Beauty is how you feel inside, and it reflects in your eyes. It is not something physical. – Sophia Loren
I like black women way more than white women. For a long time – like till last Saturday – I thought it was because they have better bodies. They do, in general, but more important than that are their eyes. At least among American women.
Sometimes when I look into the eyes of a black woman and she looks back something inside me melts. It is an experience that I have had with black women over and over again, like just this morning. I wound up marrying one, one of those black women with the eyes that make me melt.
These days, now that I am married, I look away: no good can come of it. But even when I look away her face is burned into my mind. I cannot stop thinking about her. If she is sitting across from me on the subway train, it takes everything in me not to look back at her again. I try to read my book but I keep reading the same words over and over because they no longer make sense. My mind becomes a thousand knots.
But with white American women this sort of thing is rare – even with those who seem to like me. I can only remember one time, though there may be others that I forget. It is nowhere near as common as with black women.
With black women it is like their eyes go all the way down to their souls, down to their hearts. Not all of them, but some of them, enough of them. I know that may surprise those who think black women are hard as nails, the Sapphire stereotype.
With white women their eyes do not seem to go so deep, it seems to stop somewhere just behind their eyes. Sometimes their eyes even look empty, soulless.
I do not think it was always like that with white women, not at least if you go by Hollywood films. Elizabeth Taylor, Sophia Loren and Audrey Hepburn in the 1950s all had beautiful, amazing eyes. I could look at them forever.
But these days most white actresses in Hollywood either have this empty look in their eyes, like Lindsay Lohan, or this brightness to them that does not seem to run very deep, like the Olsen twins – they have beautiful eyes but there does not seem to be much behind them. Almost like doll eyes.
The eyes of white women have grown cold of any true feeling – not all of them, of course, but too many of them. That is how it seems. Like their smiles, the look in their eyes does not seem to be in touch with their hearts.
In old books you read about white men falling in love with white women when their eyes meet: time stands still and all that. That is the sort of thing I am talking about. Do white men still fall in love that way? Or, for that matter, does anyone?
See also:
Tue 24 Jun 2008 at 14:23:21
Interesting. I’ve noted the same thing many times. To this day, when I look into my wife’s deep, dark, inscrutable eyes, I am transfixed.
Tue 24 Jun 2008 at 15:33:10
My wife is Mongolian and he eyes are just as amazing to me.
As long as there is love and kindness, that is all that matters.
Perhaps it is the look that is in so many European eyes that gives us pause.
Question to consider regarding what is white?
Do you consider people from Spain and Portugal White?
Are they in the same class as English, French and American. It appears to me that the greatest players of the Slave Trade, the masters of imperialism, were the Spanish, yet their culture is not thrown under the same banner of scorn.
I work in advertising and I was recently doing some work for a resort in the Dominican Republic. This history of that country, the brutality done by the Spanish in the name of god, was as bas as anything.
Hmmm..
Food for thought. Wherever you see a cross in an island nation, you should be thinking of what Spain did to plant it there. Are they too then white?
Let the comments come!!!
-Stal
Tue 24 Jun 2008 at 15:54:51
the sister has sedulous eyes
Tue 24 Jun 2008 at 16:09:31
Her eyes.
Trying to type in between campaigns.
her eyes.
-Stal
Tue 24 Jun 2008 at 21:09:30
If you don’t believe someone HAS a soul, you won’t see it in their eyes, even if it’s there. I’m involved in dsability rights. One thing I find interesting – peoplewith bigoted views of severely mentally disabled people always say things like”You can see in their eyes that they’re not really living. They’re empty.” But if you look at images like these, you ca see that their eyes aren’t empty at all:
http://www.adamwolfond.blogspot.com/
I watched a documentary about the British empirein which photographs of “savages” were shown to demonstrate that they had “soulless eyes.” Looking at the photographs, I had no idea what they meant.
