, why haven’t we heard more about this union?
112. mynameismyname Says:

     
     Fri 24 Apr 2009 at 10:54:41

     Regina,

     I agree. I didn’t know about Prince Max’s marriage either until I saw mention of it on some internet message board! There’s so many more examples of noted white men with their black wives (and children). They’re rarely covered by the pop media. George Lucas, Wolfgang Puck, Clint Eastwood, Colin Farrell, Billy Bob Thorton, Ben Broufman and so many more: all involved with black women for significant amounts of time. Yet, those relationships rarely got any media shine.

     It’s the same with the many famous black women who married white men. You’d be surprised by the large number of noted black women who fit that criteria. Why? Because they weren’t that publicized.
113. Regina Says:

     
     Fri 24 Apr 2009 at 20:29:45

     Mynameismyname,

     I agree with you regarding the fact that these relationship are not publicized.

     My belief is that mainstream society wants to continue to present the white female as ‘the’ ideal standard of what is beautiful and desirable. God forbid, that a black woman is perceived to be just as attractive and desirable as her white counterpart .

     Showing that there are white men around the world who date and marry black women challenges the white standard of beauty. Therefore, it must be kept on the down low. On the other hand, it will make headline news if the white guy sleeps with and has a child out of wedlock with a black woman, but refuses to marry her (Prince Albert).
114. Uncle Milton Says:

     
     Mon 27 Apr 2009 at 22:04:22

     To Mynameismyname and Regina who said:

     Not only it is difficult to see BW/WM celebrity couples in the media and popular entertainment magazines (Halle Berry and Gabriel Aubry seem to be the only ones.

     (Regina)

     Yeah, there are many famous white men who are married or involved with black women (and vice versa) yet they don’t get close to the same media attention that Seal/Heidi or Bush/Kardashian get.

     I don’t think it’s too hard to figure out why that is.
     (Regina)
     

     Halle Berry, Seal, Heidi Klum, Kim Kardashian, and Reggie Bush are all famous. That’s why they get the coverage.

     If only one of the members of the couple is famous then they take a backseat in the media coverage. I know little of white wives of famous black men unless they are also famous.

     George Lucas, Wolfgang Puck, Clint Eastwood, Colin Farrell, Billy Bob Thorton, Ben Broufman

     Ben Broufman – Didn’t know who he was until I read about him on Wikipedia.

     Clint Eastwood and Dina Eastwood. Personally I think it’s a stretch to describe someone who is 1/4 black, 1/4 Japanese, and 1/2 European as being black. (Also her father was raised by a Hispanic family not a black family so I would suspect he would have more a Latino than a black identity..)

     I knew about Wolfgang Puck and his Ethiopian wife.

     I don’t know anything about Colin Ferrell and his wife/wives but on Wikipedia it only shows that he has been married (and now divorced..) to a white woman.

     Billy Bob Thornton has been married 5 times.. the only one I knew about before today was Angelina Jolie. He wasn’t really famous when he was married for two years to his third wife (Cynda Williams who is black..) Jolie and he also made a spectacle of themselves.

     Prince Maximilian – never heard of him before now.. and how many people could find Lichtenstein on the map.. or care..? People in the US are generally only interested in British royalty. As for royalty in general.. all I can say is a big raspberry. Royalty is an anachronism in the modern age and to me is complete nonsense although I will say that Prince Max and his wife make a striking couple. As Prince Albert of Monaco.. once again another royal twat (and not British..) who cares about these smucks.

     Lucas and Mellody Hobson aren’t married and don’t have any kids. (I didn’t know about any of his previous relationships until I read Wikipedia including the one with Linda Ronstadt..)
115. abagond Says:

     
     Tue 28 Apr 2009 at 01:36:47

     I did a post on this, so please make any comments on this topic there:

     http://abagond.wordpress.com/2009/04/28/famous-interracial-couples/
116. Regina Says:

     
     Tue 28 Apr 2009 at 03:47:49

     I wanted to add that I do feel that individuals who express their disdain over seeing BW/IR couples have a right to do so in response to the article; however, as someone who is in an IR with a white man myself, I feel that they have no right to personally insult or attack me and my boyfriend if they take offense to our public displays of affection (i.e. holding hands and kissing).

     Check out this recent article regarding the the best places to kiss, and note the outrage that many people in St. Louis, MO expressed when they saw the pic of the IR couple kissing.

     http://www.stltoday.com/blogzone/a-conversation-about-race/general-news/2009/04/black-man-kissing-white-woman-causes-stir/comment-page-2/#comments
117. abagond Says:

     
     Tue 28 Apr 2009 at 04:41:01

     Wow. I thought Americans were beyond all that. I guess those Hollywood producers who will not let Will Smith kiss a white woman in their films have a better sense of the country than I do, as dark as I sometimes paint it!
118. racerealist Says:

     
     Tue 28 Apr 2009 at 05:01:27

     There is a big difference between two regular people expressing their affection and the media portraying an atypical, contrived image of interracial romance. Missouri is 85% white! Would you expect a different response if it were two white men kissing, or a Muslim couple in turban and burka?

     To me it reeks of a dying newspaper trying to stir up publicity in a last-ditch effort to save itself. It was a conscious decision to put this image on the cover. This was not an article about interracial romance, and the people in Missouri do not see this as a “normal” couple. So there is naturally some backlash from people who wonder why this image was selected. People want a newspaper that appeals to and represents themselves, not one that misrepresents their community.
119. Truth B. Told Says:

     
     Tue 28 Apr 2009 at 05:49:54

     I have heard that the couple depicted in the magazine are actually a married couple.
120. Regina Says:

     
     Tue 28 Apr 2009 at 16:36:58

     I’ve noticed that oftentimes, both black men and black women will put each other down in order to justify dating outside of the race. My question is:

     Why does the reason for dating a white (pink, blue, or red) person have to be because there’s something wrong with or lacking with the opposite sex within one’s own race?? I get tired of hearing black men justify their reasons for dating white women by putting down all black women. LIkewise, I feel the same way about black women who do the same when they choose to date white men.