I feel guilty writing these words because you will never harm me physically or take away my freedom. You will neverhave any significant influence over how the majority of society sees me. Your words won’t ever hurt anything more than my emotions. It won’t make me pull over and show you my licence dozens of times for no reason (especially since I can’t drive for medical reasons anyway.) It won’t deny me a job or a college place or a home or even a taxi. It won’t get me harrased or beaen or imprisoned or killed. It won’t damage anything bt my feelings. And it feels trivial and bitchy to care about something and small
No, I don’t think it’s cruel to say “I find black women sexier than white women.” Or that you find their eyes more aesthetically pleasing. The media is very white-dominated and I imagine it does a lot of women good to realise there isn’t ONE ideal of beauty.
What’s cruel is to extrapolate things about people’s characters based on their appearance. Especially considering your opinion on white women’s appearance is probably skewed by your opinions of our collective morals which you have shown in previous posts.
” You do not seem to be talking to a real person; you do not know their true feelings. There is the outer person that is pleasing, of course, but then there is an inner person that is hidden.”
I’ve been told I’m “not the wole person I was meant to be” because of my disabiities. I’ve never been told I’m not a real person before. Ow. Ow. Ow. I would literally rather be punched in the face. And saying that makes me feel worse about pointing this flaw out to you, because I know “my” people have made “your” people live whole lives thinking that AND kicked in their ribs and broken them and done millions of worse things and that I will NEVER imagine that pain and don’t want to be able to imagine it. But it is still wrong to say that about anyone. EVER. I accept that power corrupts. I accept that white women in America and Europe have more power than black women of the same class as them. Because of that, we are prbably generally less moral than black women. If you believe in hristianity, you should feel sorry for us, because we’re more likely to end up in Hell than “your” women. Also, you need to remember
A. Every rule has exceptions
B. If your ancestor had ben imperialists and mine hadn’t, black women would be the less moral ones.
C. There is a huge difference between being a bad person and not being a real person at all. As a matter of fact, if we’re not “real people” there is no point in protesting against racism. No appeal to morality will dissuade us.
D. Inever ASKED for unfair advantages. I accepted them unquestioningy and will answer for that in the afterlife. But I never sought them actively.
Also, you have a lot of posts listing the flaws you perceive in white people in general. You also have a lot of posts on the flaws of white women, which go into a lot of detail. I see none about white men, despite the fact that white men have always been the most powerful and because of this done the most harm. Is this a Hillary thing?
Tue 24 Jun 2008 at 21:15:39
P.S Rachel Weisz has awesome eyes.
Tue 24 Jun 2008 at 22:12:52
sanabituranima:
Rachel Weisz is beautiful. Thanks.
I never said that white women are not real people or that they are soulless – just that they come off that way all too often. I got to write it as I see it or it is not worth writing.
I do believe in Christianity, even though I am far from a good Christian. One thing it taught me is that everyone is the same on the inside – kings and maids, white people and black people. So, no, I do not think white women are in fact soulless or anything like that – like how whites (particularly Anglos) used to think of savages.
I wrote a post on the hearts of white people. You should read it. You can type “the hearts of white people” in Google or go straight there:
http://abagond.wordpress.com/2008/04/18/the-hearts-of-white-people/
Thanks for your comment. It was good.
Tue 24 Jun 2008 at 22:15:22
Stal: At least for the purposes of this post, white just means white Americans. When I say “white” that is what I am thinking of nine times out of ten.
But more broadly I see Middle Easterners, most Latin Americans, Central Asians, Pakistanis and many people in India as white. However I think in English when people say “white” they almost always have the English-speaking sort in mind, especially those in North America, Britain and South Africa.
Wed 25 Jun 2008 at 00:31:03
Blanc2: thanks for the confirmation!
Wed 25 Jun 2008 at 01:02:42
When I say “White” I think of it as a mind state. Like when someone acts racists my friends and I always say “That was so white of them.”
happens in offices all the time.
Always thinking ‘Why you got to be so white about it?’
White being more close minded.
Wed 25 Jun 2008 at 01:07:11
True, at bottom it is a state of mind.
Wed 25 Jun 2008 at 01:09:36
As to why there are not more black women with white men – I would have to agree with you to some extent. However, I grew up in Venice CA, where my high school was 70 percent hispanic (mexican, central american) and because of that, I always dated Latina girls.
The first girl I kissed was Claudia Lopez, who wore dark black lipstick, thick eyeliner, and hairsprayed up hair in front.
All my girlfriends till I went to college were latina. I think I went out with one “White” girl and she acted, well, white. I guess what you grow up around is more what you gravitate to, for the most part.
Interesting post though. I like how you just throw it out there.
Wed 25 Jun 2008 at 01:31:47
Thank you Abagond for affirming Black women.
Steph
Wed 25 Jun 2008 at 23:56:57
I agree w/ the post Abagond, but I just personally disagree with Middle Easteners, Central Asians, and South Asians being “white”. Nah. They sure are seen as distinct minorities (outside of their respective countries) and are NEVER treated as “white” in this part of the world. “White” is a shorthand for European lineage, none of which any of those ethnicities have. Sure, some Middle Easterners are classified as “Caucasian”, but that is from a different stock. Not Euro. Different features, bloodlines and the like.
South Asians, with the exception of Indo-Europeans, descend from the Dravididan people, which is related to Africa (like any ethnicity, really) many, many years removed.
And “Latino” …not a race. And most “Latinos” would NEVER classify as white except many Argentines, Chileans, Urguayans, and Paraguayans.
Just my piece. Good post though.
Thu 26 Jun 2008 at 02:41:31
Who is “white” is another post, but I know what you mean.
Thu 26 Jun 2008 at 17:06:17
I don’t like the eyes and look that sista is giving me. I see that on the street and next thing I know I’m walking into a damn pole. Which is worse when I’m with my friends and they just wait for me to walk into it. >:(
Sat 28 Jun 2008 at 03:49:25
I always found almond shaped eyes to be more attractive. But almond shaped eyes are found in most non-whites, it’s not only black women with almond eyes. I’ve seen some white American or European women with almond eyes and they were gorgeous.
It depends on how you interpret the different shaped eyes. Almond eyes especially on a black woman are intense, beautiful, and downright seductive.
But white women have very pretty eyes also. They are round, large, and bright. They seem happy and sweet. *Plus, they come in colors.*
I wouldn’t say that black women’s eyes are evil. And I wouldn’t say that white womens’ eyes are soulless. They are both beautiful in their own way, although I do prefer almond shaped eyes. Just a personal preference.
Sun 29 Jun 2008 at 03:59:11
Wow, very interesting comment! Some of it I am still thinking about.
Almond-shaped and seductive appeals to me way more than round, large and bright. Maybe that is what made me say that white women’s eyes seem like doll eyes.
Tue 1 Jul 2008 at 09:43:26
God bless all.
I must agree… because I feel the same way plus my hair stands up all over my body when I look at those eyes…It is the reality, if you’re real.
Peace
Wed 2 Jul 2008 at 05:35:24
Dark brown eyes are deep, soulful….. love it
Sat 5 Jul 2008 at 01:22:49
abagond I feel bad for your wife, you remind me of that bitter white man with that blog “white women suck” whose married to a woman of color (not black) but she’s mixed I believe, It’s like you’re with a black woman simply in spite of white women, why can’t you date or marry a black woman without comparing us to white women? white women are just as beautiful as any other race of women, why even when a white man likes BW he has to compare them to his own women? why can’t you just like the person and the race not be a factor at all?
It’s shameful so many BW are so damn stupid they can’t even see this. You are with a black woman in spite of a white woman, race played a factor in your marrying her and her race is probably the only reason you stick around, much like the guys with an asian fetish, sure it may take a few years to see such a fetish but it will come out soon enough.