     My decision to date a white man does not mean that I find fault with black men. Good and bad men come in all different colors. I was married to a black man for 12 years. Even though we got divorced, we still remain friends and keep in touch. Trying a different flavor of ice cream doesn’t mean that I don’t like chocolate; it simply means that I enjoy other flavors as well
121. Shawn Says:

     
     Tue 5 May 2009 at 00:16:45

     Could you do one on white men stereotypes
122. abagond Says:

     
     Wed 6 May 2009 at 03:59:02

     Like which ones?
123. Regina Says:

     
     Thu 7 May 2009 at 19:29:18

     I have often heard people who are against BW/WW IRs argue against marrying outside of one’s race because the divorce rate is higher. Do you feel that couples in these types of IRs have a higher chance of getting divorce than same race couples? According to the author of this YouTube video, the answer is no.

     http://www.blackfemaleinterracialmarriage.com/
124. abagond Says:

     
     Mon 11 May 2009 at 07:08:27

     Marriage is hard enough when married to someone of your own race, so it would stand to reason that it would be harder and more likely to fail if you married outside your race. But if the numbers say otherwise for certain pairings, then so it is.
125. Dedabets Says:

     
     Mon 11 May 2009 at 20:36:19

     Perhaps – if one is willing to get married and risk the negative thoughts in the first place, then they have the mindset to fight through the other trials that occur in marriage. perhaps IR relationships for that reason are more likely to succeed then same race marriages.

     They have already stood up in front of their families and said I choose this person…often the families being the first to be against IR relationships. So the other trials in life, they are ready for them…
126. D&nni Says:

     
     Tue 12 May 2009 at 10:40:50

     Hello Abagond, here is an actress from Senegal you could post on beautiful African women.

     Photos:
     http://63.img.v4.skyrock.net/63a/nubiennes/pics/538502270_small.jpg

     http://okabol.com/jpek/CES_arrivee_inconnue2.jpg

     http://www.life.com/image/74539606

     http://img5.allocine.fr/acmedia/medias/nmedia/18/64/22/14/18761036.jpg

     Filmography:
     http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0618456/

     I really like a musical she made (original title “Nha Fala”) from an west-african director named Flora Gomes, think he is from Guinea-Bissau (a country next to Senegal).
127. abagond Says:

     
     Tue 12 May 2009 at 16:48:32

     Thanks for the suggestion. That last picture was amazing.
128. islandgirl Says:

     
     Thu 11 Jun 2009 at 23:36:17

     I have been at my job for over a year along with me, there are two or three other black women. They always get us mixed up even though we look NOTHING a like. We’re all different shapes, sizes, complexions and you would think after a year, they would be able to distinguish us.

     This happens all of the time. White people telling you that you look like or mistaking you for someone who looks nothing like you. It takes away your sense of individuality and uniqueness. It just shows that they put us all in the same category.

     It is really irritating because we all would like to be seen as individual and unique.

     Would you please do a blog about why some white people think we look so much a like?

     Thanks
129. Victoria Says:

     
     Wed 17 Jun 2009 at 22:04:00

     It would be great if you made a blog on here about how black women were forced in to sterilization up until the 1970’s in North Carolina
130. A Sudanese Says:

     
     Thu 25 Jun 2009 at 04:15:10

     I think posts about the varying music scenes of Africa would be great! It could be a good oppurtunity to compare African music styles with Africans of the Americas’ music styles.

     You could do a piece about Malian music and then have videos with the kora. Or you could have a piece about Nubian music of southern Egypt/northern Sudan. Or Habesha (Ethiopian/Eritrean) music or any cultures of Africa!

     A traditional Nubian song in Nobiin (Nubian language) in Sudan (the beginning has crazy chanting for people excited for a wedding, but at 2:19 and onward, a man sings a very beautiful song): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U4_mtq6NSGU&feature=channel_page

     Or…

     Traditional Kora (a harp like instrument) from Senegal… very beautiful: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JNl8kIwj1_k&playnext_from=PL&feature=PlayList&p=9E24A92C0661F75E&playnext=1&index=3

     You know, stuff like that.
131. Victoria Says:

     
     Thu 25 Jun 2009 at 05:29:05

     Have you ever heard of Helm Magazine? Its a magazine Ethopian Magazine that features beautiful black women from Ethoipa and has issues on fashion and entertainment. This magazine puts Maxim and the others to shame. Its a wonder I’ve never heard of it. I’ll provide you with a link.
     http://www.helmmagazine.com/
132. Lolita Says:

     
     Sun 28 Jun 2009 at 03:08:00

     Have you ever thought of posting pictures of non famous black women? We are all beautiful in our own way….
133. Mayhue Says:

     
     Tue 30 Jun 2009 at 05:08:40

     Abagond,

     I think you should do a blog piece on this:

     Frank Lombard is an associate director at Duke University’s Global Health Institute and a homosexual who was charged last week with the molestation of his adopted 5-year-old black son and actively trying to sell him for sex on the internet.

     http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2009/06/27/frank-lombard-duke-univ-o_n_221900.html

     No AP organizations have picked up on this story, however the Duke Lacrosse players were splattered all over the news and the black stripper was pilloried when it was suspected she was lying.