Sat 5 Jul 2008 at 20:47:35
I hardly think that white women suck:
http://abagond.wordpress.com/2007/06/09/the-ten-most-beautiful-women-in-the-world/
Wed 9 Jul 2008 at 20:31:56
i am a black women with those eyes your discussing from a youngster my dad would say where did you get those beautiful eyes from to this day men tell me i have beautiful(not the color) eyes well i finally met someone that i could say that about it was love at first sight for me anyway the moment my eyes met his i was smitten i just wish he felt the same his eyes are a lovely shade of brown but forget the color it’s the mystery that lays behind them and the depth of i don’t know what all i know is i could look in his eyes for a lifetime oh and as for white women maybe their eyes haven’t felt or seen what black women have that’s why it’s empty they have nothing to feel.
Thu 10 Jul 2008 at 13:11:38
Kimberly, I agree, I think part of the difference does go to what black women have felt and seen.
Thu 7 Aug 2008 at 06:39:30
I do hope you know that everything you have typed is simply refering to your taste in women, and nothing more significant. Your tone is so serious, but you are only talking about taste. Taste in physical beauty is something fickle, something that is influenced subconciously by many different factors in our lives, and–most of all–something superficial. Sorry, it has nothing to do with the soul.
If you look at most white people and have an initial reaction of looking at someone with no soul, then you should work hard to change that reaction within yourself–no matter how instinctual it is. I would be ashamed if I felt that way about anyone’s eyes.
What you said in ten paragraphs could have been said in one sentence: “I think black women have hotter eyes than white women.” I can’t find any more meaning in anything you wrote than that. Perhaps if you just said that, I would have thought you more childish, but I would have thought you a better person.
It appears to me that you place a lot of stock in looks, which is depressing to me. But I will admit it seems to be the norm.
–Lindsey.
PS: The end of Kimberly’s comment absolutely disgusts me.
Thu 7 Aug 2008 at 16:52:08
No, I said way more than that, but that was the part you could accept.
I am not saying white women do not have hearts or souls. I know they do:
http://abagond.wordpress.com/2008/04/18/the-hearts-of-white-people/
And I know full well that women are more than just their looks:
http://abagond.wordpress.com/2006/07/10/woman/
But I am a man so a woman’s beauty has a certain effect on me. This is not the blog of a eunuch.
Maybe I do have certain hang-ups, like you said, but I honestly think there is more to it than just that. From what I can tell white women in the 1950s were not like this, so whatever it is, it goes beyond my own hang-ups.
Wed 13 Aug 2008 at 01:28:50
I cannot tell you our secret; it is something that most Black women are aware of
but only the ones who are Queens know how to use it.(Most of us)..I have been told that I look like I am high all the time,or I look like I can hypnotize someone with my eyes…..BS…..some guy trying to get some ….
That is why Black womens’ eyes are so powerful…..it is because we KNOW, instinctively. Dream on…..we loves you, and anyway……
Thu 14 Aug 2008 at 12:32:26
we loves you too.
Wed 24 Sep 2008 at 09:13:57
God I think it’s funny how you stumlbe on what you think about all the time.
I love color. don’t get me wrong every being on this earth is beautiful but I am more attracted to color women than White. Like the photo of the woman above on this site is absolutely perfect.
Black, Brown, Indian, Native American, Asian, Italian, Spanish, Egyptian,OH GOD just say someting sexy to me in another language and I’m puddy! and I tell you right now if I even walk down the street and I see someone with green or blue skin I will be the first to date you LOL just because your different.
I don’t care and the reason why I don’t care is because I’m sick and tired of people who do care. You know what screw how you feel and how you grew up in your family, your missin out big time. You know? You get older and you learn about the world and who is on it, that makes you feel good right?? open yourself up! I mean you will always win someone and lose someone. If your always I hate! blah blah blah! all the time well then that’s all you will ever have. sorry that’s the truth.
listen to this. My mother has this picture frame and on the box that it came in it says “it is estimated that there are 6,554,526,725 PEOPLE 193 countries + 6000 languages ON EARTH! but only 1 human race…share something BEAUTIFUL”…now if you can’t find someone who is right for you………
Sat 4 Oct 2008 at 19:32:05
God Bless everyone…
Black Women are just untouchable,it’s not even fair for other women and can’t be compared to any other…Other women front lkike they don’t know but women know within them that the sistas are just so perfect…Their default is at a higher level of beauty. In America, I know a lot of the sistas think of their self low…some don’t, but the reality is that they are at the top by far…Other women are very nice aswell but the truth will always hurt them other women…No offence to any other women…You are all beautiful.
I think the most beautiful women(dark complexion) can be from anywhere…
Peace
Sun 5 Oct 2008 at 22:02:53
I agree. All sorts of women are beautiful, but black women are a cut above in general.
Mon 10 Nov 2008 at 01:53:18
I’m sure she won’t sway you,
but I’ve always been felled by Claire Forlani
http://my-autographs.de/forlani.htm
Something else I thought you might find amusing is
http://www.morphthing.com
Its a pretty simple program, but sometimes the results are astounding.
m
Thu 13 Nov 2008 at 06:15:26
Yes, Claire Forlani is beautiful, but nothing can compare to morphthing! I love it!
Fri 5 Dec 2008 at 22:52:13
I think what youa re discussing is a cultural training.
You ever look at a black women and have her not look back? I know i havent…they are taught to be strong and proud. The black community is more social and interactive.
Now go to the white suburb where you dont even know your neighbors names. If you walk down the street you look away – not at someone.
White women are taught to not stare, not meat a persons gaze – its rude or uncomfortable to them.
I make a point when walking down the street to smile at everyone and to meet everyons gaze direclty in the eyes. Black people or Latin people and men (not women) from middle eastern countries will meet my gaze and smile back. White people (men and women) react uncomfortable to the intrusion of a stranger to their world. I dont know why white culture stopped being friendly – or when…but I find it disturbing that no one smiles and says hello when they walk down the street. It bothers me deeply.
Most people would say my eyes and smile are one of my best attributes – Warm and Real. Genuine…
I think what you are seeing as a lack of depth is because they are taught to guard themselves and jot engage in the eyes. Real feelings and emotions are hidden in the guise of being politie. They dont show anger, happiness or joy – its all about a polished slick yuppiness. I hate it and refuse to act that way.
Sat 6 Dec 2008 at 13:46:53
Excellent comment!
It also explains what I noticed about white women at the end of this post:
http://abagond.wordpress.com/2007/06/19/white-women/
Sat 6 Dec 2008 at 18:28:49
Talked to my mom -she thinks this came about with the victorian era – In the “Wild West” you looked a person in the eye and were real and genuine.
Thu 18 Dec 2008 at 05:43:31
That could be because white women don’t have a history of struggles and hardships. Therefore, their eyes do not “tell a story” as some people phrase it.
Wed 31 Dec 2008 at 18:20:47
You can not say white women have not had struggles and hardships. Thats ridiculous. There is more to struggles and harships then those defined by the color of your skin. Not to negate those but. My scottish ancestors used to bury their women alive with their husbands when the husband died. They were property that was taken with the man. My grandmother was placed in an orphanage during the depression along with all her sisters becuase their father couldnt feed them. she was then adopted by a french women who was raped and brutilized by nazi soilders prior to escaping to the usa.
blue eyes lack depth – its a color issue. A pool of water, the deeper it goes the darker it gets. There for our minds convince use that blue eyes – which by their nature reflect light – are shallow and dark eyes – by their nature absorb light – are deep. Its a light trick that our mind associates with other things that it has seen and in no one has anything to do with the life experiences of the person…other than the cultural one I mention above (taugt to not look in the eyes etc).
Tue 13 Jan 2009 at 15:21:43
Davida, I like your comments above.
Very insightful and wide in perspective…
~
Wed 25 Mar 2009 at 10:43:53
these days most white actresses in Hollywood either have this empty look in their eyes
you did say Hollywood – maybe it’s the drugs that make the look that way?