     Here there is proof that Lombard and his white partner adopted a Black child in order to molest him and then pimp him out to the highest bidder. Although I support Gay adoption, the racial and sexual politics associated with this story is sickening.
134. abagond Says:

     
     Tue 30 Jun 2009 at 16:48:27

     How utterly sick. I will look into it more. Maybe I will do it. Thanks for the suggestion.
135. abagond Says:

     
     Tue 30 Jun 2009 at 16:50:53

     Lolita said:

     Have you ever thought of posting pictures of non famous black women? We are all beautiful in our own way….

     I have a website of famous and not-so-famous beautiful black women here:

     http://blackbeautyoftheday.blogspot.com/
136. abagond Says:

     
     Tue 30 Jun 2009 at 16:52:05

     Victoria: I never heard of Helm magazine. Nor about the forced sterilization of black women in North Carolina. Thanks!
137. abagond Says:

     
     Tue 30 Jun 2009 at 16:55:48

     A Sudanese: A good idea – doing posts on different styles of African music. But I have to warn you, I will be more interested in West African music since it is bound to have had a greater effect on the music I know.
138. abagond Says:

     
     Tue 30 Jun 2009 at 17:01:41

     islandgirl said:

     
     Would you please do a blog about why some white people think we look so much a like?

     I never understood that. White people look more alike than black people, but I will think about it. Thanks for the suggestion.
139. Mayhue Says:

     
     Wed 1 Jul 2009 at 04:39:00

     Certainly Abagond. If you have the time and inclination.

     Also when you have time, I think you should do a post on the Romani People. The Romani or Roma are the most hated group in Europe and the reasons that many Europeans give for why they are considered a scourge is due to crime, welfare leeches, low morals, low IQ’s, indiscriminate breeders draining precious resources, prostitution, gang violence, pickpockets, etc. which are the exact same reasons that Whites and other Non-blacks in America despise and loathe Blacks. In addition, they were one of the largest minorities that were exterminated during the holocaust http://fcit.coedu.usf.edu/holocaust/people/victroma.htm, yet they are largely effaced from the record. One of the best books that I have read on the Romani was Bury Me Standing: The Gypsies and Their Journey, by Isabel Fonesca. Also here is an interesting article on the Suffering of the Romani people and their tortured history in Europe: http://www.swp.ie/index.php?page=166&dept=News

     It is amazing that these people are perceived almost identically to Blacks and how they are often corralled and alienated from the majority culture an thus forced to create a unique culture of their own in order to survive and yet in modern times they are still vilified.
140. Anonymous Says:

     
     Thu 2 Jul 2009 at 14:03:36

     What are your views on monarchies?
141. Anonymous Says:

     
     Sun 5 Jul 2009 at 17:59:27

     Here’s a suggestion. The evils of feminism
142. Nubiah Says:

     
     Mon 6 Jul 2009 at 11:51:28

     your blog is great , I thought that you could make a subject on the perception of Africa through the eyes of Black Americans. and why too much stereotypes surrounds Africa.
143. Fikile Florence Dlamini Says:

     
     Sat 11 Jul 2009 at 13:52:47

     May yuo, please, include things South African on your blog? I hereby forward you to FAcebook pages that may draw your interest and deepen your appreacition in the black world generally. The two Facebook links that I provide are two to do with South African women acting talent and TV anchoring. I hope you find them of interest enough to draw your attention.

     http://www.facebook.com/pages/Johannesburg-South-Africa/South-Africas-Top-50-Most-Beautiful-Actresses/121266316795

     http://www.facebook.com/pages/South-Africas-20-Best-Beautiful-Women-Anchors/107782846525#/pages/South-Africas-20-Best-Beautiful-Women-Anchors/107782846525?v=info&edit_info=all

     Yours faithfully
144. Anonymous Says:

     
     Wed 15 Jul 2009 at 16:04:39

     Top 10 most beautiful Asian women.
     Top 10 most beautiful Afro-Latinas.
     A blog on the civilisation of Great Zimbabwe.
     There’s some more suggestions.
145. Davida Says:

     
     Thu 16 Jul 2009 at 22:07:51

     http://blogs.abcnews.com/theworldnewser/2009/07/must-see-web-tv-american-town-in-2009-without-running-water.html

     Community in Mississippi that has beenw ithout water for almost 6 years – a predominately black community…
146. Anonymous Says:

     
     Sat 18 Jul 2009 at 14:44:52

     A blog on racist trolls!!
     A blog on different styles of dance!!
147. Anonymous Says:

     
     Sun 19 Jul 2009 at 13:13:41

     A blog on your favourite sports, Abagond.
     A blog on different types of food that you like.
148. Lynette Says:

     
     Thu 23 Jul 2009 at 16:16:48

     Am I missing something? Why isn’t Roethlisberger’s rape case getting the press that Bryant’s case was given? It appears to be similar circumstances to me. As a matter of fact, his commercials are still being aired. Kobe’s commercials were immediately pulled, and he has just started receiving air time again.