Fri 1 May 2009 at 08:26:29
LOL. My GREAT grandmother was very old when I was born and I’m not sure if she even knew my name but she used to only call me “bright eyes”
People even now tell me that I have “happy eyes” and others have told me I have “bedroom eyes”, (not sure what that means exactly) it just seems like my eyes have always stood out to a lot of people my whole life! the other day I was talking to this guy at school and I looked at him and he was like “da*n!” lol. I think its funny, but I actually always hear people talking about black women’s eyes. Black women are very much looked over in society, people say BW are ugly and mean and this and that and act like we can’t have anything good about ourselves! I think we are a frustrated group to a certain extent and it shows more than other women in our eyes (my opinion) and because we have never really had much of a voice that people don’t take as b***h.
BUT I think this might be the reason, even though many white people jumped aboard to say white women are this or that what you said was racist (even though they prob wouldn’t care if someone turned it and said BW were ’soulless’) I DO think it is because white women are expected to look ‘good’ and are held to a completely superficial standard, therefore for many of them their beauty can completely lack any real depth, it can only come as far as blonde hair and blue eyes and nothing more. They are ‘trophies’ to a lot of men, they are not poets. In all their history it was more how they looked than who they are as people….. I also grew up in Newport Beach Cali around a bunch of completely cold hearted white women, and many are that way. sorry
Fri 1 May 2009 at 22:47:38
I agree: their beauty seems to lack depth – in general.
Thu 28 May 2009 at 17:39:51
“That could be because white women don’t have a history of struggles and hardships. Therefore, their eyes do not “tell a story” as some people phrase it.”
i am sorry but thats very wrong. a bit of an over top assumption. white women go through struggles too.
Sun 26 Jul 2009 at 13:25:09
“The Eyes Have Soul.” Don’t ya think?
Can you image this face in pain, joy, fear, but look at the eyes, the eye have soul?
“The smartest minds are facing you every day in the mirror!”
The eyes see, even if they don’t record it in to memory; the eyes have soul. This challenge, I propose for you, can take years, or it can be in a flash. It just takes your willingness to see into the soul of the eyes. Is that why so many people will not look you in the eyes, they don’t want to see their soul, and what it represents?
Here is what you could do, when you look in the mirror, next time.
Really look into your own eyes
Note how they appear to you
Do you really know what color they are?
How reflective are they to your soul?
Note the state of the pupils of your eyes at different stages
Here is another observation you can do:
Look into a baby’s eyes
Look at the ways their eyes reflect you
How do those eyes communicate back to you?
Observations on other ages of children:
Note the wonder in them
Can you see what they are thinking about?
Can you see what we do, as interactions with them, what changes it makes in their eyes?
Now, find another adult that will let you look into their eyes. This one may take some convincing on your part, to let them even see their eyes. Do those same observations from above, and see what differences or similarities there are. If people don’t want to hide what they are about, they will let you be the observer. If they want you to see that child they have in them, however, mischievous they are, look and learn. Your confidence, or lack of it, will tell if you can really see what that other person is about. How do others fake us out with the look they give us? Can you see through the exterior, into the eyes of the soul?
http://neotech.ning.com/profiles/blogs/the-eyes-have-soul
Sun 8 Nov 2009 at 22:14:27
Why can’t there be one positive post about Black women with out someone trying to discredit or disagree. If this where praising white/latina/asian, women i doubt half these people here would disagree.
Whenever a black women gets some praise someone always has to mention another race to discredit black women. I find that offensive, maybe im to sensitive but i really think about things in depth.
@abagond what is your obsession with white girls??? Does your black wife know about this.
Sun 8 Nov 2009 at 22:25:09
LOL. You are the first person who has ever said that about me – that I have an obsession with white girls. I think if you read more of my blog you will see how groundless that idea is.
Sun 8 Nov 2009 at 22:39:49
Perhaps I’m sticking my nose where it doesn’t belong, but MzMee, you’re way off base about abagond. He has clearly stated in many of his threads, he prefers BW.