     Could you write something on Roethlisberger vs. Bryant?
149. Wayne Says:

     
     Thu 23 Jul 2009 at 16:24:58

     How about a blog that describes why each race feels justified in their own racism towards others. Where does it start off? Families against families, tribes against tribes and so forth. An idea of what your solution to this inbred problem whould also be great.
150. Cool Says:

     
     Mon 10 Aug 2009 at 21:46:32

     I’m really starting to like this blog
151. yolie Says:

     
     Sun 16 Aug 2009 at 18:48:15

     This is sooooo cool… I really like this!
152. sweetme1993 Says:

     
     Tue 25 Aug 2009 at 00:36:52

     I just want to let you know about these to blogs that bashes black women and I want you’re thought on them.

     whitemeat.wordpress.com

     sex-white-girls.blogspot.com

     please post you’re thoughts here
153. abagond Says:

     
     Wed 26 Aug 2009 at 07:28:09

     http://sex-white-girls.blogspot.com/

     Am I required to take a website seriously that has bad spelling? And that uses the word “Negro” without irony? It seems like a hate blog but maybe there is more going on than that.

     http://whitemeat.wordpress.com/

     Not sure what to make of this website. I have to look at it some more. Does this blog ever put down black women? If so, please tell me where. The blogger says he is a black man, but from what I have seen so far it makes way more sense as a bitter satire staged by a black woman.
154. Uncle Milton Says:

     
     Wed 26 Aug 2009 at 07:54:59

     To Abagond:

     http://sex-white-girls.blogspot.com/

     Am I required to take a website seriously that has bad spelling? And that uses the word “Negro” without irony? It seems like a hate blog but maybe there is more going on than that.

     Negro..? Perhaps they are Spanish..? Not.

     From that blog:
     http://sex-white-girls.blogspot.com/2009_07_01_archive.html

     Let’s face it: the American white male is a sick little, whiny, puppy, who has caused many white women to explore homosexuality as an option, and seek other pleasures in ‘real’ men.

     The only reason why Asian women date White males is because the standards of the Oriental woman are as low as the standards from any product made in China.

     That blog is bad comedy…. they certainly like to spread the hate to more than one group. I think someone misplaced their meds…
155. abagond Says:

     
     Thu 27 Aug 2009 at 00:07:16

     Sweetme1993:

     More thoughts on the White Meat blog here:

     http://abagond.wordpress.com/2009/08/26/is-the-white-goddess-blog-a-satire/
156. nicia Says:

     
     Wed 9 Sep 2009 at 13:07:09

     article found in Toronto star Africentric school makes history
     Toronto’s Africentric Alternative School
     Principal Thando Hyman-Aman took the media on a tour of the city’s controversial Africentric school. Video by Randy Risling. (Sept. 03, 2009)

     Tara Walton?TORONTO STAR
     Shyheim Laryea (right) is joined by teacher/librarian Veronica Sullivan during Tuesday’s opening assembly at Canada’s first Africentric Public School in Toronto.(Sept. 8, 2009) Email story
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     Gallery: Africentric school opens PLEDGE FOR ALTERNATIVE STUDENTS

     Today I pledge to be the best possible me.

     No matter how good I am, I know I can do better.

     Today I pledge to build on the work of yesterday

     Which will lead me into the rewards of tomorrow.

     Today I pledge to feed my mind knowledge, my body strength, my spirit faith.

     Today I pledge to take my education seriously. I will always do my best at school, at home and in my community.

     Today I pledge to be focused, self-disciplined and ready to learn.

     Today I pledge to believe in me.

     Ashe! (Amen)
     Black-focused program opens with last-minute bump in enrolment

     Sep 09, 2009 04:32 AM
     Louise Brown
     Education Reporter

     Drummed into school to a standing ovation and a rocking West African beat, 115 children made Canadian history yesterday in vivid vests of African cloth.

     Less than two years after fierce public debate over the very idea of a school focused on African culture, one of the most controversial educational experiments in the country began with a
157. nicia Says:

     
     Wed 9 Sep 2009 at 13:08:41

     surprise 30 per cent surge in enrolment.

     From the opening assembly, the Africentric Alternative School began weaving African culture into Ontario school culture.

     Students sang “O Canada,” followed by a black national anthem written a century ago by a Florida poet, then said a pledge – “The Best Possible Me” – popular in Africentric schools in the U.S. It includes a promise to take school seriously.

     “Let me hear you say ‘best!’ called principal Thando Hyman-Aman, a part-time jazz singer and the parent of a student at the school. She will lead a bid to lower the 40 per cent dropout rate among black students by stretching the curriculum beyond its European roots
158. Black&German Says:

     
     Wed 9 Sep 2009 at 15:05:43

     Have you seen this, Abagond? It’s about Obama’s radio address.

     http://startelegram.typepad.com/extra_credit/2009/09/arlington-schools-issue-statement-on-bush-appearance.html
159. Vindicator Says:

     
     Wed 9 Sep 2009 at 18:50:38

     Here’s a suggestion.
     A blog on sports. I like many kinds of sport.
160. Susan Says:

     
     Fri 11 Sep 2009 at 04:20:35

     How about a post on South African singer and activist Miriam Makeba? She was so beautiful both in looks and personality, pure elegance. She was married to Stokely Carmichael at one point.

     Or, maybe she can be your ‘Black Beauty of the Day’ some time – she was mesmerizing when she was young. Even though she’s a little older, I still find her stunning as she sings in the link below. Now she has got some killer eyes! At 3 mins/30 seconds in the video when she looks straight into the camera, her eyes just hypnotize me!
161. Susan Says:

     
     Fri 11 Sep 2009 at 04:22:42

     Sorry, I thought I was just including the link, I didn’t realize the actual video would appear.
162. Maluson Says:

     
     Fri 11 Sep 2009 at 14:04:53

     Hello Agabond,

     Maybe you should try to be more informed and post a blog about the war in congo, since 1996 it has make between 6 to 8 millions human, and as stated in the french wikipedia : “the most deadly conflict since WWII…” this sentence defines it all.

     Women raped with knifes, children raped and killed, 6 millions of people murdered,…

     My country is living and suffering way more than any other black nation has endured. And no one is talking about it.

     Every month 38000 people die… can you imagine that ??? 38000 everymonth… so every month you kind of drop a nuclear bomb on a small town.
     Every month since 1996 more or less.

     I don’t think that the world is smart enough to realise that, it looks so far away for people, especially when the medias are not talking about it…
     If no one mention it then it probably doesn’t exist…

     Sad…

     Hope you’ll talk about it… a bit.
163. abagond Says:

     
     Fri 11 Sep 2009 at 14:14:22

     I did do a post on Nkunda last year:

     http://abagond.wordpress.com/2008/11/14/laurent-nkunda/

     The trouble with writing about Africa is that it is hard to tell what is going on there. There is the BBC and so on, but they do not seem to give a clear picture.

     If you can recommend any good sources of information I would be more than happy to do a post on it. (I would also like to do one on the LRA in Uganda.) If you think the BBC is good enough, then I can go with that.
164. Maluson Says:

     
     Fri 11 Sep 2009 at 14:30:07

     Ok, i see your post on Nkunda, which i consider as being a part of the devil, the other part is all the big corporate companies that benefit from the death of millions in congo.
     Nkunda is not congolese, he is from rwanda, but as it happened when Kabila (father) came in 1997. A lot of rwandes people claimed to be congolese, which is not the case…

     I’m not going to write the story here, so i’ll stop.

     But if you want more informations, there is always some part of the story in the french version of Wikipedia when you look at “guerre au congo” (war in congo), also in the english part and mostly about the “coltan” (search for it in wikipedia you’ll be amazed on what the war is about).

     There are countless of websites about that conflict, if i manage to find some, i’ll send you the link.
165. islandgirl Says:

     
     Sun 20 Sep 2009 at 20:32:41

     I’m requesting that you do a post on Black Woman/Asian Man relationships. I don’t know how many comments you would get as it is so rare, but I was in one and would be curious if anyone else has experienced that.
166. leigh204 Says:

     
     Sun 20 Sep 2009 at 20:42:35

     ^ Great suggestion, islandgirl. There’s such a dating/marrying disparity between BW/AM, it would certainly be interesting to learn about the experiences of these couplings.
167. Regina Says:

     
     Sun 20 Sep 2009 at 23:43:03

     I’m an African American female who has dated two Asian guys in the past. One was from Thailand and the other was an ABC (American Born Chinese). Perhaps because it was rare, people hardly paid us any mind when we were out in public together.

     It’s not very common, but I’ve seen BW/AM couples and their children here and there (in Los Angeles) over the years.

     Once, a young woman, who happened to be enrolled in the same community college course as I was, approached me during a class break and introduced herself. She then showed me pictures of her Japanese dad and her African American mom. This young lady was quite beautiful and exotic looking with her dark chocolate skin, long straight hair, and Asian facial features.
168. Mayhue Says:

     
     Mon 21 Sep 2009 at 04:08:59

     The Negritos of Asia and the Pacific Islands.
169. leigh204 Says:

     
     Mon 21 Sep 2009 at 04:45:17

     ^ Another excellent suggestion!
170. Mayhue Says:

     
     Mon 21 Sep 2009 at 06:01:43

     Thanks Leigh. Are they any Negritos in the Philipines? I usually read about them in Polynesia. I knew a guy who was Tongan and he believed that Pacific lslanders had their own set of issues that were unique to the Asian experience and believed they should be seperated. In places like Australia, some Pacific Island groups like the Samoa are not model minority asian, etc.

     Also do Filipinos generally liked to be grouped with Southeast Asia or Pacific Islanders?
171. abagond Says:

     
     Mon 21 Sep 2009 at 13:56:18

     Post on Negritos:

     http://abagond.wordpress.com/2009/09/21/negritos/
172. leigh204 Says:

     
     Wed 23 Sep 2009 at 01:21:58

     @Mayhue:

     Yes, there are Negritos living in the Philippines. I do think that the P.I. experience is different from that of the Asian experience.

     Also, regarding Filipinos being grouped with East/SE Asians or as Pacific Islanders, I can tell you from personal experience, there is this thinking among many North American born Filipinos who believe they are Pacific Islanders rather than Asians. Sure, the Philippines is located in the Pacific, but that’s pretty much it. When I think of P.I’s, I think of the Samoans, Tongans, Tahitians, etc.

     Mind you, other Asian ethnicities particularly East Asians look down on Filipinos claiming Filipinos aren’t Asian enough. Whatever that means. Anyways, I consider myself Asian not P.I. as I look very much Asian.
173. Regina Says:

     
     Sat 26 Sep 2009 at 01:31:14

     Mixed raced, half-Chinese and half-African American idol contestant is a victim of racisim.

     http://www.straitstimes.com/Breaking%2BNews/Asia/Story/STIStory_425342.html
174. leigh204 formerly L.T. Says:

     
     Sat 26 Sep 2009 at 18:12:44

     I feel for this young woman. It’s truly shameful how she is being mistreated through no fault of her own. She just wanted to enter a contest and little did she realize it would be made into some big deal.
175. Mayhue Says:

     
     Sun 27 Sep 2009 at 02:20:39

     Very interesting. I was thinking about some of the literature I read with some Filipinos wanting to be categorized with Pacific Islanders and I have read how Pacific Islanders want to be completely separated from Asian since their interests often clash with East Asians.
     Thank you for answering some of my questions Leigh.
     ********************************************
     I was reading about Lou Jing after it was posted here. It’s amazing that she looks like a lot of regular Black women I know. She is pretty and I find it amazing that her mother withstood all that and raised her daughter by herself. There is a disgusting double standard In China, when it’s known that Chinese men are inveterate cheaters and are known to have mistresses galore. But the mother is being demonized. The fact that Lou Jing is being persecuted because she is half Black is even more of a double standard, since China and places like Japan exoticize and idolize Eurasians. If she had been White and Asian it would have never been an issue—she may have even won the talent contest.
     ****************************************
     Suggestion: Cape Verdeans. Many are African and Portuguese. Their island is off the coast of Angola. They were respected Whalers and many settled in MA. Fascinating people and culture. One of my favorite singers from that island is Ceasaria Evora.
176. leigh204 Says:

     
     Sun 27 Sep 2009 at 06:47:09

     Here’s a suggestion, abagond. I just saw a trailer of Chris Rock’s documentary “Good Hair” and the issues BW have regarding their hair. The scene with the canned soft drink dissolving in the same solution used on BW’s hair was certainly eye opening.
177. leigh204 Says:

     
     Sun 27 Sep 2009 at 06:52:39

     @Mayhue:

     Yes, I wholeheartedly agree with the hypocrisy regarding married Chinese men and their mistresses. I also happen to agree that if Miss. Lou Jing was half white rather than half black, she would have been more readily accepted and perhaps even lauded for her half white heritage.
178. Regina Says:

     
     Sun 27 Sep 2009 at 15:15:36

     I think that because of this national uproar in China over Miss Lou Jing’s mixed raced heritage, it will, hopefully, cause people to start to challenge deeply ingrained racial prejudices that many Chinese have towards mixed raced citizens who are half black. Will it change the mindset of hardcore racists? Absolutely not, but I believe that talking about it openly is a start towards creating a more tolerant society, as it forces people to rethink and redefine what they traditionally perceived as beautiful.

     In spite of the obstacles that she’s faced growing up in a homogeneous society, she demonstrates a great deal courage, has a strong sense of self esteem, and carries herself with great poise and dignity.
179. Mayhue Says:

     
     Sun 27 Sep 2009 at 19:42:17

     I agree that her mother certainly deserves a great deal of credit. Of course I am not excusing the fact that she had a an affair and the result of that affair was a child, but she could have easily aborted or had the child and quickly abandoned (China is the land where girl children are often killed or abandoned especially if the first born is not a son—thanks to the one child policy)—especially knowing full well that they child would be half Black—but she didn’t. That brave decision cannot be emphasized enough.

     Lou Ching was also brave to publicly acknowledge her mother for all her sacrifices. I just think the hypocrisy is pathetic not only in the men who cheat with impunity—but the anti-Black stance that is pervasive not only in China but in places like Japan and Korea. Half Black children unless they blow up like Amerie are often seen as outcasts compared to Eurasians. I am not sure that this will spark a greater understanding or acceptance of Black and Half Black people in those societies. They are too racially homogenous and too invested in trumpeting their superiority, which is in direct contrast to Whites of whom for the most part they fawn over.
180. abagond Says:

     
     Mon 28 Sep 2009 at 01:58:21

     Good point: because of the One Child Rule and the feelings about blacks in China, what her mother did was admirable, even if her affair was not.
181. Vindicator Says:

     
     Mon 28 Sep 2009 at 17:58:30

     Hey Abagond,
     How about you do a blog on illegal drugs and what are you views on them?
182. leigh204 Says:

     
     Thu 8 Oct 2009 at 04:04:17

     Hi abagond:

     Just found this on youtube. It’s a show in Australia and the offensive blackface “tribute” to the Jackson Five (Jackson Jive) as this group was called. It stirred up quite a controversy due to the connotation of blackface in Australia differed from that in America. It’s worth checking out.
183. ErzulieRedEyes Says:

     
     Thu 8 Oct 2009 at 06:15:29

     Australia is known for being a bunch of bigots no surpise here.

     The so-called tribute looks stupid, the jackson 5 were brown, they were not even as dark as the face paint on those ignorant klannies.

     Obviously that was done on purpose because the only thing that makes white people REALLY feel good about themselves is degrading black people.
184. ErzulieRedEyes Says:

     
     Thu 8 Oct 2009 at 06:25:04

     Abagond, please write an article about how Voodoo and other african beliefs are slandered because they are not white or asian religions.

     Buddhism, Daoism, judaism,
     these typical non-african, white and asian religous systems are always talked abut with respect and wonder.
     But when it is voodoo or candomble or other african faiths SUDDENLY the religion is evil, bad and scary.

     Notice how everyone except for people who actually practice voodoo always makes fun of it or they say it is evil and scary.

     BUT if its a white religion such as wicca, witchcraft, christianity, catholicsm, anything non-african its ok and its not evil.
     But if its african like voodoo is, then the whites call the religion evil!

     I am tired of my faith being slandered because its not a white person’s faith!

     Voodoo is not evil, it is a system of beliefs based upon god and the spirits of the sky and earth.

     Mambo Sam one of only a few white people I know that does NOT slander or make fun of voodoo. She practices Creole New Orleans style voodoo:
     http://www.spellmaker.com/truth.htm

     Mambo Racine of Haitian voodoo:
     http://www.rootswithoutend.org/
185. Vindicator Says:

     
     Thu 8 Oct 2009 at 19:40:44

     ErzulieRedEyes Says:
     Abagond, please write an article about how Voodoo and other african beliefs are slandered because they are not white or asian religions.