Mon 9 Nov 2009 at 00:46:03
@leigh204
Please mind your own business. Unless you are a black women you will NEVER understand.
And don’t respond to any of my post NOR follow my posts on here. Thanks!!!!
Mon 9 Nov 2009 at 00:53:31
Leigh is allowed to comment on any post or comment she feels like, just as you are. Please do not tell my commenters what to do. This is my blog, not yours.
Mon 9 Nov 2009 at 00:53:34
I may not be a BW, but at least I TRY to understand, better yet, empathize with BW.
Another thing, I can say whatever and go wherever I please. Thanks!!!
Mon 9 Nov 2009 at 04:39:31
@ leigh204
You do not care about black women, nor do they need you to empathize with them. (Why do you think you need to empathize with them???????)
Thanks!!!!!
Mon 9 Nov 2009 at 08:11:57
@MzMee
You are a sh*tsturring troll! No cares about your opinions!
Mon 9 Nov 2009 at 13:09:47
@MzMee
What you just said was unfair at the least. You don’t know her story and to whom she is close. You just come off as being really angry and bitter.
Mon 9 Nov 2009 at 14:08:02
Leigh’s insights and opionions on this blog have been quite appreciated. She is a welcome person on this blog MzMee. And also, what makes you think this is a “black blog”? Do you know for sure Abagond is black? What would your opinion of the blog be if you were to find out that Abagond was white? Would you leave to just read the other black blogs out there?
Tue 10 Nov 2009 at 05:25:16
@MzMee:
@ leigh204
You do not care about black women, nor do they need you to empathize with them. (Why do you think you need to empathize with them???????)
Thanks!!!!!
Wow, aren’t you grasping at straws? I guess you’ve taken it upon yourself to be the spokeperson for all BW, huh? Yes, I do care about BW, and I empathize with BW. What’s it to you? In fact, I empathize with all people of color. Why? Because I AM one. And I know what it’s like to have people be racist towards you.
Everyone has experienced some form of racism to varying degrees. This site is a great place for like-minded people to discuss their experiences and connect with others while learning something in the process. And if I choose to come to this site or any other site, it’s MY business not yours.
Gen Says:
@MzMee
What you just said was unfair at the least. You don’t know her story and to whom she is close. You just come off as being really angry and bitter.
AO Says:
Leigh’s insights and opionions on this blog have been quite appreciated. She is a welcome person on this blog MzMee. And also, what makes you think this is a “black blog”? Do you know for sure Abagond is black? What would your opinion of the blog be if you were to find out that Abagond was white? Would you leave to just read the other black blogs out there?
@Gen & AO:
Thank you ladies for your support.
Tue 10 Nov 2009 at 06:13:36
@mzmee:
You don’t get it do you? Instead of fighting white supremacy, you choose to attack another racialized person. You are only playing into the hands of the powers that be. Most, if not all racialized people, have been subjected to racism in one form or another, some more than others. Hence, it is understandable that Leigh would have empathy for other racialized people. There is a racial hierarchy present in today’s society which is a causal effect of racism. The old ‘divide and conquer’ ploy is at work. Sure, everyone’s experiences are different but there is a commonality amongst racialized people when being subjected to racism and all its’ ensuing evil. Instead of fighting among ourelves, we should be banding together to alleviate the adverse effects of racism. That old saying”There’s safety in numbers” is true. Leigh is a kind heated and respectful person and does not warrant the remarks you have offered her.
Tue 10 Nov 2009 at 07:56:22
@Herneith, leigh204, Gen & AO
Forget MzMee she or he is a troll. Nothing more!
Tue 10 Nov 2009 at 10:30:17
Some people do come here with the worst of motives and bash blacks, but Leigh is hardly one of them.
Wed 11 Nov 2009 at 00:00:35
@Herneith, Vindicator, and abagond:
Aww, you guys are awesome!