     I agree with ErzulieRedEyes. For once!!!
186. Herneith Says:

     
     Thu 8 Oct 2009 at 23:20:28

     I could never figure out as there are many African religions, most black people would choose non-African ones for those who are religouly inclined. These religions are just as legitamte as any other. Many of them are also nature-based and quite spiritual.
187. ErzulieRedEyes Says:

     
     Sat 10 Oct 2009 at 08:43:33

     How to contact the spirit ErzulieRedEyes,
     (An aspect of the spirit Erzulie Dantor) when you need her help:

     http://erzulieredeyes.com/
188. Vindicator Says:

     
     Sat 10 Oct 2009 at 11:10:08

     Here’s a auggestion, Abagond.
     Stop doing blogs about the pairings of WM/BW.
     Do some other pairings like WM/AW, AM/BW, BM/WW, BM/AW.
189. abagond Says:

     
     Sat 10 Oct 2009 at 13:26:04

     Good idea. Voodoo too.
190. Black&German Says:

     
     Sat 10 Oct 2009 at 13:42:22

     Yes, Voodoo would be good.

     And I like Leigh’s idea about BW’s hair.
191. Mayhue Says:

     
     Sat 10 Oct 2009 at 23:15:30

     How to contact the spirit ErzulieRedEyes,
     (An aspect of the spirit Erzulie Dantor) when you need her help:

     http://erzulieredeyes.com/
     ************************************
     Cool ErzulieRedEyes. I never knew what your handle—Ezrulie meant.

     I do come from people who practiced Obeah–but never had the opportunity to talk to them. My maternal grandmother was a fiercely independent Maroon. She used to mix Christian and Obeah (which is very strong) beliefs.
192. ErzulieRedEyes Says:

     
     Sat 10 Oct 2009 at 23:36:24

     Mayhue Says:

     Sat 10 Oct 2009 at 23:15:30
     How to contact the spirit ErzulieRedEyes,
     (An aspect of the spirit Erzulie Dantor) when you need her help:

     http://erzulieredeyes.com/
     ************************************
     Cool ErzulieRedEyes. I never knew what your handle—Ezrulie meant.

     I do come from people who practiced Obeah–but never had the opportunity to talk to them. My maternal grandmother was a fiercely independent Maroon. She used to mix Christian and Obeah (which is very strong) beliefs.”

     Yes I have read about Obeah (The last word.)

     Voodoo comes from a word that means spirit, so when we say voodoo we say spirit.
     Because we are a big family of lwa and the spirits within our bodies as practicioners and our ancestors.
     In voodoo we work with the spirits of the sky and the earth.
     They are like friends and guardian angels that are always around you.

     I like the Ghede family of lwa (spirits) because they enjoy drinking and dancing like I do. LOL.
193. Vindicator Says:

     
     Sun 11 Oct 2009 at 12:40:06

     Abagond you should write a blog on Black sportssmen (and women. I don’t want to be accused of being a sexist male chauvinist pig.)
194. Black&German Says:

     
     Sun 11 Oct 2009 at 16:37:19

     Good idea, Vindicator. Jesse Owens was my hero growing up.
195. Herneith Says:

     
     Sun 11 Oct 2009 at 20:25:44

     Abagond you should write a blog on Black sportssmen (and women. I don’t want to be accused of being a sexist male chauvinist pig.)

     Why not. LOL!
196. LaSmartOne Says:

     
     Sun 11 Oct 2009 at 23:03:58

     The similarities with self-blame syndrome in rape victims and racism victims.

     http://www.ibiblio.org/rcip/selfblame.html
     How difficult it is to truly internalize that “It’s Not Your Fault”.

     When I find myself in a racist situation, I still find it difficult to somehow not assign blame to myself for somehow bringing it on. This after having spent years immersed in academic literature on critical race theory, sociology, social psychology and the like.
197. Herneith Says:

     
     Mon 12 Oct 2009 at 17:37:37

     Abagond, why don’t you write an article on the phenomena known as shopping while black? This is one of the more irritating aspects of racism.
198. leigh204 Says:

     
     Mon 12 Oct 2009 at 17:53:49

     I second Herneith’s suggestion.
199. Black&German Says:

     
     Mon 12 Oct 2009 at 18:26:16

     I third it!
200. LaSmartOne Says:

     
     Thu 15 Oct 2009 at 11:58:07

     Interesting book alert:
     A recent black graduate of the University of Washington, Lull Mengesha, has written a book called “The Only Black Student”, discussing his experience as one of the very few black students at a predominantly white university.

     There’s an interview with the author at this blogtalkradio website: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/Victim-of-Racism/2009/10/09/The-COWS-w-Lull-Mengesha
201. Mayhue Says:

     
     Fri 16 Oct 2009 at 21:10:41

     Interesting book alert:
     A recent black graduate of the University of Washington, Lull Mengesha, has written a book called “The Only Black Student”, discussing his experience as one of the very few black students at a predominantly white university.

     There’s an interview with the author at this blogtalkradio website: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/Victim-of-Racism/2009/10/09/The-COWS-w-Lull-Mengesha
     **************************************

     That looks very interesting and Lull Mengesha seems to be a very bright guy:

     Life has taken Lull down an unanticipated yet rewarding path. As an undergraduate, he completed prerequisites for dental school and majored in economics, primarily because he felt that both of these areas of study were safe and practical. His senior year however, Lull made the decision to put dental school aside in pursuit of a more fulfilling profession. Throughout his life he had been interested in business, community service, and entrepreneurship, so he decided to develop his leadership skills.

     After graduating from college, he started applying for jobs at consulting firms and local technical companies to put his economics degree to use. He took on various odd jobs, including working for a cleaning service and tutoring high school and early college students before Boeing offered him a great position as a Functional Analyst. Lull is in the process of receiving his Master of Science Degree in Information Management and saved enough money over the past few years to purchase his first home. Looking back, people didn’t expect students from his high school to graduate, let alone pursue advanced degrees.

     Recently, Lull has gathered a small team of young working professionals and created the PolyMath Group. An educational consulting group focused on tackling many of the issues that Lull discusses in his book by conducting workshops with students. Steady progress, hard work and a few receptive schools have already shown this venture to be highly needed.
     http://lullmengesha.com/thebook/?cat=5
202. LaSmartOne Says:

     
     Sat 17 Oct 2009 at 13:39:17

     Mark Riding/Transracial Adoption for Black Parents– a black man who adopted a young white girl speaks about uncomfortable stares and kidnapping alerts.

     Here is a Newsweek article: http://www.newsweek.com/id/194886
203. Leslie Says:

     
     Wed 4 Nov 2009 at 23:23:22

     HEY ABAGAOND,,

     THANKS FOR FINALLY SHINING SOME LIGHT ON “PUSHED ASIDE” SUBJECTS.

     -WOULD YOU MIND WRITING ABOUT YOUR VIEWS ON MALCOLM X?
     -COULD YOU ALSO TELL ME WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT BLACKMENVENT.COM AND THE BW+BM RELATIONSHIP AS A WHOLE?

     THANK YOU FOR EVEN TAKING THE TIME OUT TO READ THIS, I REALLY DO I APPRECIATE IT AND KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK!!!
204. abagond Says:

     
     Mon 9 Nov 2009 at 05:28:11

     Malcolm X:
     http://abagond.wordpress.com/2009/02/13/malcolm-x/

     bm/bw relationships:
     http://abagond.wordpress.com/2008/07/31/why-so-few-black-men-marry-black-women/

     http://abagond.wordpress.com/2007/08/01/a-guide-to-black-women/
205. D&nni Says:

     
     Thu 12 Nov 2009 at 22:15:42

     Hey abagond,
     There aren’t many posts about BW-BM relationships. So could you minutely analyse:
     - the decreasing reason of endogamous relationships (between blacks)
     - why the great majority of black men are not faithful (comparing to other races) and yet they feel proud of it.
     And many other factors that contribute to progress BW-BM relationships
206. D&nni Says:

     
     Thu 12 Nov 2009 at 22:25:21

     I missed this—-> ?
     at the end
207. ErzulieRedEyes Says:

     
     Wed 18 Nov 2009 at 00:10:30

     ABAGOND! Please write a post about Shaniya Davis,

     the mixed black girl that was found dead on the highway yesterday.

     Laurelton Queens did a blog on her and he talked about how the white father of Shaniya did NOTHING to protect his daughter because he is a white man and wanted to distance himself from the situation.

     He called relations with Shaniya’s mother a “one night stand” so that he could make shaniya and the mother look like they are beneath him.

     Shows you how evil and nasty amerikkkan white men are even to their own flesh and blood.
208. ErzulieRedEyes Says:

     
     Wed 18 Nov 2009 at 00:12:20

     Quote from Laurelton Queens’ blog entry:

     “I am deeply disturbed that this happened to this young girl. I am also deeply disturbed how this whole situation led to this. He knew she struggled financially taking care of this child. Yet, he did nothing to help her at all. Then he says he had a “one night stand’ with her. Trying to make himself look better to the media. As you can see in the picture, just white women are around this white man. Now they will come down on the black mother because she failed to keep her daughter safe. I will not condemn the woman yet but obviously something happened with this child.
     Obviously, if he loved his daughter he would be paying attention to her struggling. That is why I don’t believe he loved her like “he said he did”. The woman looks like she is high on drugs. So far the mother has been charged with prostitution concerning the little girl. If those allegations are true she should get life in prison.
     Now the white father of this child is a damn disgrace too. This is what happens when some white men use vulnerable, mentally ill, sellout black women. They end up doing crazy things like this. You know how much you have to hate your baby father to submit your child to prostitution. This black woman was clearly very angry at this white man.”

     http://www.mrlaureltonqueens.blogspot.com/

     Write about white fathers and their attitudes towards their mixed children please Abagond!
209. Mayhue Says:

     
     Thu 19 Nov 2009 at 13:50:23

     I think you should do a post on Elizabeth Lambert (and how Blacks are treated differently in sports compared to White women specifically), a White soccer player that was suspended for being violent on the field and contrast that with Serena Williams who was lambasted and villified as going apesh*t, becuase that is what Black people do.

     Notice how much scrutiny and attention Serena got compared to Elizabeth Lambert, even though she was suspended from the team. Lambert even admitted that a lot of men came out of the woodwork to congratulate her and even asked her out. Notice how many men crucified Serena as unfeminine, becuase that is how Black women usually act.

     http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2009/11/06/elizabeth-lambert-new-mex_n_349234.html
210. abagond Says:

     
     Thu 19 Nov 2009 at 16:43:46

     Mayhue:

     Hmm. I will have to look into it.

     On the face of it, it does not seem like a clear example of a racist double standard: Serena is a much bigger public figure. Her behaviour will be held to a higher standard and her misdeeds will be more newsworthy.

     Like if President Obama was caught smoking crack with an old girlfriend, that would be seen as a hundred times worse than what Marion Berry did as mayor.

     More promising might be to find examples in the press where Serena’s behaviour was racialized, as standing for all black people, where Lambert’s failings were seen as merely personal, not as a case of “you know how bitchy white women can be”.

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